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TTC after a Miscarriage - A Fresh New Start

831 replies

Diddle · 04/07/2005 18:09

Here we go, another new thread for us to fill with our highs and lows.

Lets start off with a good dusting of babydust, think all the rest we had has washed off in the rain

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maddyd · 25/07/2005 18:36

Sorry Cori, still time though. I usually give up though if i havnt had a pos 4 days before af due. I get really despondant. Those digital ones are horrible. Big bold lettes saying NOT PREGNANT

cori · 25/07/2005 18:27

Well I tested, BFN as expected.
Wonder how long this will take.
AM going back to acupuncture this month, and back to detox diet too.

spub · 25/07/2005 18:17

Bloody hell,

Sorry that this isn't a great time for several posters here
We need some happy news on here soon! Maybe even non-baby related happy news would do. We need cheering up en masse!!!

cori · 25/07/2005 16:21

Choclatepeanut.
I am feeling for you today too. I have been a bit weepy today myself. I should have been starting my Maternity leave this week. I had planned to enjoy the rest of the summer lazing around in my garden. but insted am stuck here.

AF is due on Friday. Am pretty convinced it will be BFN despite a couple symptoms. I have some early tests at home, might just test anyway and get it over and done with.

strike1 · 25/07/2005 16:02

Feeling v tired myself today. And have every symptom under the sun (in my head probably)I must find more to do to keep my mind off it all. Quiet work day today, so have been surfing baby sites to get possible due dates (around 12 April) It can't be healthy you know! It seems silly to get all worked up when it's only the first month of trying since mc, but I so want to get back to that point of excitment where I left off. I hope one of us gets a bfp soon, I think we all need the encouragement. Here's some Baby dust to keep us all going.

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maddyd · 25/07/2005 13:33

Just woke up after crashing out on the sofa for an hour. Never do that unless pg, heres hoping. 9 days till af. I hate this wait. I even wasted a digital test this morning.

Was gardening all weekend in the rain so am exhasted, thats why i fell asleep, probably. Hope evryone is well. xxxxx

spub · 25/07/2005 13:20

WC- I know what you mean about that song. Think you can blub to it in all sorts of contexts.

If my dd comes home heartbroken when she's older I'll be straight out of the door to break the offender's legs!! (and I'll sing that song whilst I'm committing assault.....)
I wondered if Chris Martin had written the song for Gwyneth Paltrow when her father died?

At work and soooooo can't be arsed.

wishingchair · 25/07/2005 13:08

Hi all - been away a week or so and in that time af arrived. 4 days early so at least that stopped me obsessing ... had funny taste in mouth, so dizzy, nauseous, achey back and 2 nosebleeds. All of which I'd convinced myself were pg symptoms, but were in fact af symptoms. Ah well - was only the first month.

chocolatepeanut - thinking about you x

And spub - yes I always cry at Fix You. But I think of it more like a song I could sing to my dd rather than the baby I lost ... I kind of relate it to the fact she's growing up and at some point she'll have to face situations that break her heart, but knowing she can always come home and I'll try to make her better. Making me sniffle right now. What's wrong with me? Not even got pregnancy to blame

madness · 25/07/2005 11:42

AF has turned up here as well. Doesn't help when dh takes more interest in watching tv than bd...And when I made a comment about him missing out on paternity leave this year he replied, o don't go on about that again...
Feel like crying but according to ds mums don't cry!!

strike1 · 25/07/2005 11:21

I know, I promised myself, as this was the first month since the mc I would get obsessed, but I can't help it!!

Hellkat how's the non smoking going today?

spub · 25/07/2005 10:55

OOh, Strike. Thursday, eh? Here's hoping for a BFP!
My next period is due on Aug 3rd - 9 days to go...
It's always lurking, isn't it? Am I pregnant? Is this the month? Will this be the month?
AAAARGhhhh!!

strike1 · 25/07/2005 10:01

Morning,

Glad your bbq was ok Spub, had a bit of rain at the one I went to but nothing serious. I'm just about to get the Clodplay cd so I'll look out for that song. There's one on the Jem album called Missing You that I relate to my mc. I think it's good to have a blub and remember every once in a while.

Woke up on Saturday with achy (sp?) teeth and remembered having funny teeth right at the beginning of my last pg. So fingers crossed I don't need the dentist just a midwive! Boobs feel a bit more tender today to. Can't even think about testing, even with an early one, till Thursday though How are the rest of you doing with the waiting game? And AF seems to be making mass visits, maybe some of us are falling into sync

HellKat · 25/07/2005 07:47

Morning all!
Spub- Haven't heard it. Will d/load that song though and have a listen. Fingers crossed, we'll all be very pg, very round and having bizarre cravings soon!

spub · 24/07/2005 22:25

ChocolatePeanut,
God love you. I am so sad for you for today and think that your way of looking at it re no longer counting the weeks as if you were still pregnant is really strong and if it's not the wrong word, positive.
I don't know if any of you have the new "Coldplay" album but there's a song on there called, "Fix you" that seems very appropriate for someone who's had a miscarriage. I had the cd in the car driving to work last week and was having a right old blub - something I've not done that much, tbh.
Anyone else heard the song and know what I mean?

Don't mean to post a downbeat message - actually had a lovely weekend and the barbie was great today. My friend is having her twins delivered by section on Tues and I am soooo excited for her.
It will be our turn soon, lovelies!
TTFN

HellKat · 24/07/2005 18:27

Have a great night all and take care xxxxxx

HellKat · 24/07/2005 18:19

Lol Pet!!!

petunia · 24/07/2005 18:07

DH went to see mine (his parents) last week!!
Escaped that visit.

HellKat · 24/07/2005 18:02

Maddy, HC- Lol ner ner ner ner ner!!!!! Have fun!!

maddyd · 24/07/2005 17:01

So has mine AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

HumphreysCorner · 24/07/2005 16:54

MIL has turned up. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

HellKat · 24/07/2005 12:02

HC- Awww months without her!!!! Bliss!
Going to be a lazy mare and go back to bed for a bit. still feel wiped out!
great idea about remembering what stage we were at HC!

HumphreysCorner · 24/07/2005 11:44

Morning ladies

HellKat-I really feel for you. My AF is slowing down now so I'm hoping that it won't be as heavy as I thought it would be. Just imagine 9 months without the cow. ((xx))

I think we should all have a drink to remember what stage we would be up to. I myself would be 20 weeks on Tuesday and would be having the scan and finding out what the sex was. After AF has sodded off I am going to cut down on the Blossom Hill and bad foods just incase a miracle happens. Having said that though, before getting PG with DD I didn't cut anything out (couldn't have gone 12 months without wine and dips) but last time I didn't drink at all and had a MC. It seems to me that it doesn't matter too much. My friend (with 2.5 weeks to go) didn't have a drink for 10 months before so is gagging for a G&T-bless.

Off to do some veg for tea and the dreaded ironing so catch y'all later.

((xx))

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HellKat · 24/07/2005 11:08

P.s
Balls to Endo!

HellKat · 24/07/2005 11:07

Thankyou Pet. so true!! If men ever had periods, gave birth etc, that would be the end of the human race!!
You're right. Dates are the worst. My due date would've been 5th November so a little while to go!
CP- Just think, tomorrow is a fresh start!!
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HellKat · 24/07/2005 11:02

Same beliefs here to.
That's lovely you've got her own little box. One day it'll get easier to look through. Lovely idea about her ashes.
I know the feeling regarding a toddler! You don't get time to dwell on things (ds2 is nearly 16 mths) but it does help to take your mind off of things.
Think you deserve a nice glass of something later on! .