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IVF or IUI - can anyone who has made the choice please help.

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DuelingFanjo · 24/11/2009 14:17

I have 'unexplained infertility'.

I know that some people will expect me to go back to the consultant and ask for more tests to determine why I can't have kids but believe me I have been through all that and also 6 months of clomid (one pregnancy- then miscarriage) and I am now at the point where I have to decide what to do next. This is all the clinic are offering. I am having all my blood tests and my DH's sperm test repeated and then we will move on to either I.U.I or I.V.F.

We will have to self-fund this unless my appeal is successful and the prices are in the region of £1000 for IUI and £4000 for IVF.

I don't know what to do as both will be a struggle financially and emotionally.

One is obviously more invasive than the other but also has a higher success rate.

I am 40 next year. Is it better for me to go through all the cost and everything involved with IVF (we can probably only do this onece) or choose IUI which we might be able to do twice?

I have read that IUI is good for couples with unexplained infertility and IVF seems like a big step when I know I can get pregnant all be it with the help of clomid.

Can anyone who has had to make this decision please talk to me? I feel like such a failure and I feel like it'll just be ME going through this as it'll be me who has to have all the stuff done to me.

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QOD · 24/11/2009 15:42

IUI never worked for me, I didn;t get to insemination, 4 attempts..... but I know other people it worked for!
I am "unexplained" and it annoyed me so much that still, no one knows whats "wrong" with me. "They" were only interested in trying to get me pregnant, not to cure any issues.
Lucky for me I now have a 10yr old dd from straight surrogacy!

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DuelingFanjo · 24/11/2009 15:33

Just checked your profile and can see you are the same person

You must be so near to having your twins now. Thank you for taking the time to talk to me about this. I really just need some encouragement from people who have been in a similar situation.

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DuelingFanjo · 24/11/2009 15:31

I was monitored in the first month. Thing is that I was already ovulating anyway so they just scanned me the once. Happened to be the month I got pregnant too but 5 more rounds and I am still not pregnant so I am not sure if it was the clomid which helped me or the fact I had an HSG just before.

I think I remember you LL from a thread I was in when I was pregnant - are you having twins? Was using a different name then but remember you were very kind (As were others) when I miscarried.

I suppose I just have to make a decision and stop faffing around. I am going to a thing at the hospital tomorrow to learn about IUI, not sure if I will get a chance to ask many questions. One minute I think just go for the IUI as that's what I expected to be offered, the next I think maybe we should do IVF because at least that way I know I am having an actual embryo put in me (or maybe 2 or 3) and so maybe the odds are better.

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londonlottie · 24/11/2009 15:24

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DuelingFanjo · 24/11/2009 15:16

Sorry - wasn't meaning to be rude, it's just I have been told before that if it's unexplained then I should ask for more testing.

Have had my AMH levels tested and they were 10.5 which they said wasn't good but ok for my age. I have just given a blood sample and they are doing them again

FSH they are also doing again last time it was 12.2 but that was ages ago.

Can you tell me what those results mean?

I have just been looking at sites abroad, though to be honest I never had my heart in IVF and am really uncertain about if that's the way I want to go. Infact I always said I wouldn't do IVF but now I am faced with a choice it's really hard.

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londonlottie · 24/11/2009 14:57

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