One-tubers TTC again....

Helloo..
I am a one tuber.. after an ectopic in September 2010
and then i had an early m/c in may 2011..
waiting for AF to arrive xx

Hi All,

So sorry it's been so long since I posted last. I just really wanted to update you with the lovely news that I am 29 weeks pregnant and all seems to be going well!!

We bought a clearblue ovulation test as a last resort in march this year and thought we would give it a go. At least if nothing else it would tell us if I was still ovulationg. Day 14 came and went with no ovulation symbol on the little display and as we neared day 18 and 19 my heart sank-however on day 21 ping-there it was!! After trying on this day and this day alone (we went on holiday the next day and were sharing a bed with our four yr old son) it worked!! Basically for 2 and a half years we had been concentrating our efforts on day 11-19 as the dr had suggested and been completely missing my personal most fertile days!! After initially feeling a bit silly for not trying an ovulation monitor before we were over the moon. Each milestone has been reached tentativelt but finally I feel like we are able to relax and enjoy the remainder of this pregnancy.

I really wanted to post as so many threads seem to tail off and you don't always get the positive sides. Anyway I hope my story can give some of you hope that one day things will happen for you all too. Wishing you lots of luck, love and the all important sticky beans we all long for. BBE. xxx

Aonach - sorry, only just seen this.

What a bloody ordeal. It is an extra dimension to go through it not even having known you were pregnant.

I personally would agree with you giving yourself time before ttc. I needed more time than I thought I would to process everything and basically calm down a bit. But everyone is different and I know others have been keen to crack on. Whatever you feel comfortable with.

We've just started ttc again and it's tough going. Most of the time I have convinced myself that both tubes are damaged for some reason and that it will happen again.

However, I do know that this is irrational and that, statistically, you and I are highly likely to go on to have successful pregnancies. It just feels a bit like Russian roulette at the moment!

Good luck with your recovery, keep posting if it helps.

Hi, Can I join you guys too?

Already reading this thread has been good therapy for me and I thank you all for sharing. You have helped me feel I'm not the only one to have one-tube.

I suffered my first EP two weeks ago and had my right tube removed . I hope you don't mind me 'getting it all out'?

It was very much a shock situation for me and DH. We have a DS who is almost one and still BF. I didn't even know I was pregnant as I had had three recent light periods but assumed all was ok as still BFing. That was until I got severe right sided abdo pain, assuming it was a gastro bug that was going about I persevered with it. As the day progressed the pain became more central and period pain like and then I started to bleed, which I though was strange as I'd had a light period the week before. Again I just put this down to BFing and that I probably wasn't feeding DS enought now and that this was a first 'proper' period.

By the time my husband returned home from work I was in significant pain and could not get comfortable. I settled my DS in bed for the night and tried to get an early night. After an hour on trying to get comfortable I struggled to even get out off bed and had to call my DH to help me. I decided something else must be going on like appendicitis or ovarian cyst so we called nhs24 and my parents incase I need to go and see an emergency GP. NHS24 seemed to take an eternity to call us back and in the meantime I started to vomit and almost passed out so my mum decided to bundle me into their car and take me of to A&E.

A&E thankfully seen me as a priority and put me on IV pain relief and promptly from a urine test determined I was pregnant but that it was likely implanted in the wrong place. I was settled into GYN ward, but a quick scan by a SHO wasn't conclusive.I was observed over the rest of the night and scanned by sonographer first thing which concluded that I had an EP in my right tube. From then I was rushed down to theatre before further rupturing could take place. Luckily the laperoscopic proceedure was sucessful.

I am left now with a complete jumble of emotions. Can I/Do I need to grieve for a pregnancy I didn't know existed? I think I am realising the answer to this already- yes!I have been told I am extremely lucky I presented at A&E but why have I been so unlucky for it too happen in the first place?I have now realsied I want a second baby more than anything now but I am already panicking about been half as fertile. What if I have another EP and I don't know I'm pregnant? I can't bare the thought I could lose the other tube.

I feel desperate to have another baby as soon as I can but have decided to give myself 6 months to heal physically and emotionally before we TTC.

I apologise for this long mumbo jumbo post but it has felt good writing it all down.

Thanks for reading

Gosh I so know how you feel. I had big twinges on my good side (right also) this month and was v worried. But it was all in my head thankfully and period came, no more pains etc.

Take another test. Whether positive or negative and pain persists, get to a GP.

If positive, get to a GP anyway regardless of pain.

If negative but pain stops, keep an eye on it and test again after a couple of days if no period.

It's such a nightmare isn't it?

Hi, I'm new to this but eternally grateful to have found somewhere I can get this stuff off my chest. Hope I'm posting in the right place

Been TTC for the last year or so following an EP a year earlier. I'm on my 2nd cycle of Clomid now and have at various points over last few days had hot flushes, sore nipples, dizzyness all potentially just side effects of the drug. Tested with FR at what should have been 6 days early and got BFN, tried a Boots 4-days early detector test on Mon just to be sure and got another BFN.

You'd think I'd have learned from that but I am very regular and now AF is officially 1 day late. I've now had a slight but an annoying pain nonetheless on the side with my remaining tube all day. So although the realistic part of me knows it's probably just AF gearing up for her arrival, I'm veering between hope that the tests were wrong and fear that they were right and it's gonna be EP all over again.

Sorry to ramble on but just needed to get the thoughts out of my head. Cheers

O & congratulations Boodleboot xx

Hi all, I'm ok had a few down days so I'm having some time off work to just look after myself. I only had 2 days off with my EP and i'm sure that was why it took me so long to get over it physically and emotionally.

I'm starting to think I need to get back in touch with the fertility investigation team...everything was cancelled thinking I'd acheived the GOAL.

My husband is away in the Ukraine at the moment until Spetmeber so I'm really missing him...especially now.

Hairy good luck with the lap and dye you'll have to let me know how you get on as that is something that I was down to have. IVF was something we were considering too...shame its so bloody expensive! Have you heard about the egg sharing scheme? You donate half of your harvested eggs and you get IVF half price...not sure if it is something you would consider but thought I would let you know all the same. xx

Hi BBE so sorry to hear your news.

I'm on the waiting list, so not booked yet. I've had a hycosy (which they say can help) but tube was totally blocked, hopefully the lap and dye will be more stringent and help more! :)

I've had a down few days this week as i'm not pregnant this month, and am going to give it three months after lap - and then think about IVF (so I need to start serious saving now!)

Welcome Ja9ne. I'm sorry to hear about all that you've been through. I also had a MC, discovered at my 12wk scan, after my EP so I understand what you've been through. Good luck with all the tests, fingers crossed you will have reassuring results. The fact that you have already had a successful pg really points in your favour.

It's worth remembering that you can still conceive even if you have no tube on the side you are OV'ing, the other tube 'wafts' over & catches the egg. Appleton is living proof that this can happen!

Anyway, you are very welcome & in great company here!

BBE thinking of you, how are you? x

Hello - can i join please? I am a one-tuber following a ruptured ep 11 months ago.

BBE so sorry to read of your m/c. You are certainly not cold. I had a m/c in March and the relief that i could still conceive and (once things started to go wrong) the relief that it wasn't another ep kind of helped me get through it so i know exactly how you feel.

Still ttc with no luck. It's weird but i regularly forget that i only have one tube and that could be the reason why it's taking so long. I am also 38. I am having the day 2 and day 21 tests too to check out eggs and progesterone levels.

Slowly i am accepting that i may not be able to have any more children and i count myself very lucky to have a beautiful 2 and a half year old dd. I still can't help desperately symptom spotting during the 2ww though!!!!

Thanks to you all for your lovely messages. Appleton your description is spot on!! Russian roulette is exactly what it feels like.

I'm doing ok just feel exhausted all the time I think I'm totally drained by the whole thing. I'm trying to do as Edwina suggests and hold on to the positives that at least this means my remaining tube and ovary work which was a huge concern.

Hairy-when is your lap and dye booked for? That was something I was booked in for that got cancelled due to recent events. I hear and have read a lot of stuff that suggests your chances of falling pregnant are increased afterwards...that was a huge draw for me. So sorry to hear about your ectopic one of the worst experiences of my life but truly...what doesn't kill you can only make you stronger. xx

Oh BBE, I'm so so sorry hun. I MC'd my next pg after my EP too so I know how tough it is.

It's scary enough trying again after EP - Appleton described it perfectly, it feels exactly like russian roulette! I totally get that the relief it was ectopic was your overriding emotion, that is completely understandable. No one ever wants to repeat an EP experience.

So, the positives are: you know your tube is in working order & you now know you CAN get pregnant - both really good things to have going for you.

Sending huge hugs and hope you are ok.
Hold on to those positives hun!
xx

Shit, shit shit.

I'm so sorry BBE.

I do understand exactly what you mean about feeling relieved that at least it wasn't ectopic.

BBE, so sorry to hear that.

I think your reaction is totally normal - after losing a tube it's the remaining one that is the biggest worry. Getting pregnant almost feels like playing Russian roulette, and although going through is miscarriage is never what anyone would want, at least it hasn't affected your chances for the future. So I can totally understand, and I certainly don't think you're emotionally cold!

I'm sure more emotions will come once you've had a bit of time to process it all. But, just keep reminding yourself that the tube is intact (and obviously working).

I hope so much that you're able to sit in that room again one day and have the good news you deserve xxx

Hi guys,

I went to the docs yesterday and she referred me to the EPAS unit for a scan this morning. It was so weird...same place and same faces from my ectopic. Sat in the same room when they confirmed I had had a miscarriage.

I think in my heart of hearts I knew things were going wrong but tried to stay positive for my husband. Obviously the news was sad but in a way I was relieved it wasn't another ectopic...sat in that room I was terrified they were going to say i was in for another 2 weeks of bloodtest limbo before whisking me off for emergency surgery.

I feel a bit shellshocked and I'm a bit ashamed to say I haven't cried. Isn't it strange how different our reactions to things can me. I had a friend who miscarried her first pregnancy and she was literally devastated and didn't get out of bed for a week.

Oh well emotionally cold or not at least I'm still alive and kicking and have my solitary tube still.

Appleton great to hear from you and hear you are doing so well!! I remember those last few weeks well...sleep, and your feet, are a distant memory!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Appleton great to hear you are doing well. Make sure you tell us when he/she arrives & you too Boodle if you are still checking in.

Hairy - of course you can join, all welcome here!

Any further news BBE?

xx

Hello to all newcomers - I found this thread fab when I was in the midst of TTC just after my ectopic. My head was all over the place, and reading that others were in the same boat was really re-assuring.

BBE - fantastic news! I have my fingers firmly crossed for you. The first few weeks are always a nightmare after what we've been through, but once the dreaded 1st trimester is done, it does get much easier and more like a "normal" pregnancy IYKWIM.

I'm now 33 weeks and doing well (apart from hardly being able to walk if I sit for too long at my desk at work!) I don't start maternity leave until 39 weeks, so still a while to go, but I'm enjoying keeping busy. Doesn't leave time for too many negative thoughts!

I hope everyone else is well. Boodle, you must be close to your due date now? How exciting!

I have a blocked right tube ttc number one and booked for laparoscopy and dye . Had an ectopic in April . Can I join? X

Thank you so much guys. I am tentatively excited. I have however started to have some cramping and light spotting so off to the docs tomorrow morning. From what I've read these are fairly common symptoms for early pregnancy but when you've been through what we have it makes you a worrier!!!

You've all been so wonderful and so supportive...my faceless friends who have known exactly what I needed to hear along the way. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that this is a strong and healthy little one as I was beginning to get so desperate.

I'll keep you all updated and let you know how the docs goes tomorrow. xx

omg omg that's great!

Congratulations and I'm keeping EVERYTHING crossed for you to have an uneventful pregnancy.

Aaah it gives me hope.

Oh BBE!!!!! That"s absolutely WONDERFUL!!! I"m absolutely thrilled for you! (Was it the bicycling do you think?!! ) I know how desperate you have been feeling & how much this BFP must mean to you. Isn't that just typical, just as you start investigations!

Keeping my fingers VERY tightly crossed for you hun. Let's just focus on the brilliant-ness of your BFP & not think about the scary stuff for now!

Hurrah, hurrah, hurrah!!!!!!

Hi All,

A big welcome to the newcomers. So sorry for what you have been through but you have (in my opinion) made a great decision in joining this forum. The support and advice you get is second to none. This place keeps me sane!!

I have some BIG news...I did a pregnancy test this morning and it was positive. Today is the day of my missed period but I've been feeling sick for a week now and had sore boobs . So now I'm but also a little and quite a lot scared. We've been trying for 19 months and just started fertility investigations. I'm so excited but really trying to keep a hold on myself as its so early and we all know far too well the risks and pitfalls involved. Help...think I'm going to need a bit of hand holding. x

Absolutley - that's the spirit!! I really hope things sort themselves out for you.

Hiya, I know it's the last thing I need right now. If my DP was abit more sympathetic we would still be together. This sort of thing should bring us closer. It has done the complete opposite. If we can't get through this then we can't get through anything else. Say's it all really. I have had wonderful support from my friends which has helped me through this. I am gutted but I will bounce back up and move on. I will never forget this experience but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger!