TTC after a Miscarriage - no 2, let the fun begin!!!!

Hi Diddle.......ooooooo we can be testing buddies. I think 10 DPO is the soonest a positive would show but I am going to wait until next Wednesday when I would be 13 DPO. I tested too early last month and don't want to do that again!! I have picked Wednesday and if it is a BFP I think my midwife is in on a Weds so I could make an appt.......dream....dream......dream.....

Yes I found the poetry really anoying too and it was too soon after my m/c so I had to go upstairs and watch it in the bedroom so I could sob in private......I sound like I like to torture myself don't I??

Taking son to swimming lesson so seeeeeeeeeeeee ya lata

No i'm still here but am mega busy. Havent had time to read the thread today but Hi to you all, hope you all havin a quieter day than i am!
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I really can't imagine life without it now - sad or what!!! I just don't have to think about which programmes I want to watch, as everything I like is on series link so automatically gets recorded. It's annoying when it has a blip and fails, but that doesn't happen very often.

We got it before they brought out the larger hard drive version, but if we were buying it again now we'd def invest in the bigger one, as it's not hard to fill the disc if you go away for a couple of weeks.

All this talk of baby programmes, and here's me sitting here copying 'In the Womb' from Sky+ onto a video tape as I type! Diddle - was it 'Life Before Birth' that you have to watch? It was quite good, but had lots of very annoying poetry throughout! 'In the Womb' seems to be pretty much the same programme, but without the poetry, and with a bit more info I think (it was on National Geographihc a couple of weeks ago).

WC - I worried about whether flying had caused my m/c too, as I was actually on hols when it died, even though I didn't know it at the time. My midwife knew I was flying and said it was fine, but a GP friend who also had m/c after seeing heartbeat at 8 weeks reckons that there may be some risk, although hard to prove. I have chosen not to fly during this pregnancy, as even if it is totally unrelated, I, like you it seems, would forever wonder if things went wrong again.

I did give up alcohol, coffee etc whilst ttc again, and will be staying off them throughout pregnancy. I agree that a little whilst ttc shouldn't do any harm, but they all decrease fertility, and with the length of time it took for me to fall pg the first time, I just didn't want to do anything that could delay it happening again.

Xena - well done to DD2 you proud mummy!

I think you're right. If I flew and something happened I'd never forgive myself and would resent my job forever. I know you can't bubble wrap yourself but you can remove some unnecessary risks/stresses. Plus travelling isn't glam its bloody tiring and hard work. Who needs it?!

Hi all

Just catching up with you all.....am currently torturing myself by watching birth and baby programmes on sky.......come a long way as they don't upset me.....just makes me want my own baby more!!

I am 6 DPO and am going to be really, really patient and hold out from testing for ages!! I never had 'signs' with my other 2 pregnancies.....not like some women seem to have! I am feeling really positive though at the moment but probably dreaming!!

Saw a 2 week old little boy in town this morning when I took DS for new trainers....he was utterly gorgeous.....it will be me soon, I know.

My son is 5 so I have left a big gap but that is just the way it sometimes works out. Life doesn't always go to plan. At least I will have lots of time at home with a baby while DS is at school.

Hope you are all ok........must go back to my baby programmes.....OH MY GOD! SOUND LIKE A BABY-OBSESSED WIERDO!

You know WC that I think that you will need to stop flying for your own piece of mind, If your boss stopped flying then she should sympathetic.
I would like my GP to check for infection just to make sure I don't have a UTI as you can carry one for a couple of months with no treatment.

Ahh Xena that's brilliant news - well done DD2!

Re: flying. I know there's no evidence to say it's a problem but they also said the m/c could have been caused by a virus and I did feel rubbish the day after I arrived in the US. Aeroplanes are so bad for spreading infections. I know I'm being a bit silly. My boss had a baby last year after many many failed IVF attempts and she too didn't fly and the pregnancy was successful. Who knows eh?

I know diddle she looks to tiny to be walking

Re M/C and flying I think the reason you shouldn't fly in the last trimester is incase you go into preterm labour, I think that it would be a good idea to discuss with a doctor about the risks of such regular flying because if you were unfortunate enough to have a 2nd m/c and you had been flying you would wonder if that had been a factor. If you understand that waffle what I really mean is get a second opinion so that you can decide. HTH

Lottielou your hair sounds fab I need a complete change too but am nervous cause I have made mega mistakes in the past
WC my DS and DD1 are 4 years apart and they have done nothing this half term except play happily with each other, yesterday they spent the day writing books (DS was helping DD1 write all the hard words and spelling lots of things for her) and today they have made a library of all their books and made library cards and they take it in turns to play librarian. DD1 is 2y 3mths older than DD2 (who is 10mths) and she spent the day shoving her over everytime she came near her.
This is because DD2 IS WALKING Its so early for one of ours the other 2 walked in the week of the 1st birthdays but hers isn't for another 6 weeks!! I was so excited (can you tell)

Hi everyone - hope you're all well. Thanks for the welcomes ... I'm feeling good at the mo. Know what you mean Xena about wanting small age gaps - there's nearly 5 years between me and my brother and we've always got on well but I wanted smaller. Wanted 2.5 years to be exact which is what this last pregnancy would have meant but didn't work out. Now I'm trying to think that it's good I've got this extra time to enjoy DD on her own etc etc. But am thinking I want to start trying again soon because (please no) if I have another m/c, the gap just continues to get bigger and bigger. Am actually starting to feel quite excited about the whole prospect of ttc and pregnancy again ... although think this is prob cos it's not actual reality yet (af is here right now).

Sorry for waffling on - are you all being ultra-healthy and no booze etc? After m/c I swore I was going to basically eat organic veg and no alcohol for months prior to ttc again but am now not quite so sure ... what do you reckon?

Ooo and last thing ... I have to travel a lot with my job and although everyone tells me it's coincidence, all I know is that around the time my baby died, I flew a total of 6 times in 2-3 weeks ... 2 of those flights being to the US. Do you reckon it's reasonable to say if I get pregnant again, I'm not going to fly anywhere?

Hope everyone's having a good day

Morning,

Like your hair lottie very nice . So are you a natural blonde?

Welcome wishing chair so sorry about your m/c you'll find great support here and lots of dolphins are released (endorphins ended up as dolphins!) so now we're a fishy bunch.

Diddle hope you are doing ok and not having a too busy day, hope things are ok with Mr Diddle.

Hope everyone else is doing ok, not had a chance to catch up with everything cause, boy can you lot gas!!! .

Take care
Hx

Yeah I was then, sorry hun. Work is stupidly busy today. Oh well must make time for you! LOL
Did you have a good eve last night?
It took hours for my hair then when i got home DP was watching footie so i watched Bad Girls in bed, ate cheese on toast, had a cuppa, watched celebrity love island (am hooked) and then big brother and then Hollyoaks! God how sad am i

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