The continuing adventures of The First Time Frolickers!!!!

I guess - TTC#1 Cycle1 UCL 30(?)CD 18

I think thats it!

Kaloki I hope things settle down for you. It might be worth going to GP anyway and see what they say?

Welcome HypotheticalMummy! Congratulations on starting TTC! If you give us your details we can put you on the list, you can see if you have any 'cycle buddies' or folk who are on the same cycle length and cycle day as you

If you like, it's:

TTC#1 Cycle (how many months have you been TTC to date) UCL (usual cycle length) and CD (cycle day - how many days since the first day of your period, or AF as it's usually known here)

Lots of luck!

Don't know what my body is doing right now, DP wants me to go see the GP today, but I doubt they can do anything.

Going to have to change mine again, 9 days after the last time

TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL ? CD1

Hello all! I'm new to mn and new to ttc!

oops didn't see you there muser! sorry!!

Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD95
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD73
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD57
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL34 CD50
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL26/7 CD40
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-49 CD30
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 13 UCL 30 CD27
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD24
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD20
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD20
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 25-26 CD18
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD18
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD16
vix206 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 27 CD15
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD14
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD12
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD10
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD9
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD8
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-32 CD6
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD6
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD6
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL29-31 CD3
Eleanora TTC #1 Cycle 1 UCL 33(?) CD3
Muser TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL30 CD2
Confuseddoiordonti TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 27-28
CD?

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
Sevans BFP 15 Nov
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov

morning all - didn't sleep well last night. DH is very stressed at work and with some family issues (not our marriage, his own family thank goodness) but i keep worrying it will affect our TTC this month and with christmas coming up.... just all getting a bit stressed! so decided to take a duvet day and i'm going to go see new moon and start the xmas shopping. is that really bad?!? luckily we have a little weekend away planned in the cotswolds this weekend and i'm hoping it will be at the start of my fertile time. think i might be hitting ann summers today too

sorry to hear about AFs but bring on the BD!!!

Monday's list:
Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD95
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD73
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD57
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL34 CD50
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL26/7 CD40
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-49 CD30
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 13 UCL 30 CD27
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD24
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD20
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD20
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 25-26 CD18
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD18
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD16
vix206 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 27 CD15
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD14
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD12
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD10
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD9
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD8
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-32 CD6
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD6
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD6
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL29-31 CD3
Eleanora TTC #1 Cycle 1 UCL 33(?) CD3
Confuseddoiordonti TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 27-28
CD?

Muser TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL30 CD1

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
Sevans BFP 15 Nov
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov

Thanks everyone. I'm kind of ok really. I was very disappointed but it'll happen. And I'd feel stupid being really upset in cycle 2 when I know some people have been waiting far longer. So I'm just going to pick up and start again. There's going to be a lot more sex next month though. Oh yes.

Muser sorry AF got you...it's pants I know. Just make sure you enjoy your christmas becuase it wont be long ok!

Whiteroses and Claire and Yorkshire am now in the same nervy state as you 3 imagine, having probably ov'd middle of last week... I went through about 4 packs of clear blue last month so determined not to make that mistake again. I was so disappointed though as I had spotting 8 days after EWCM and so thought bingo in month 1!! Alas, was not to be. Slightly more circumspect this month I guess.

Very sympathetic on the employment front - my personal view is that you can't put your personal life on hold for work purposes. It feels wrong but ultimately if you really plan to come back then it doesn't matter. The brutal reality is that business will always come first so you need to look after you own interests...

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the welcomes! WhiteRoses - it's a difficult one but I would be tempted to go for both the promotion and the TTC and see what happens. I don't think that there's ever a really convenient time, workwise, to TTC. You don't need to tell your colleagues though! I made the mistake of mentioning to my boss at the start of the year that we might be planning a family next year (can't remember why I thought this was a good idea). He looked embarrassed and said something about me being too young (I'm 30!) and said how he was over 40 when his daughter was born. It has not been brought up again (thank goodness)...

Thanks Yorkshire makes sense! I kind of knew it was ok but just asked to check LOL!

Calyx my understanding is that nowt can get dislodged by having a few extra swimmers floating past, so get on with it! Not all D-ing needs to be BD-ing IYSWIM? In fact the fertility book that I am reading at the moment reccommends that you make sure you do it at off-peak times as well, just so that sex doesn't become solely about making babies.

We do it less often during the TWW, but when we do it tends to be more fun, cos there's less pressure .

Dammit cross posted! for you but I'm keeping these fingers crossed for Wednesday for you. No AF = still possible! xx

Yorkshire lol@prodding boobs until they're sore! But gosh... sore boobs, crampy abdomen, not due AF for a week... I'm optomistic too!... did you test yet? Good luck xx

WhiteRoses, accept the promotion and (if possible) take a short break from TTC. I advocate the short break only a a sop to your conscience and to ensure that you do manage more than two weeks in the new job, not because I think its in any way neccessary . If you have a higher salary, then you'll probably have a bit more income during your maternity leave and have a higher proportion of earnings if you decided to go back p/t after mat leave.

The companay will have to replace you when you leave your current job - the administrative overhead fr them is practically the same whichever job you are in. You would go through the same pregnancy risk assessment whichever job you are doing, its just that the outcome would be different in the new job.

When you do get you BFs, you'll be thankful for every bit of spare cash you have in order lavish your PFB with everything s/he needs and will not be at all concerned about the fact that you might have caused a mild administrative headache for the company you work for.

Are you feeling convinced yet? I think your scruples are honest and good, but you don't need to have them. You are preparing to start a family - family needs have to come before the company's.

Re my interesting aches - they are still there, although a bit milder than yesterday. I tested this morning and got the expected BFN. I'll try and hold off till Wednesday, which is when AF is due. I am starting to think its probably just slow-burning PMT . I have a busy week at work coming up, so going to try and focus on work and not think about it too much.

Trying4Baby1 hello it's nice to meet you! You'll need to come back on and tell us how your scan went please

WhiteRoses hmmmm long cycle or.... little bean about to stick?! Fingers crossed here for you. That would mean you didn't have to worry about whether to continue TTC or not Seriously though, I'm with your husband and Yorkshireteadrinker and kkas in thinking it's best to carry on TTC as it could be a few months anyway and if you did stop trying for a few months would you not be kicking yourself if it took ages after you'd held off for months... (does that make sense?! I know what I mean anyway!) Congratulations on the promotion though!

I was going to come on and ask about the 2WW and BD... this is probably a stoopid question... once your temps have risen after ov, do you halt everything until after the 2WW or continue to BD anyway? We are continuing this month but last month I stopped play as I didn't know whether it could 'dislodge' anything (I feel so silly saying it!) But DH got a JOB this weekend (full time! 40 hours a week over 4 days - he's a chef - so still get to see him 3 days a week! And he loves the restaurant, honest scottish cooking and only 50 seats in the restaurant...so no grumping for hours and hours after he gets home at midnight about how terribly busy it was (last place he worked had 200 seats in the restaurant). I'm sooooo happy!) and I wasn't going to put him off when he's in such a good mood. What do you girls do after your temp rises? Sorry if that is a daft question!

Muser awwwww bum about AF arriving, agree with Whiteroses it will be nice to have a wee glass of wine/champers/voddy or whatever over christmastime if you like a tipple though? A whole new cycle awaits (I say that to myself a lot, for some reason it helps a tiny bit!)

I'm off to get tidied up, my sis is coming over with my gorgeous niece. Hope everyone's weekend is going well xx

AF arrived a week early and with a vengeance this morning. I've updated today's stats putting me back at CD1. No Christmas baby announcements for me.

Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD94
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD72
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD56
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL34 CD49
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL26/7 CD39
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-49 CD29
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 13 UCL 30 CD26
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD23
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD19
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD19
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 25-26 CD17
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD17
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD15
vix206 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 27 CD14
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD13
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD11
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD9
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD8
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD7
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-32 CD5
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD5
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD5
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL29-31 CD2
Eleanora TTC #1 Cycle 1 UCL 33(?) CD2
Confuseddoiordonti TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 27-28
CD?

Muser TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL30 CD1

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
Sevans BFP 15 Nov
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov

morning all

whiteroses sorry i don't really know what the right answer is either. i agree with yorkshire that if it really bothers you, perhaps give it a break for 2-3 months. that way there was no risk of falling pg straight away. but then again, i know how difficult it would be to take a break from TTC once you have made up your mind that you want a baby. i think if it were me, i would probs just take the promotion and carry on TTC. you never know when you're going to fall pg and it could take awhile anyway. plus i agree with your dh that you don't owe your company anything and they know there is always a risk you might be pg and they have likely factored that into their offer. just be honoured that they really value in despite that risk! anyway - lots to say for not knowing the answer! lol

yorkshire am keeping my fingers crossed for you!

eleanora love the name! so beautiful. and welcome aboard

Sunday's list:
Sky27 TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL 24? CD94
chico193 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL36 CD72
Stellybelly TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL? CD56
Hamsterlover TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL34 CD49
CJ2007 TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL26/7 CD39
WhiteRoses TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL23-49 CD29
YorkshireTeaDrinker TTC#1 Cycle 13 UCL 30 CD26
Muser TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL30 CD24
honeymoo TTC#1 cycle2 UCL? CD23
aly323 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-? CD19
addie81 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 27 CD19
Calyx TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL 25-26 CD17
bunnygirl80 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 29 CD17
chalky3 TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL40 CD15
vix206 TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 27 CD14
Ozziegirly TTC#1 cycle UCL 27 CD13
blueberry noo TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 31-32 CD11
pixiestix TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD9
Kaloki TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL ? CD8
Zippys TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL34 CD7
Homebound TTC#1 cycle 4 UCL 30-32 CD5
NovemberAli TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL 30-34 CD5
kkas TTC#1 Cycle 5 UCL?? CD5
claireinthecommunity TTC#1 cycle 7 UCL29-31 CD2
Eleanora TTC #1 Cycle 1 UCL 33(?) CD2
Confuseddoiordonti TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 27-28
CD?

Graduates:
Trying4Baby1 BFP 21Aug
Kaystar BFP 27Aug
Pepperonipizza BFP 12Sep
Fulhamgirl BFP 18Sep
Ladyemmalou83 BFP 13Oct
bluesnowfalcon BFP 14 Oct
Spirael BFP 7 Nov
Curlycasper BFP 11 Nov
TishTosh21 BFP ???
Sevans BFP 15 Nov
EmsieRo BFP 16 Nov

WhiteRoses, I've been in a similar dilema. We've been TTC since last September and at the time I was in a job I loved and had been doing for a while. However, there was a reorganisation and our service was moved into another parent organisation in April, which mean my head office moved 100 miles away, so for that, and a few other reasons (the transfer was not an altogether happy one) I started looking for a new job and started my current job in August. From a legal point of view I'm ok, I've moved from one NHS organisation to another, so my maternity leave entitlement remains, but I would feel very bad about going off on mat leave after less than a year in the role.

When I started my new job I suggested to DH that we should stop TTC but DH came up with similar arguments to yours and also the fact that we've been at it for ages and nowts happened yet does make me think we could be a while yet. So I have decided to carry on TTC. I don't think you should plan your career on the possibility of conception, you don't know how long it will take. You organise your work around your family when you know that you are going to have a family.

Having said all that - I am slightly concerned that if my persistant abdominal pains do turn out to be an early pregnancy sign and not just long range PMT, then how do I tell my boss of 3 months that I'll be off for a year come the summer?

I think a compromise position might be take the promotion but maybe knock TTC back for the first couple of months of the new job, just so that you don't get pregnant immediately. There after get back to it and see what happens. You might be in the new job for a month or a year, you just can't predict when you are going to fall pregnant, so best not to make too many decisions on that basis.

However, my advice is skewed by the fact that I'm on cycle 13, so I naturally assume BFPs are a long time coming...