Anyone out there who's recently MCd and back to TTC without waiting?

Hi everyone

Sorry I've been offline for a little while. Lovely to catch up with you all

I'm another one where AF has turned up - unexpectedly early on Monday. I don't think I ovulated so it was a bit of a surprise as I'd locked into "catching the moment" and then it was a no show . But I guess on the plus side (it's taken me a day or two to work through to being positive....), hopefully my body was trying to right itself as soon as possible. Did love your quote apples as it completely summed up my earlier attitude after getting a BFN - right, on to o/v as my next target! And outwardly in RL, I look perfectly quite normal too How's your 2ww going?

Sorry BestLaid and Cith re AF. Glad the wedding went well bestlaid. Completely understand your frustration re calculating your cycle cith - I just want to know where I am again. Hopefully this will be the month for us (and could fate through in a flat sale for luck )

Lovely to see you back helpet. Hope you're feeling better. I had lots of low grade headaches for the couple of weeks after my m/c - I assumed it was my hormone levels resettling. That and tiredness.

meita - I was reading the thread with my fingers crossed for you. I do admire your resolve in holding out til Wednesday. My fingers are still crossed...

Love the new name monkey. Glad work is going well. I'd definitely stick worrying about a future pregnancy in the I'll deal with that when it happens camp! Nice problem to have, as my Grandmother would say

Sounds a lovely dinner with your DH cheepz. As horrible as the whole m/c thing is, there can be moments when it really brings you together.

Anyway, sorry for the long ramble. Missed you girls!

meita sorry there's no bfp yet but as you say that could still change. i've been wondering whether to test but to be honest think i'm too scared too, regardless of waht the result was!! if no AF has arrived by the end of next week then i might! looked at the tests in boots yesterday though just to see how early they could tell, and theoretically the first response ones would give a result now. also though thinking about the money. i'd rather leave it longer and get two normal tests for a fiver than one for however much it was which i wouldn't end up trusting anyway!!!

definitely hate this waiting though.

was working yesterday which was fine but a long day, shattered by the end of it. today off to see a friend this afternoon then working a couple of hours tonight. another day on site tomorrow then on friday afternoon we're off to see the inlaws for the weekend. not exactly looking forward to that but it'll nice for dh and dd obviously so needs must!

the b**ody rain's back. aaaaaargh!

hope everyone's doing ok.

Hey apples, how's the waiting going?

Everyone where are you all? It's gone awfully quiet in here...

Ok ladies, I tested this morning and got a BFN. However I'm not yet giving up hope altogether as AF has not arrived yet and temp chart is not indicating her imminent arrival, as it's decidedly pointing upwards. But then, I only half trust this times chart as hormones will have been doing havoc to everything I suppose.

Have been very teary today, but not really downcast - let's see how I feel when AF arrives though.

Take care everyone - it would be great to hear from you all!

Hi everyone,

Believe I ovulated over the weekend, ov pos (after preg test neg), so I think it was the real thing. Dealt with (thanks for asking!), plus one for insurance..

Now the 2ww..

Wow BLP, that sure sounds like a great wedding party! I'm off to a promising wedding in just under two weeks time, but I doubt if they'll do as well as "dancing in the library" sounds... Ah, but to have it spoiled by that most unwanted party crasher aunt! I'm glad to hear you are not taking it all too hard and I like the "onwards and upwards" sentiment. As long as "upwards" indicates "upstairs into the bedroom" IYSWIM...

Hang on in there, and if the "gutted" feeling does still install itself with delay, we're all here to commiserate with you.

Hello, hope everyone's well and looking after themselves. Lovely to see you again helpet!

Well, the wedding was amazing (dinner in the ballroom, dancing in the library, oh how the other half live!). Got a BFN when I tested in the morning and with impeccable timing AF started in the middle of the church service. Still, good to know that I'm back onto a 28 day cycle and I'm not as gutted as I thought I would be. Onwards and upwards. Hope everyone had a lovely weekend.

meita and cith glad you are feelig brighter

helpet hope you are too

hope everyone had good weekends xxx

Good morning, what a lovely day this promises to be!

This morning my temperature went up quite a bit. Last time when that happened, at the end of my cycle, I got up and peed on a stick (and it was positive - but I MCd a week later, which is why I am here). Today I told myself "No no no no way!" As I was sure I'd just be disappointed - it's simply still to early. And with post-MC hormones being unpredictable, I didn't want to over-interpret anything.

So, got up, turned on computer, put the day's measure into my online chart. Then what I often do is look up my best friend's chart, she has been trying for her 3rd, since 15 months now - just recently they discovered they had Chlamydia and had it treated, and this now is their first cycle post-treatment, and she's about as far along as I am in her cycle. So, looked at her chart - and she was obviously less patient than me, she tested with an "early" test, and it came out BFP! I'm really pleased for her - though those early tests are always a bit of a gamble - but now I'm so sorry I didn't do a test too - it would have been simply brilliant to have both tested positive at the same time! (But then, had I tested, it probably would have turned out negative anyway... )

Tuesday. Or maybe even Wednesday. I won't test before Tuesday, I won't I won't I won't.

Cith I'm glad the sun caught up with you and that you are feeling better! You know, according to www.pregnancyloss.info, if your first AF post MC is "not normal" and you still get BFPs, then it doesn't really count as your first AF but is still related to your MC. That would mean that this AF which has come to see you now, is actually the first. So that would indicate that from now on, your cycle should be mostly back to normal, and there is nothing at all to stop you from TTC! (Just trying to point out the bright side...)

monkey nice name! Glad you are feeling good, too. AF will arrive when she will, she's like that, you know - never sticks to appointments, turns up when you least want to see her, but when you are eagerly awaiting her, she keeps you waiting... And regarding work, I'm sure there will always be a way. I agree that getting a BFP is more important!

apples Great that you got a BFN! Haha - aren't we weird in here? Like the sleep-over thing - that could have been me :-)

cheepz glad to hear you had a good took with DH. I've been managing to get snippets out of mine, but over all he's just way too focused on that deadline. But I think things are looking up, here too.

helpet sorry to hear you had a rough week. I hope you are feeling a bit better now. I'm sorry, but I seem to have lost count - how are things progressing regarding TTC for you? You know, I'm eternally grateful to you for starting this thread. Really! I will be so happy when one day you will report getting a BFP to us.

Have a nice Sunday!

Morning all. Lovely day here so feeling much brighter and optimistic.
helpet good to see you back here. what words of wisdom has Zita suggested on the 'what to eat/not to eat' etc...anything tastier than grapefruit juice?
apples - sounds strange, but good to hear that the BFN has arrived so you can start to get on with the TTC . I have to say I laughed out loud reading your thoughts re: sleep-over! It is funny seeing these things written down as what any one of us has also thought at some point!
cheepz - glad to hear that you had a lovely birthday and that you and dh were able to talk properly about it all and how you are feeling. It is such a relief to let it all out to the ones you care about most isn't it? DH got a message from a friend that about the birth of their fist child this morning - a little girl...they had been trying for ages and had MC'd a couple of times too so obviously we are so happy for them - but didn't stop us shedding a little tear for ourselves.

Happy Sunny Saturday to all you lovely ladies.

welcome back helpet!! the sun is shining here so hopefully you'll get some too!

as you can see i have changed my name slightly and it has felt like mayhem here this week. hoping it'll all calm down a bit soon especially as dd had another bad night last night. still nothing compared to a newborn (and i want to go through that again?????!!!)

this morning we went to the rspb for a lovely walk but dd was just too tired really so weren't there that long. will take her to the park later to hopefully wear her out. dh working all weekend and i really don't like it because all my other friends are busy doing family stuff so can't meet up. still if he didn't i wouldn't be able to work so swings and roundabouts!

glad you got BFN apples seems strange saying that but at least you know where you are now. glad you enjoyed the party, sounds a fab house! lol at your insane thought!

sounds like your meal out with dh was good cheepz i find it makes a difference just being out the house and alone as opposed to just sitting in front of the tv or whatever. i'm glad you feel better for it.

so i guess now i'm waiting for AF but don't know when to expect it really. i'm guessing maybe end of next week but not really sure. it'll be an interesting couple of weeks. i'm feeling pretty ok at the moment though and i don't think i'll be devestated if AF arrives. that's partly due to things going so well at work at the moment and i have huge guilt issues when it comes to (hopefully) telling them i'm pregnant again. i'm trying to change my role as well at the moment which if it worked would make life lot easier if we do have another dc. anyway i guess what will be will be and a BFP is ultimately more important.

will stop waffling on now. enjoy the sunshine ladies

Hi everyone,

Finally got a BFN last night at day 20 after ERPC - yes I went and bought some more sticks.

So, hunting the ov now.. outwardly, in RL, I look perfectly normal.

Went to Surrey for a birthday party yesterday. A little friend of my DS and I've known the mum for a few years. Lovely house, swimming pool, large garden. She asked if I wanted to stay the night, which was sweet. But in my head I was saying "Are you INSANE, I could ovulate at ANY moment"..

thanks for all birthday wishes and thoughts, had a lovely dinner with dh last night where he actually asked me how i was feeling and whether i wanted to talk about it and so on - i think with him we just need to be out of the house with him not thinking about work and away from ds to really talk about anything that means anything

anyway - that was the best present he could have given me and it was nice to just have a chat about how it had made me feel, and how i am feeling now, and how we plan to move forward

hope you ladies are all doing ok, not much good news recently with AF popping up all over, hopefully someone will have some happy news soon and we can all steal some hope and strengthen our resolve from that

xx

Hello ladies,(waves)

Happy Birthday Cheepz!!
It has been a while as I have had a dear friend and her husband from home (Australia) staying with us since Saturday so there has not been any opportunity to do any MN catching up! (They were the best house-guests - got home from work yesterday to a sparkling clean house where they had washed their own sheets, tidied and bought more food etc before I took them to the airport!)It was so so lovely having an old friend around to catch up on two-years worth of news, gossip & hugs! Even still, I have been itching to get back on and see how everyone else here is going.

A bit of a set-back for me...was getting quite excited at prospect of testing on the weekend...thought I could hang out until CD31...but bloody AF arrived on Tuesday this week (CD27)!!!! Felt v low on Tues...not helped by the fact that it was heavy and crampy/painful. We had tried BD almost everyday of the week I guessed was OV (although had pretended not to notice the lack of EWCM thoughout most cycle)!! I guess I shouldn't be too surprised, as although I had MMC nearly two months ago(early June) the first AF afterwards was really light and ON-OFF (and still quite a lot of preg hormone with BFP). Have also heard that it takes longer for the body to get back on track the further into the pregnancy (12 weeks before I MCd)?? It is all a bit tricky trying to work out my post-MC cycle too as I used to have a 30-32 day cycle and both AFs post MC have been around CD 26-27. I just feel a bit ARRRGGGGGHHHH about the whole thing! Made worse by the fact we are trying to sell our flat, buy another and the whole thing is taking ages and seems to be fraught with problems (month 6 now!)

Anyway. Rant over. I guess I can stop feeling guilty for having a few glasses of vino last weekend while catching up with friends!

I hope you are all feeling well and have lovely weekends planned to keep our thoughts on the other things in our lives away from TTC! (Big sprinkling of baby dust on this thread!)

Hello ladies,
thanks for all the kind words. You are right, MN is the place to go - where people understand. Thanks and big hugs to all of you!

Feeling better today, though yesterday was another rough day. It's just a bit of a rollercoaster really. All in all, well my temp-line is looking good so far, but I won't get my hopes up (but not down either!)

I wish I had a good friend on whose shoulder I could cry (not right now, but when the need arises); I think that would, if nothing else, help the grieving process along its way. I unfortunately left all my really close friends back in Switzerland when I came to England three years ago. I do have a few really nice friends over here too, but it's not the same as when your relationship goes back years and years.

Cheepz I'm sorry I missed your birthday! I wasn't on MN all day yesterday. Hope you enjoyed it! Good for you re: that next milestone.
Re: drinking, I think, even as a non-scientist, that there is no danger... They do say that the baby's bloodstream is hooked up with ours only during pg week 5 or 6, and unless it was a massive overdose, I am quite sure the residual alcohol will be out of your system by then.
On the other hand, I've observed myself not eating Gruyère (as it is made of raw milk) - I'm totally with you regarding obsessiveness!

Best of weekends to you all!

monkeys - just read your post. What a shame - obviously wasn't destined to be the night! Next time, I sense DD will have a very active and tiring day

Happy belated birthday cheepz! Hope you had a great one. I wouldn't worry about the odd drink or two - I've read loads of stories where people have abstained religiously when TTC and only got pregnant when they got fed up and had a couple of drinks

Hope you're feeling better meita if you're reading this.

Just wondered how helpet is doing - you certainly started a wagon rolling!

Hope you all have a good weekend. Pretty, pretty please can we have some sunshine.

happy birthday cheepz hope you have a good one. and please don't worry about the drinks you had, won't affect anything. glad all went well last night!

blp i live on the cambs/beds border so about 20 min from cambridge. i like the new name suggetsions too but sadly nothing came of it last night! when i put dd to bed i could tell she wasn't tired and she just kept getting out of bed. i was trying to work at the same time so at one point was on the phone to my boss when she wandered in and started screaming. not a good impression for him! anyway it got to 9, we still hadn't eaten, i gave up on the work. she came downstairs and watched tv while we ate dinner then eventually about half past she went to bed. so once again i wasn't in the right frame of mind! to top it all off she was up at half five this morning!

anyway that's it from me because i'm actually in the office today so should go. being spectacularly inefficient today, don't seem to be getting anywhere!!!

Happy Birthday Cheepz! Have a fab day. Don't worry about the drinking, honestly. Even when actually pregnant and your blood supply is linked with the baby's a small amount of alcohol is unlikely to do any harm. Trust me, I'm a science teacher

That being said, the second I get that positive line I'll be avoiding it like the plague, but that's because my slightly insane, neurotic side will win out over my rational, informed, scientist side. But please don't worry about a few drinks pre conception (even if it was only just pre-, and fingers crossed that it was!)

morning - feeling upbeat because its my birthday and dh and i have broken the ice on the bd front - another post mc milestone under the belt

apples that feeling of not being able to do anything to accelerate the process is crap, hope it passes soon

meita hope you are feeling better today, its all abit of a rollercoaster. I have a friend at work who just gives me the biggest cuddle when I need to have a cry. Her reaction when I told her was fantastic - she commented that I looked abit sad and I just fell apart, she had the good grace to well up herself and then just said 'oh honey thats just the saddest news for you' and gave me a hug, nothing more, didn't try and say 'it will be better soon' 'you can try again' 'at least it was early' just allowed me to be sad for a while.

Anyway - I was wondering - on the offchance we managed to achieve a result out of our bd last night (my ewcm is here and it would be ovulation time in a normal cycle if I had not had mc) do you think it will be a problem that I had been drinking .... I don't drink much but had a few last night and am now thinking that it might not have been very smart to bd on the back of a night out on the booze

probably just post mc anxiety (already) would not have even crossed my mind 'before' ....

monkeys Small world! I'm about 5 miles outside Ely in one of the little villages. Liking TFLS's suggestions for a new name.

TFLS Thank you! Feeling a bit crampy, so not holding out much hope, but hey-ho. It'll be lovely to get away for the weekend and haven't seen a lot people going since my wedding last year. I did feel quite grotty physically about two weeks after, but mostly put it down to a visit from the lovely OFSTED.

meita Sorry to hear you're feeling fed up, hope things get easier post-deadlines. My first AF was difficult because it felt like miscarrying again (though without the gut wrenching pain and two weeks of bleeding - looking on the bright side), however, it did also reassure me a bit that things were back to normal. Like everyone else said, we're all here for you (in a virtual kind of way). Also, love the phrase "hopeful impatience" sums it up perfectly

apples "Although frankly going to the loo will seem like a waste of time" I got some very funny looks from DH as I bent cackling over the laptop. Then I got the "Oh, Mumsnet" look.

Hello to all, hope everyone's well and taking care of themselves.

Thanks for the diet info meita. I had read about that - something to do with kerotins (spelling?) I think. That's partly why I want to loose weight now, the other part I suspect is a distraction activity (hence my annoyance at not being able to control it). Maybe I'm drinking too much grapefruit juice

So sorry you're feeling down sweetie. Wish I could give you a very un-MN hug. I suspect the grief tends to hit in waves and it's not helped by the lousy timing of your DP's deadline. Does he know how you feel? If you do get a BFN, we'll all be here so please don't crash alone. But I know what you mean. Sometimes I just cry and want to collapse into DH's arms and let it all go. My DH has been supportive but I don't think it's in the back of his mind constantly like it is for me. You guys are kindred spirits.

Sorry about your m/c LittleOneMum - hope you join us when the time is right for you (I know it's early days for you at the moment). You may even be a more patient soul than us

Cheepz - you are our very own gok wan of post m/c recovery! I feel inspired just reading your threads!

monkeys thanks. Hopefully soon after tonight we can rename you moremonkeys or monkeysisuptheduff

apples - I had headaches for the first week. Know what you mean about peeing on sticks. Hopefully you will get you BFN soon. I know I did feel better when the hormones went down. I found myself trying to use a cheapie OPK yesterday at the office (usually work from home) and didn't have anything to pee into. Improvised and used one of those tiny cream cartons that you get in coffee machines

fatlady, I agree with feeling rundown and tired. I think after the mc bleeding, the hormones start to drop and this is a downer. I am quite irritated and headachey and hope this is going to go away soon.

Hi everyone,

drumming fingers on desk, waiting to ov like everyone else

hello littleonemum. sorry to hear your news but maybe this thread will help?!

meita sorry to hear you feeling so down. it's a big thing to deal with and it would be nice sometimes to focus solely on your emotions and what's happpened and not have real life intruding on that. is there no one in rl you could just have a weep with to get rid of some of the emotion? for me i found that a big help, more so in a way than talking to dh because she was removed from it all to an extent? anyway we are always here to virtually hold your hand! my dh has been good but did say the other night that he wished he felt as sad as i do about it all. sound callous but it really wasn't meant like that. of course the woman is going to feel worse because it was our body and on a practical note we've got all the hormones floating around which really doesn't help!

tfls physically i felt pretty much back to normal other than being bit more tired probably by the end of last week. monday afternoon though felt really rough. was freezing cold and felt nauseous and achy and just pretty terrible! felt bit better yesterday at work although bit light headed and on a couple of occasions had to just stop what i was doing to take a deep breath and centre myself i guess. doing ok today though.

think i may have ovulated yesterday but wasn't in the right mood for bding. tired from work and dd very unsettled so had to keep going in to see her. will try tonight just on the offchance!

hope everyone's doing ok and thinking positive thoughts x

will be namechanging soon because monkeys etc is too long. waiting for inspiration for my new name though!!