The WIMBEWAI(N)F Club - Only a few more to find!

Evening ladies

Just thought I'd poke my head round the door to see how you're all doing.

My snot got worse but have now jumped on the Tamiflu band wagon and feel a lot better.

How are you doing GG? Hope DH has been around this weekend?

How was your day/night without DD or DH MrsH?? Did you find lots to keep you amused? Bet you kept CBeebies on in the background to keep you company didn't you?!

Hope everyone else is doing ok?

I'm off to bed now

xx

Hi all
I hope everyone is well (or in Picknmix's case, recovering)

GG go easy on yourself. The redundancy thing was not personal (or at least that is what you must tell yourself) and what you're going through now is just unbelieveably shit. I know it is hard... on one of my more self-pitying days I did moan to someone "I've lost 3 babies and a job in a year" moan moan. Now I was just feeling sorry for myself but you are right in the middle of all that nasty hormonal business, so give yourself a break, wallow if you need to and drink a lot of alcohol if you think that will help! It will get better, it will, it will. Oh, and if you are at a loose end did you see on RollonFriday an article about unemployed lawyers doing pro bono work? A load of firms are guaranteeing interviews to people who sign up when they start hiring again. Might be worth a look...

I have an odd tomorrow coming - DD and DH are off to visit the PILs, and I am not going to join them until Friday. It's a bit strange all round - the first "night off" from being a parent I have had in an age. Not sure what I'll do with myself... (pathetic, non?)

hi ladies
just a quickie...
GG oh sweetheart im so sorry what a shite thing to be happening again i hope monday brings good news but if not we are here as you know xx {{{{{higs}}}}}
PnM sorry AF got you
i am CD 26 today so nearly ready for test/af time not looking forward to it as i cant be bothered with the disappointment again but hey ho...
love to all xx
xx ei xx

p.s. you don't buy tat on eBay! You bought that goegous spotty dress for a wedding that I've been coveting ever since you posted the link!

Get well soon whatever it is. 100 sounds like quite a high temp. Make sure your DH fetches you everything you need when he gets in

He, he, he at Bucky and me baby clothes shopping without babies . I wonder if baby shops have to keep an eye out for crazy phantom pregnancy women like me rifling through their stock and snivveling into their babygros!? DH said he'd do it, thank goodness, so I'm expecting a call from him any minute as he descibes baby clothes down the phone to me to make sure he has chosen the correct thing.

They said Monday for the blood test to make sure the HCG has plummetted. The last time I went for a Tuesday blood test and they wanted me to wait until the following Monday for the follow up test, but I insisted on Friday because I was going away for the weekend and couldn't bear not knowing. This time, I'm too resigned to it being over to push for Friday. I don't feel the same sense of anticipation or worry - just utter dejection and a wish that the bleeding would hurry up and go away so I can get on with my life.

I'm pretty sure its not pig flu, although its not nice whatever it is. Can't really go to the Dr's about it though as they hurry you out if you so much as sniff in there at the moment! I still have a temperature (bout 100) which have now had for 3 days - feeling bit better today though so hopefully its on its way out.

Get DH to do the gift shopping - definitely the last thing you want to be doing I imagine. Or aren't you meeting Bucky tomorrow? Maybe you could both go together, after you've had a bit of a liquid lunch, numb the pain a bit?

Why do you have to wait until Monday for another blood test? I seem to remember this is what they did last time - your bloods should be tested every 48 hours to note a significant change, you shouldn't have to wait practically a week to get an answer

That's a bit crap about the job ops. Maybe this is the time to look into a whole new career . Not sure I'd fancy Abu Dhabi either - my dad now lives in Kuwait and asked if I wanted to visit him.... I haven't decided if I do want to yet!

Oh, and good memory about the dog tunnels - I sell quite a lot on ebay (also buy far too much tat as well). Much has gone to freecycle as well, just clear a bit of space!

Bucky - judges get to wear the long wigs. Not sure about them though...

caitni - I'm still bleeding, but lot less than before thank goodness. I have spent all morning googling early miscarriage and chemical pregnancies, but I am pretty convinced it is over although Monday's blood test will confirm.

Hello to everyone else.

picknmix - How are you feeling now, petal? Are you sure it isn't swine flu, you've got?! I have found very few jobs. Depressing really, but unless I want to work in Abu Dhabi (which I don't and DH won't move from London) there are very few jobs for City lawyers, nevermind exciting opportunities! And I thought you were Mrs eBay Expert - didn't you have a great run of seeling things last year such as dog tunnels

Bucky - I could start flogging my stuff on eBay (well, DH's stuff really Mine is far too nice to sell). My sister has done well in the past as a seller and has great feedback, so I might see if she'll do it for me for a cut of the profits?

I now have to go and buy my best friend a baby present. She had a little boy at the weekend and I am dreading going into baby Gap or wherever . I could end up like one of those crazy women who sob into prams and kidnap newborns from maternity units. I might see if DH will do it for me in his lunch hour, if I give him some pointers; like don't buy a dress!

GG sorry to hear that the bleeding hasn't stopped . Glad your DH made it home though.

Morning,

A judge eh GG?? Have you found many jobs to apply for? Really pleased to hear DH made it home last night, has he had to go back up there again this morning? Have the builders returned today?

I'm selling a lot of stuff as well Bucky - wanna go into business although I'm guessing your stuff is a bit more glam than mine. We suddenly realised we have 3 (yep, three) cookers sat in our barn, along with 3 dining tables and a tumble dryer we never use, a buggy bought for neices, nephews and godkids and various other bits of junk. Although DH has done that age old trick of finding things that he couldn't possibly sell even though he hasn't used them for years....

Where you off to in Sept? I'm going away with a group of friends to a villa near Toulon in France (went a few years ago, beautiful place) tres cheap as well as villa is free (belongs to friends family) and flights only £20!!!! Bargain!

I still have no voice, hence why writing so much - you guys are my only conversation at the moment

bucky - I think that KY Jelly is more likely to sell on Hampstead Heath than pre-seed, but it's a good idea!

Are you eBay-ing all your stuff to make enough money to go on holiday?

Funnily enough, I am job hunting today. There is not much out there, but I am considering applying to be a judge I think it will suit my bossy nature..

hello to everyone else.

GGx

p.s. DH came home . I was so pleased to see him.

hi there and sorry for not remembering my manners and asking how you all are. Any news? Please come and distract me with happy news

The bright red bleeding hasn't stopped and I have been having agonising cramps, clots, the works throught the night. It's such a violent reaction. My body is trying very hard to get rid of my beans - I feel like I am being scoured from the inside. My HCG test from the hospital was 72, so clearly +ve. I have to go back on Monday for another blood test to confirm the HCG is going down. I am convinced is no WAY it could go up after all this, so looks like it's all over. Again . I am redundant with no job and unable to conceive after two rounds of IVF. Doesn't do wonders for your self confidence, really.

GG I'm so sorry you're going through this again . It's so unfair. I hope your DH managed to get home to you.

Oh GG it is so crappy that you think the same is happening again. Why the hell can't it just be straightforward for once? God knows you deserve it to be.

I hope the bleeding has stopped. I also hope your DH comes home and takes good care of you.

If there is anything I can do to cheer you up, just say.

GG how are you? Hope the bleeding has stopped and that your DH will be home soon. Thinking of you xxx

MOB Caitni - thanks for the kind words, I am really trying not to lose hope, but i can't see it being anything other than bad news for me and the bean(s). The bleeding is like last time - heavy now with clots and cramping and is bright red . I dug out the remains of that bumper pack of bloomin' Tena Lady incontinence pads that DH mistakenly bought for me last time this happened. I had superstitiously not bought any sanitary pads and now I can't face going out the flat to get any.

picknmix - you are right. Half a days wages for the absent plumbers feels like nothing compared to gaining peace and quiet (even if I am unemployed!). I'm just so pleased to be able to cry in peace. I might even clear the dust and paint and grouting out of the bath and have a long soak.

Thanks for responding all day to my misery and for being there for me, ladies. I've never been more upset and you are all so brilliant.

Yes - just to add - What caitni says is absolutely right - the bleeding does not automatically mean everything is over (meant to add that to my last post and posted too soon).

GG am glad the builders have gone and that your DH is trying to get back. As PnM says a half day's work is a small price to pay for you having the space you need. Your DH needs to get back from Derby - this a "family emergency" - as you need to just put your feet up, with a hot water bottle/heat pad if you have one, and you need your DH with you for the love and support you need. Am really rooting for this little bean to stick. Am sure you're sick of googling but so many women have bleeding in early pregnancy and go on to have healthy babies. Here's to you being one of them.

PS Cannot believe the doctor at the hospital was so utterly insensitive

Oh GG I cannot believe this is happening again. I'm glad you've kicked the builder out & i hope DH will see that you need him at home.

It's utter crap and i know i cannot say anything to make things better. Surely the hospital will see a pattern developing here now?? The most important thing is that you take care of yourself (- and lie around as much as you want or need). Have a good cry and know that we are all here for you. XX

I'm really pleased the builders have gone now - not surprised your crying more now. The cost of a half day of builders pay is small price to pay to give you the space you need right now.

Really pleased you've got hold of DH and he's trying hard to get home to be with you tonight.

How are you feeling now? Is the cramping getting worse? I know you said the hospital said you just had to sit it out but did they say whether you should contact them if your symptoms got any worse?

The builders have gone - not sure if I'm crying more from the relief of being by myself with no hammering or the bleeding. I broke down in tears and asked them to leave because I had some "bad news and needed space". I startled them so badly, they started backing out the front door saying "Oh god, sorry, sorry, are you sure you are ok?!" while trying to pat me on the shoulder.

DH is trying his best to come home tonight. He wasn't too chuffed at the dismissal of the builders, but I don't give a flying f*ck . I spoke to him and he started um-ing and ah-ing about coming home until I burst into tears and begged. I don't think I can go to Derby - I'm in a lot of discomfort now and DH is with a team of people in the same hotel.