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'Not Preventing Pregnancy'

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TotalRockChick · 14/08/2009 17:56

Hi,

So, my husband would rather term it 'not preventing pregnancy' than 'trying to get pregnant' as he feels the use of the word 'trying' will lead to feelings of 'failure' if we don't succeed.

We've been 'not preventing pregnancy' for 16 months now, following me being on the contraceptive injection for 2 years and the Pill for 9 years before that. So far, no luck.

Any advice for how I might be able to improve our chances? Trying to keep that insane side of my brain quiet (the part that is stamping feet like a toddler and demanding a baby NOW!!) and trying hard to listen to the sane side of my brain which is whispering calming words of advice such as the fact that I need to give my body more time to get back into a 'natural' rhythm.

Have had a few periods since Jan 09 but nothing for the last 3 months, pregnancy test negative but feeling tearful, needy, generally emotional + hormonal, no breast, back or stomach pain as usual before period due though and not really sure what to think. Have been taking Folic Acid for about six months now (when I remember - am crap at daily pill taking).

Am feeling envious of friends who have got babies/expecting babies and am feeling like a bit of a faker every time I smile and say congratulations to someone else, coz all I'm thinking is Why not me??? Any advice/moral support useful.

Thanks x x x

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oneopinionatedmother · 18/08/2009 11:37

it can take ages for the injection to wear off fully- see your doctor for advice though.

it isperfectly normal to hate people with babies when you don't have one and want one. no need to feel bad about it.

improve you chances by - not smoking (eitherof you) - drinking less ( reckon not$ drinking at all makes you more stressed) high vitamin food (salad, fresh veg etc) and doing moderate exercise (as it boosts your mood) and have lots of sex - though to be fair haing more orgasms helps too - there are lots of books on this sort of 'natural' conception improvement.

good luck !

Habbibu · 14/08/2009 18:30

Have you seen a doctor about having no periods? Worth getting that checked out first, I reckon. Keeping track of cervical mucus was helpful for me, but I'm not sure how easy that is when you're not having periods.

Poor you - it is stressful. Good luck.

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