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debbsy - so sorry to hear your having a tough time now. bella is right, you do need to cry and get it out. god knows, i had a good cry this weekend, several in fact. i am not all surprised it is hitting you now - i was more amazed that you were sounding so ok. and as for the men, they have no idea - and can be tactless and hopeless and infuriating. it just isnt the same heartbreak for them i dont think. well, not all of them anway.

Teuch - I have tried the "non drinking" for a whole month with no success so now I have realised that I simply can't go without booze every time the 2ww comes around or I shall turn into a loon waiting !!!

Concensus on other threads seems to be that a few drinks before a BFP has no adverse effects.

Hope this helps

Okay girls - what are your views on behaviour in the 2ww re drinking, coffee, etc?

Last time I was really good and stayed off everything 'bad' as soon as the ewcm appeared but this month (since no indication that I even O'd) I ahve not been so well-behaved...

What's the general consensus? Proceed as if pg/proceed as normal with caution or proceed as normal regardless? I know the medical recommendations but it makes the 2ww all the more difficult and it's not easy explaining to folks why you suddenly stopped having coffee or wine!

Also, I have a night on wednesday...

Oh Debbsy I'm so sorry . Sending you hugs and hope that DH is able to be more supportive soon. Changing the subject is typical of a mate of mine, until he's got his head round something he'll avoid the subject. Doesn't help you atall though. Look after yourself and give yourself some space to cry, just cause people see you as strong doesn't mean you not allowed to cry. xx IYSWIM?

Hx

Debbsy - arh bless honey. My advice would be to let out all your emotions, have a good cry as I promise it will get better. We can't always be positive, sometimes its just not possible!!
As for sharing with your Hubby......well I am afraid that they just don't get the pain we feel, can feel quite isolating but you've just got to realise that its not their fault they just don't get it sometimes!

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thanks for all your opk advice, might wait this cycle with crossed fingers and then try opk,s if no luck this time. we'll see

hi all- good so see some newbies on here- welcome to all
rom- hope head office are very remorseful at keeping you waiting!!!
im on 9dpo- so im waiting and waiting and waiting to test! ff says not to test until 28- sod that!

thanks teuch thanks diddle

oh debbsy, yes life is shit i know just how you feel, the tears keep coming here too, sorry that you're DH is being an arse, he might not be sure hwo to deal with it though, men are funny things. He'll come round once its sunk it and he realises what an unsupportive person he is being.

Debbsy - it is soooo hard sometimes . Most of us on here have been through the mill so at least you know we are all here to support you.

I also had bad weekend with DH but remember they just feel so helpless and men tend to like being able to solve things - they just can't solve these situations and don't know how to deal with it. My advice is just tell him straight what you need from him - they ain't mind-readers! Whether that is a cuddle, a sympathetic ear or something else. And we also can't expect them to react in the same way we do as it ain't their body and it is 'just different'.

big hugs pal - hope your day gets better x

rom just read your story (((hugs))) well im having a really shit day thought i was ok went to go to work been in floods of tears since 7 this morning drove to leics from staffs couldnt go into any of my calls sobbing my heart out to my boss,freind and mum not hubby as hes not being v supportive at all keeps changing the subject so we are really clashing badly things that bad today ive gone and poured myself a vodka and coke everyone always says im such a strong person well today im broken i feel like the my hearts been ripped how can i have a positive on fri only hrs later for it to be taken away again and now be negative lifes bloody shit sometimes !!!

Wishing you all the best with your new thread, and sending you baby dust.. Cant wait for all the orders to deliver.
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Handbag, you best test 1st on Friday then! I'm gona hang on until the following Friday if I can, just to make sure I'm well over, as I was 5 days late last month! although I have accounted for that this time, so as AF should be here on 24th I reckon if its not I'm bound to cave in before the Friday

Eek - how nerve racking being some of the first to test!

I was thinking of trying to hold off until at least Monday - which would be CD31 but DPO14. However, this weekend I have my sister hen weekend and we're off to a spa for the day followed by dinner and much drinking. Given the fact that I've signed up for a mud wrap - I'm a bit concerned about what it might contain, etc.
So I may be tempted to do a test on Friday morning - just in case .

No noticeable symptons although getting some odd tingling in my boobs. Having convinced myself last month that I was pregnant, I'm making no such mistakes this week and in fact, i'm busily convincing myself I'm not pregnant so that I can avoid the disappointment!

Oh gaw'd are we the 1st ones spotlight on us three then

frizbe and bella thank you
and bella i really hope and pray you are right!

who is our first tester on the thread then? frizbe/handbag and teuch????? are you paying attention head office!

busy thread already! looks like I will be testing with Frizbe and Handbag...when you aiming to test and what you using?

Going on last cycle I reckon I would have been due AF (note positive language..instead of AF IS due ) a week on wednesday (CD35) so I will try to hold out until then.

Any symptoms?
Teuch x

Rom - mate {{{{HUGS}}}}}, me thinketh you are going to be one of our "triumph over adversity pregnancy stories" on another thread....you mark my words!!

Oh Rom mate {{{{{{HUGE HUGS}}}}}}} and lots of dust your way
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yellowbear - thanks how are you?!

bella - LOL at getting thrills where you can - so true

diddle - you can determine due dates from when you ovulated but using OPK's will not necessarily make it more accurate. OPK's are not 100% reliable but they can be a very useful tool in conjunction with other signs of Ov'ing - watching CM being THE most important. welcome back to the thread and the crazy world of peeing on sticks!

glad to see a few other girls married to older men, LOL!

debbsy - so sorry about bfn after your stressful weekend. you are being v. strong and brave.

charlee - all the best for tomorrow honey

wendy - you asked me on end of last thread how long i'd been ttc'ing for before. well, mr.rom had radiotherapy following cancer when he was 25 yrs old so we were told things might be difficult for us and i had almost lost hope (we hadnt used contraception for years) when i became pg. it was probably one of the happiest days of my life. no, it was the happiest day. followed a few months later by one of the saddest days you know the rest....

Hi Diddle

Knowing when you ovulated does help determine EDD, but if your cycles are regular and not ridiculously long then it won't be much more accurate than just using LMP date. And remember that EDD is just that estimated due date.

I think that the main reason why so many of us like using them is to help to pinpoint ov, and thus to time our BDing more precisely, thus increasing our chances of getting pg in each cycle.

Hope this helps

Diddle - no don't think they would give a more accurate due date. We on here like them as they can show that you ovulate earlier or later than previously thought. Also the digital ones give a nice smiley face which is a bit of a thrill!.............well you've got to grab it where you can haven't you with this ttc lark!!

Hi Rom, just popping in to say sorry about AF . Hoping this thread produces as many graduates as the last and that you are there at the top!

Good luck to all who are ttc!

Hello, can you ladies tell me what the benefits of OPks are, apart from obviously knowing when i have ovulated. Can it help me determine a more acuurate due date etc? I'm on my first cycle after my first AF after my m/c and i am wondering whether to use them or not?