TTC #4 - Join the madness... If you dare!!

Hi
Can i join please ???
Have dc 16 13 and 3 - dh finally agreed i can go for no. 4 which i always wanted.
Everyone will think i`m completely barmy but i dont care- i love it !
Had my mirena out 3 weeks ago and enjoying practicing big time becausemy sex drive is slowly returning since my coil came out - hooray !
I have some health issues inc high bp and gynae probs requiring op and hysterectomy so have put it off in hope dh would agree to no 4 before its all whipped out!

Am nervous and excited.

x

Scxorps, I asked the registrar that, tyhey said no chance as if it was molar the hcg would be ridiculously high.

I'll know more tuesday.

Means - How odd! Not helpful for you at all . Doesn't sound ectopic though. Has anyone said about a Molar pregnancy? Just wondering, i know that makes pg like symptoms, HcG and a sac, but there is never a 'baby' iyswim.

I'm 27+2 today

Meansbeans - oh no, not more mind-bending waiting. It sounds more hopeful than not today, but I can understand if you are just feeling confused. I hope you find some fun things to do with your kids to distact yourself this weekend.

update, feel free not to read, you must all be fed up of my saga by now
Back from the EPU....AGAIN!!!!

I poas and it was still positive so went in for a scan. Changes have happened. My endometrium lining has increased from 13mm to 19mm and I now have what they call a cystic sac in my womb....they can't say if it's a gestational sac or not. But it is consistent with a 5 week pregnancy.
The sac looked black with a white bit in it, the measurements were 4mmx4mm.

I was then told that it could be an early pregnancy but my progesterone is so low and my bloods aren't increasing. They also said that in an ectopic sometimes a sac also forms in the womb. The nurse said that sometimes miracles happen, she doesn't want to get my hopes up as the pregnancy probably isn't viable but I haven't miscarried yet and I need more bloods on tuesday and possibly more scans etc. They can't discharge me from the EPU.

If my hormone level isn't changing how can my endometrium have thickened and a sac magically appeared! I'm mind screwed!!!!!!!!!! The nurse didn't get it either. The sonographer couldn't see any other signs of an ectopic.

This is not great for my state of mind! Just needed to vent somewhere thanks for reading.

My emotions and state of mind are all over the place tonight. The sonographer didn;'t see any other signs of an ectopic and I have no pain at all (apparently I should by now). I'm so confused right now.

How's everyone else? Any plans for the weekend? I need to make this weekend go quickly I might take the kids somewhere nice.

Meansbeans - sorry to hear that you are m/c'ing. You are in my thoughts. When you are ready perhaps you should go with the dh's idea of "see what happens" and enjoy ! But right now I hope that things proceed smoothly for you.

Redtent - I am at ov-time too right now, and a bad early tester, so we will have to see if either of us can wait to 10dpo!!!!

Sweetkitty - how did the scan go today?

how is everyone else?

Scorps - I found getting attached to ds 3 hard as I'd had a m/c a few months before I fell pregnant with him. Even right up to his birth being pregnant had felt very surreal. Once he was born though- wow I felt so strongly about him!

Sorry to hear about the hcg level Means - I hope the dr's sort you out. I'm fairly new in my current job (12 months) and I ummed and ahhed about how I would cope with the job (big reponsibility) and pregnancy plus then an extra child.... Dh and I came to the conclusion that no time is right and if it's what we want then we had to go for it.... we do however know we're entitled to Maternity rights etc...or else I'd have waited a bit. DH idea is fairly good...and if you did move job it's not long before you do have better maternity entitlements

Well I think I've O'd ...about 2 days ago. Hugely achey tummy and trying to ignore it!! I'm going to try and not test until at least 9dpo..and if I can distract myself 10 dpo. I've got BFP's with all but one pregnancy at that stage.

It's never worked first try before though so I'm trying not to get my hopes up this month...

scorps, you have been through so much already this pregnancy! You will bond with your little baby, just right now you have so much on. Things will be easier when baby is here and you can move on emotionally whatever that may mean. Is he still at home? I hope he's behaving. ((((((((((((((((((massive hugs to you))))))))))).

Kat, you will be fine!!!!! I know how you feel, the first 12 weeks are horrid!

Baby blue, sleep is a luxury in my house too (hugs).

Redtent hiya! Welcome! Good luck ttc!

Well update here.....in a week my hcg level has dropped in total from 343 to 323!!! Not good! The consultant beleives me when I say I have passed what was there but he has to check for ectopic....so another EPU trip next tuesday morning. Probably more bloods and a scan.
As for ttc, I have no idea what I want to do. I've had a job offer and I really want to take it, the longing for a baby is strong too but I am 28, I can probably afford to wait. Arrgghhhhh! I could do the job while pg, that's not a problem but I'd like to give it my all. Hmmmmmm. Dh said let's just ride with it and 'see what happens..........I'll interpret that as he wants a good sex life lol!

scorps - oh poor you, feel like wringing his neck for you, I honestly don't know how some men can do it, be off with someone else then come home to their wife and family and be all great towards them I had some real heavy stuff happen when I was pregnant with DD2, felt like I didn't enjoy my pregnancy at all but bonded with her straight away and loved her to bits. You need to focus on taking care of yourself and your new LO, don't allow him to ruin it for you. Don't know what else to say really

katnkittens - know exactly how you are feeling, I'm 7+2 today, have a scan booked for week on Friday, won't be happy until I feel this LO kicking though. I'm totally shattered and constantly feeling sick all the time too.

babyblue - am not surprised you are tired, men just don't think do they, sometimes you just have to tell them "I am going out for an hour YOU are in charge, bye!" and go.

redtent - welcome to the madness

kat - it sucks doesn't it? My boobs never have much of areaction until 15 ish weeks, i just feel icky and so very utterly tired for the first 14 weeks!

This pregnancy i ignored until my 13 week scan, TBH. I feel bad to her now, but it was a self preservation thing. Hour by hour, day by day i went.

I'm 26+3 today. I am getting a good size bump now and am actually suprised how far along i am.

I'm having a few issues though . I don't feel all that bonded to her , i think its cos my first 16 weeks were horrid (DH was horrid to me about tiredness, even though he was cheating the whole time etc). Then he actually met up with her, at 15 weeks, at which point we had an ace month until i found out. So the last 7 weeks, have just been so focussed on that and my marriage i seem to have no brain room. I feel like he had already started his 'affair' with her halfway through March; i got pg v end of march, discovered 20 april (ish). He knew he was cheating but yet i didnt; i didnt have a choice did i, i thought we were ttc as a couple, a partnership, now i feel stuck. He knew we were ttc, i always have got very open and very clear 'consent' to iyswim. Not even seeing my little smidge on scan stopped him. He swore on her life that he wasnt doing anything, at one point i got suspicious. I am left wondering how my marriage will work out, how im going to cope with 4dc when i feel almost depressed. I am left wondering how i can laze around being all chubby and postnatal when its obvious he always has one eye open. I want to feel safe, looked after, in tune with my pg. Out of my 5 pregnancies, one i was 16 and scared; one DH was abusive towards me and had to attend DA counselling; dc3 pg was amazing, lovely. pg4 = mc and pg5 = DH ruined it. I don't understand any of it at all. I'm scared of the future i think, and i have a 'countdown' to fit to now, with this baby due.

Hi ladies

I HATE these early weeks.. I'm so sodding paranoid, everytime I go to the loo I'm filled with dread, I'm not feeling too awful so of course feeling paranoid about that.. I don't know why I'm surprised, I never had morning sickness just odd bouts of nausea. My boobs aren't DEAD sore but my nips are ridiculous!
Plus I keep getting cramps (normal for me up until even 14 weeks) but it's increasing my paranoia.. sigh....

6+2 today yey.. only another 6 weeks of this to go

red welcome to the madness, we are a lovely bunch

meanbean how are you feeling? After my 1st m/c I fell pregnant the next month

bb blokes are useless, I've been snapping at mine this weekend and he's actually not too bad

scorps how far along are you now?

rainbow where are youuuuuu? Hope everything is ok

Hi Red join in the madness! Some of us have our fourth now, others pg, others ttc.

Means - so sorry. Keep strong. You can ttc again straight away; i did and got pg straight away. I know this doesnt help now, but it happened for a reason. I thought better this way, than a child and a family situation i know i would struggle with (a disablility). You will be fine

Babyblue - bloody soddign bastarding men.

SK - urgghh god i hate the early weeks. Even nicer when your 'D'H is of with some 19yr old. I'm still really cross.

Just quietly poking my head round the door as we're ttc dc 4. I'm not in a rush to get pg and trying to stay chilled about it- especially as it's not always been easy with the others....losses etc. I'm due to Ovulate sometime during this next week.....I've never got pg first try though!

I feel slightly nervous that 4 dc could be crazy. However we both feel it's right for us and well although we're not loaded we have enough money and more importantly and abundance of love and patience to go round

Very sorry to hear the news Means. I hope you're getting lots of support and help this w/e. It's such an awful feeling

meanbeans - what can I say? Life is such a bitch sometimes, take care and I hope you get your closure and are on another antenatal thread soon.

However sad my mc made me, if it weren't for it I wouldn't have my beautiful little angel and we were so meant to have her. I know little comfort right now, take care of yourself.

I'm OK 7 weeks today feeling like I have a constant hangover, going to try and blag a scan next week when I'm 8 weeks.

My HCG level on friday was 344 and progesterone was 5.6 (really low). My spotting has stopped. I think I may be another week or so before I can get proper closure.xxx

Night all, bloods again tommorrow...oh joy!

Means - sorry to hear that the epu did not give any reassurance. I hope that the situation is answered on sunday for you. It is a tough time.

Hi...not good at the epu. They couldn't find anything. Dd a pg test, it was positive, so now I have a pg in an unknown location so I've had bloods, need more on Sunday to see if I have m/c or to see if it's ectopic type rises or if it's doubling and my pg is just very early (which I know it's not).

I'm gutted! I can't tell you how upsetting it is to look at a positive pregnancy test but to be told there's nothing there.

Katnkittens, I will miss not being your virtual pg bud. I am so upset. Thankyou all for being here for me.xxx

Hi guys, I'm fine, 6 weeks tomorrow. Went with my friend for her 20 week scan today.. was so lovely, the first time I've been for a scan that wasn't mine!

Meanbeansmum, sending you lots of hugs, I left a msg for you on the 'other' place.

xxxx

Phew, good to hear that the bleeding is stopping meansbeans.
i am focussed on work at the moment and so thankfulling getting distracted from mn and ftc.

Kats and sweetkitty, how are you both doing?

Babyblue - hows the routine going?

Thankyou girls, you are all so lovely!

I feel beeter this afternoon, just very light pink spotting now. I'm prepared that the scan tomorrow probably won't show a hb yet just hoping everything else is as it should be and that it all ties in woth my dates. I'm nervous.

How's everyone else's day been?