Whiteroses, your body sounds to be behaving very oddly. I have of course searched for evidence of intimate itchiness as an early pregnancy sign. This from thione Traditional Chinease Medicine organiastion website, re early pregnancy signs:
"You may have increased vaginal secretions(discharge, leukorrhea) either clear, nonirritating or white, yellow, foamy or itchy."
Perhaps not the most clincially authorative site, but possibly grounds for mild hopefulness?
Eleanora we did take the "lets just see what happens" approach for the first few months. In fact, we didn't make a conscious decision to start TTC, I just ran out of pills and forgot to go back to the docs for more, so DH and I had a quick chat, decided it wouldn't be a disaster if I got pregnant and thereafter let nature take its course. Initially we were Not Preventing Pregnancy rather than TTC. I do think that can keep some of the pressure off initially (especially if you are in it for the long haul, like we seem to be).
However, I do think its important to have enough awareness of your cycle to be sure you are hiting the target at the right time. I was probably a bit too laid back to start with as I wasn't even keeping tabs on my cycle length and we may well have missed a few opportunities, just because I had no real idea when (or indeed if) I was ovulating. Also, now that I've been charting for the past 4 months, I have a fair amount of data to share with the GP tomorrow. Which should help identify any possible problems / prove to the GP we've been doing everything we should.
I think I'd reccommend a phased approach. Start casual and up the monitoring and data colletion if it looks like it might take a while and you might need a more organised approach.
Regarding spousal stage fright kkas, I now take an ignorance is best approach. DH knows roughly when in the month he needs to be alert and ready for action, but I don't tell him exactly when. I have given him a 10 day window when he needs to be ready to leap or be leapt upon and so far it appears to be working. I also accept that every 2 days will be sufficient, so don't put us under too much pressure if either of us are too tired / stressed / lacking amorous intent.
I'm glad the stats were helpful Calx and that my choose your lucky month and start planning approach seems to be one that can work for others. aly323, looks like we'll both be having November babies then!
And whilst I know that we won't be getting our BFP till February, I'd better give it a fighting chance this month anyway. So time to find DH and leap...