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TTC whilst extended bfing... Advice please...

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Elliemama · 13/08/2009 14:07

I am struggling to conceive and think that maybe its because I am still breastfeeding DS - 20 months. Thing is he is not a big eater and relies heavily on milk.... I was hoping to follow his queues with food and just let him take his time. He does eat 3 meals a day plus snacks but he's very fussy and still wants lots of milk.
Anyone else had this prob? Shall I just accept that for now TTC is not an option and just give DS the time he seems to need to increase his food intake when he's ready?
We are proponents of attachment parenting so it is very important to me to allow DS to develop at his own rate and respond to his needs as he expresses them. He is a very happy, bright, physical child. He is also very independent when out and about but very clingy at home.

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Shooflypie · 23/08/2009 23:44

MBM, how did you do that? Weaning, I mean? DS (16 mo as I said) now seems more avid than ever. I don't like the idea of having a huge battle over it...

Meanbeansmum · 22/08/2009 00:09

I tried to conceive when bfing ds 2. It just didn't happen, I did have 1mc. As soon as I gave up bfing (when he was 2 years) I was pg within 2 months.

I am now bfing that baby, she is now 18 months, we are ttc and yet again it's not happening. I think I'm just one of these women who has a lot of bf hormones in my system which prevent me from conceiving. I'm not ready to quit yet and neither is my little girl. She has 2 evening feeds, a morning feed and sometimes a day feed, really not much but still I can't catch.

We are having fun trying though lol. I will probably wean her in the new year and hope for a spring bfp, if I don't get 'lucky' in the meanwhile. Good luck hunni.xxxx

Shooflypie · 21/08/2009 14:41

I am wondering about this too. DS is 16mo and has two big BFs night and morning and a few nips duing the day. I'd prefer him to self wean but he is showing no signs at all of wanting to stop.
We were on a bus the other day and he managed to yank open my top and shout DINNER! which was slightly
I am in a bit of a quandry as I'm 41 so have to get a move on. And my GP did say that BF is not a contrac thoeptive but does suppress your fertility

Off to look up Kellymom - their advice is normally v good I've found.

oneopinionatedmother · 20/08/2009 13:43

although getting a kid to take non-boob milk can be hard (for my DD,, it involved a fair amount of wrestling and crying over spilt milk!) it could be key to conceiving again.

it might be oversimplifying to say this - your son will get a whole lot out of a sibling in the course of his life, so there is compensation for him if he hates being weaned. You might not have to stop BF completely - just limit it to morning and evening maybe? I found those the ncest feeds anyway...and kids change so quickly at 20mo - before you know it you'll have a small child instead of a large baby (or so i found) that clinginess could evaporate (or not) regardless of what you do feeding wise...

i didn't conceive until i'd started giving other drinks (had given food ages before).

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