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One-tubers TTC again....

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boodleboot · 14/11/2009 09:38

right then,

DH has decided that after two regular cycles post EP we can try again....was very excited about that prospect until it hit me like a thunderbolt....i only have ONE TUBE NOW....of course i knew this but now i really KNOW this IYSWIM and now feel a peculiar mix of and of course and at the whole situation we find ourselves in....

I want to be positive that it will happen and won't require assisted conception but am really nervous and scared it is going to take forever....or not happen at all....{trying not to think like that....}

calling all one-tubers for a bit of handholding and good old MN support......lets go through it together....

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Appleton · 17/11/2009 13:24

Hello again Boodle. I'm really sorry you've had such a crappy year. Life does like to kick us when we're down sometimes, doesn't it!

We have lots in common other than our one-tubedness - I'm also 31. And it was my left tube that was removed, too!

I had found out I was pregnant 2 weeks before, and had very small amounts of bleeding. I wasn't too concerned, though, as I had the same when I was pregnant with DD. But, I got an early scan just in case and like you I saw the healthy heart beat, thought everything must be fine until the sonographer said quietly "it's ectopic".

This was on 23rd October, and I had to stay in hospital to have surgery that afternoon. DH was working at a new job, so couldn't come to the hospital until after 6pm - by which time I'd had the op. Luckily, I had no threat of rupture - that must have been scary for you both! In fact, I had no pain at all before surgery. The nurses kept asking, and didn't believe I was in no pain.

I have also had a MMC, many years ago (before meeting DH) and found that really devastating. I'm not saying this wasn't, but I think because there was serious surgery to recover from, and the risk of death if I hadn't gone for the scan my emotions are different this time.

I do find myself thinking how cruel it is that for the sake of a few mm everything would have been different - but trying to look to the future instead of dwelling on the past.

I don't really know about any of the TTC stuff, as I got pregnant with DD at the first attempt. I'll give it a few months of trying before I start worrying too much.

Wishing you luck this cycle - I have my fingers crossed for you!

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boodleboot · 15/11/2009 11:57

yay....tambourine and appleton so glad to have some company...looking forward to moaning, erm i mean, chatting with you hee hee....

some history of my one-tubedness is that i had an EP on sept 11th this yr that resulted in an emergency salpingectomy that removed my 7wk bean and left tube....totally heartbreaking. We were so elated when we saw bean on screen with strong heartbeat pulsing away only to be told i was going straight into surgery and could i sign consent etc...

This came after after a MMC at 12wk scan.....all in all a very stressful rollercoaster year of being delighted to be pregnant and gutted to see nowt good at scans....in fact one of my biggest terrors now is the fact that i start sweating at the thought of ever having to go into a scan room EVER AGAIN...

i am 31 and have two beautiful children from my previous marriage...a DD 10 and DS 5. I also have a SDS who is 12 with my DH now. We only got married in Feb so our first year of marriage has been pretty traumatic but has really brought us into a tight little unit...he is quite simply my soulmate. Corny and cheesy but oh so true. Anyhoo desperate to have a child {or two} together and have spent the last couple of months swinging between, never again, can't even go there, we don't need another child, our lives are very full etc to OMG i have to have a baby NOOOOOOWWWWWWW. hormones i guess

TTC - I am a straight down the line 28 day cycle, bang on every time...i have been monitoring my fertility signs {using toni weschlers book - BRILLIANT go get it and read it if you haven't already.....amazingly informative...}and have worked out that i ovulate on day 11-12 and have a sixteen day luteal phase.....how this will all stack up against TTC with only one tube i have no idea....i really really really hope that i fall quickly but don't we all

DH has recovered from my near death {i ruptured on way to surgery...it was horrible for him and terrifying} and i am on day 5 of my cycle. I will aim to BD days 9 and 11 of this cycle if my EWCM has begun...

there we are....intimately aquainted already

tell me all about you and put your stats up.....most definitely welcome if you are WTTC too apple....

Boodleboot: TTC#3 UCL28 CD5

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Appleton · 14/11/2009 23:24

Well, I can join the thread as a fellow one-tuber, but will have to wait a little while before TTC again - I had my surgery 3 weeks ago. Planning to start trying straight after the 2 complete cycles, though. I'm hoping there will be lots of success stories by the time I'm ready to start trying!

I'm finding it scary to think of getting pregnant again - partly cos I don't want anything to happen to my one remaining tube, and also because of all the possible heartache involved. But at the same time, I can't wait to start trying! It's a strange mix of emotions!

Boodle - wishing you all the best. The odds are good that you (and all of us one-tubers) will be able to conceive without too much waiting. Do you have any children? I have one DD who is 18 months today - and suddenly I'm worrying that the age gap is going to be bigger than we wanted. It's crazy, we weren't even supposed to be trying for DC2 until Feb, but after my surgery I really feel we have to get a move on, just in case!

tambourine · 14/11/2009 22:02

hi- can i join you? don't know exackly what you mean by 'trying again' after EP (as in, for first time after, or for another one after) but figure that i can only be good news as am now..just about... trying again after dd who was product of a single but obviously most excellent tube.Have been bf for 16 months now, and dithering and suchlike for quite a few months now about whether to stop because there was no goddamn cotton picking sign of my dearly beloved af,and yet (being of the tubily challenged persuasion) i kept thinking that i should force her to wean so as to try again as soon as possible...to cut a long and frankly bf/af/wtf? story short, finally made reaquaintence with the auld bitch last week, and so am finally considering myself ready and eligible to start again...
so anyway, pleased to meet you, how are you doing

hoops997 · 14/11/2009 21:17

boodle am doing fine....am 20 weeks and I'm sure there are loads of one-tubers out there

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boodleboot · 14/11/2009 20:51

ahh thanks hoops....hope you are doing ok?

don't know where all the one-tubers are? i can't be the only one surely???

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hoops997 · 14/11/2009 10:48

boodle just dropping in to say, I'm glad you decided to start again and wish you all the luck in the world, I have heard some amazing stories of people conceiving with only one tube.....

Good Luck