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TTC #4 - Join the madness... If you dare!!

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babyblue3 · 15/08/2009 03:05

Ok Ladies... new thread, since the old one was getting too long and dragging my computer (and Kat's) down with it!

MrsD - cant believe you are 30 weeks already! So you found that cutting out the lactose helps? It will be almost a week for me and I have noticed some improvement, but not a lot. Of course, he is still getting a milk-based formula supplement to the BFing. I am going to switch to a soy formula and see if it makes a difference as well. Until then... God give me strength!!! LOL

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katnkittens · 10/09/2009 21:17

Hi, I am starting to feel the fear creep in and all of my DC's are at school!!

In a way for me it will be like having 2 DCs as DS will be almost 14 (aghh) and DD almost 12 when this one arrives. Little DD will be 6 1/2 so I'll mostly just have the 2 of them to ferry about as I can already leave the older 2 in the house if I need to pop out, plus I KNOW for a fact DD1 will be a great help as she is a magnet to babies, she adores them, her friends Mum had a baby and one day she just say and cuddled and sang to her for about an hour. God knows what she'll be like with her own little sibling (God I nearly said sister there, already having an inkling).

Well I have passed 4+5 which was when I m/c last time, the 5 week mark was when I m/c the 1st time so after this weekend I will hopefully start feeling more positive.

xxx

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babyblue3 · 10/09/2009 19:11

Means and Sweetkitty - I had that fear as well while pg. Just keep telling yourself that you have done it before and you can do it again! Its definitely busy! And I know you all have younger children, so I cant tell you it will be easy... but you know its worth it! Even with a colicky baby, I have no regrets!

AS for BF in public, I have gotten used to it and can whip them out discreetly anywhere! Not too many people here do it either. Our malls have really nice nursing rooms, so I see women in there... but not out and about. A shame really... what is the longest you ladies have BF a baby for? DD2 was BF for 10 months (and I would have gone the year, but had surgery and dried up right quick after). The first 2 DC's were both unsuccessful attempts for me. This baby seems to be doing well, so I will attempt the full year. Once I go back to work, it wont be possible to BF. I work shifts, and my job isn't really conducive to pumping.

Anyway... babies are BOTH asleep so I am going to try and eat while I can!

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Meanbeansmum · 10/09/2009 17:47

I don't now...not know obviously lol!

Meanbeansmum · 10/09/2009 17:46

Babyblue! Oh I remember that feeling well with a small one and a toddler lol!
I find it easier now mmy eldest is 7, he's a great help for chasing toddlers that have run off. Our park is a long walk so I take the car (oh the shame lol), so if mine play up it's easy to say enoughs enough and frog march them back to the car lol! I think you were so brave for taking them out, and well done on whipping that boob out! I'd love to see more bfing mothers feeling free to do that! I never ever see it in wales! If I feed in a mother and baby changing room all babies are bottled fed. In fact when I had my last and she was 3 days old my mw said she had 20 women on her books and I was the only breastfeeder! How sad is that! I must look like a right freak when I feed in public (I don't know she doesn't ask lol).

OMG I fear I just wrote an essay lol!

Sweetkitty!! LOL! I'm glad you feel my fear lol! Scary stuff!I look at mine sometimes and I think sheesh what a lot of kids and there'll be another soon!

Scorps, I think a cleaner may be a necessity with a newborn, will wait and see how long dh can get off work (it was only 2 weeks last time, I cried when he went back to work, I felt so drained).

All is ok here, I have some days when I feel really pg and other days when I feel normal. I hope all is ok.xxxx

Love to all you crazy mums of 4!!!

Scorps · 10/09/2009 12:06

We are having a cleaner at the end of this pg/new baby. She can do beds, clothes, hoovering, bathrooms etc just once a week or so. Every bit helps

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babyblue3 · 09/09/2009 22:45

Today has been a crazy day. I must be completely mad to try and take the LO's to the park on my own. Its a good half hour walk from home. We get to the park after I let DD2 walk for a portion of the way (I have a double stroller). As soon as I start pushing her in the swing, baby starts crying! So I take her out (she starts kicking and screaming), give her some sand toys to make her happy, and whip out the boob for the boy. He nurses, then spits up the entire feed over my shoulder as I try to burp (while at the same time my DD decides to spill the juice box all over me and her). Good thing I brought my baby wipes! I plunk the baby into the stroller, clean everyone up, and try to feed him again on second boob while DD plays in the sand. She decides to run out of the park, so I have to put the boob away, and chase her since she doesnt listen when I call her. Baby starts screaming as a result. Get back to the bench, give up on BBs and pop a bottle into his mouth. Put DD back on swing while feeding DS. Put him back into stroller (crying) and forefully remove DD from swing as I have now had enough! Both are in stroller screaming as I walk home. Thank GOD they both went to sleep about 10 minutes later. And this is just the START of my day today!!! If only you could hear the noise in my house right now! ARGGHHH!!!!!!

WHO told me to go and have a 4th!!! LOL

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sweetkitty · 09/09/2009 22:23

meanbean - you summed up what I think exactly "I'm scared of having 4, I really want this baby but I also need some more arms! LOL"

I keep thinking how the hell am I going to manage the school/nursery run with a newborn and a nearly 2 yo?

I have told DP we might have to think about a cleaner seriously as I won't be up to it once the SPD kicks in.

As for sex am about 99% sure a girl

Meanbeansmum · 09/09/2009 19:52

Babyblue, I was the opposite, awful sickness with the first two and headaches with the second two, Weird eh. I think you had a fab first day, all of your children were cared for, so what no cleaning got done, but we are all only human. I'd love a cleaner, seriously I would. I'm scared of having 4, I really want this baby but I also need some more arms! LOL

The May AN club is so fast! I can't keep up if I only pop on once a day lol!

How's everyone else doing?

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babyblue3 · 09/09/2009 01:58

So Marco had another fussy day today. He only had cat naps during the day (had an hour stretch during supper time which was nice) and then cried straight from 6pm until 8pm when DH got home from work. He gave him a bottle and put him in his swing to sleep. Great! Now I KNOW he will be up tonight. I try to keep him up until at least 10pm so that we get a good stretch of sleep. Sigh... ANOTHER lousy night to look forward to I guess DD2 was also trying my nerves. The only good thing was, she at least has a 3hour nap in the afternoon. All in all... my first day alone with the kids could have been worse. But aside from dinner being made, NOTHING got done around the house! LOL... I am going to need a maid!!

Older DCs had a good first day of school though.

Means - I didn't find a difference between my pregnancies, except that the first 2 I had migraines and the second 2 I had a tonne of nausea. Wondering if age had anything to do with it (almost 10 year difference).

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Meanbeansmum · 08/09/2009 20:35

Hi!

Babyblue, we had back to school too, the reception children all looked so small! You will be fine on your own.

Rainbow, I'm eagerly awaiting a new bfp from you in the very near future, there is definitely enough babydust on this board to help you along. (hugs).

I feel like things are settling in now, like somehow I know I am in for the long haul (please please please be ok). I'm getting nauseus in the morning and the headaches are awful!!! Must be a girl lol!

Sweetkitty, I hate ppl who do that, everyone assumes I want another girl to even things out but I really have no preference, I don't know why ppl don't get that lol! My boy pg's were very different to my girl pg. My girl pg was far smoother, less of a grind lol. The boys affected my sickness (more intense), my bp was always an issue. With girls I get early headaches, less sickeness (5 times a day wretching as opposed to 20 times a day spewing at any sip of water kind of sickness lol).I think you will know if you have a boy pg!

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babyblue3 · 08/09/2009 16:22

Glad to hear all the sticky baby news here . Today is DD1 and DS1's first day back to school, DH's first day back to work, my first day back to the gym, and my first day completely ALONE with the 2 LO's. I'm nervous! Havent been alone with them yet,and its been a while since I had a toddler and a baby at home. I'm sure DH will come home from work tonight and find me collapsed in a heap and the house a mess, and the children dirty and running around crazy!! LOL

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katnkittens · 08/09/2009 09:54

Rainbow, you have conceived twice in the last few months so are obviously still very fertile. I am CONVINCED you will be joining us very very soon and we will all be on the pregnancy bus together!

Love n hugs
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

rainbowdays · 08/09/2009 09:18

Everything sounds very positive here, so full steam ahead for a bumper crop of 4th babies, and great to have so many of you ahead to encourage me and warn me of the pit-falls of having 4!!!!

katnkittens · 08/09/2009 07:20

Just had to share that I am only about 4+1 and got a pregnant 2-3 on a CBD and the darkest line I have ever had on an ebay cheapie
If you remember last time when I lost the pregnancy at 5 weeks I was only getting a 1-2 at 4+5 so it has reassured me a little bit but still a LONG way to go.

xxx

Scorps · 07/09/2009 18:44

at 3+ weeks, i kept checking mine too .

I was only 5 weeks the other day, im sure! Am now 24+3.

Yes i get stares, and lots of 'mad' comments. They're just jealous

sweetkitty · 07/09/2009 18:38

So am I going to get stared at once I have a bump then? Everyone will think poor us must be so desperate for a boy though.

scorps - a whopping 5+2 weeks now, did a CBD today and it said 3+ weeks , my belly is huge though and bloated keep joking with DP it's twins, I kid you not though I look about 5 months.

well done your DS2 starting school, this is DD1's 4th week and she is doing great

Scorps · 07/09/2009 18:04

kat - i totally agree - im 24 weeks now and everyone can notice - cue starings at school today

SK - how preg are you now? Hope its going nicely

It was ds2 first day at school today, he did so well. ds1 is dyspraxic and realllllllly trying my patience at mo. dd is gorgeous

sweetkitty · 07/09/2009 17:39

hi ladies not much to report here really

What about a TTC no4, growing a 4th, or just have 4DC and counting or something???

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babyblue3 · 07/09/2009 15:26

Maybe we could just start a new thread to include TTC and HAVING conceived

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katnkittens · 07/09/2009 09:51

Hehe me too, think we might as well stay on here. I'm feeling completely negative and convinced I'm about to get AF despite having loads of symptoms... I'd never like to leave this thread We're all as bonkers as each other!

On an interesting note kids went back to school today and a woman with 3 kids already all aged under 6 was looking suspiciously round tummed and I heard a few disapproving mutterings 'is she pregnant AGAIN?'
She has lovely immaculate children but people cant seem to understand the need for people like us to want more than 2.4 kids!

Anyway, I'll not be going anywhere, I popped in to the May ANC and introduced myself but tbh am feeling too unsure to want to join in too much so I'll stay and ramble away on ehre if that's ok :D

xx

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babyblue3 · 05/09/2009 14:57

Good point Rainbow. I wonder if all the ladies that have dropped off this thread have gone on to others??? I have come to like you crazy lot and will stick to this thread wherever it ends up

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rainbowdays · 05/09/2009 11:00

Babyblue - I love the "I get to watch this time" , enjoy watching! And encourage us with continued stories of how although difficult it is worth it.

Just wondering if we want to move this to a post-natal or pregnancy thread or stay here on the ttc thread?????? Should we stay here to encourage others to be totally crazy too?!

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babyblue3 · 05/09/2009 03:45

With all you preggos about... its gonna start makin me feel BROODY NOT!!!!! I am soooo done. And let me tell you how good birth control a colicky baby is!! LOL

Rainbow - I'm sure all these sticky baby vibes floating about will rub off on you as well...

Hopefully you all have a very good, morning sickness free 9 months! I get to watch this time!!!! LOL

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Meanbeansmum · 04/09/2009 16:10

Rainbow, next month will be a month just for you! I agree this has been a lucky month!

~KAtnkittens, yay!!!! SO pleased for you! Congratulations, have a happy and healthy 9 months. Early days here too and we have the same due date!

Sweet kitty, you don't know you only make girls! I thought I only made boys then y little miss came along! I was in shock for several months! Girls are fab, so are boys, you just never know what's going to happen! ;)

Baby blue thjat is SO true! Babies are fuled by their bellies and their bums! Teehee, I'm glad yopu got some sleep!

My 1 year old is playing with my keyboard, I think someones trying to tell me to get off the pc lol! xxxx

Love to all.xxxx

rainbowdays · 04/09/2009 12:53

Kat - I can't stop [grinning] and your and everyone else here being pg. So happy for you. I am sure it will all start feeling real when the morning sickness starts!!!!

Sweetkitty and meansbeans - any symptoms for you both yet?

Babyblue - good to hear you got some sleep.

Big wave to everyone else here.

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