f*ck, f*ck, f*ck .....

dis just sending you hugs, horrible situation to be in i know from experience. im on msn if you need to chat hun xxx

Message deleted

ray81, i am sorry for your miscarriages. it must be a very difficutl time , and very upsetting, so i totally understand your reaction

also , perhaps conception not hte best topic BUT, in a panic, you are not neccesarily going to be thinking about other peoples sensitivites etc

can see both sides, but DIs needs support as much as someone who has had a miscarriage i think

Dis - not sure which pill you are on but does the leaflet say that the pill itself can make you have a positive pregnancy test result?

Trust me, when I found out I was pg with dd the last thing on my mind was, oh well, some people would love to be in my shoes . The dilemma an unplanned pg brings is about far more than the pg itself. Because I'm betting that while you say you'd give anything, you wouldn't want to be in her position
Dis

Ray - I'm sorry about your MCs, they are so bloody unfair. Good luck with the future. Take care.

i'm not having a go i do understand how she feels i have been on both ends i have a DD who was unplanned when i was on the pill and at the time i had some people who were trying to get pg around me, i was very upset about being pg and spoke to those people. i didnt find out til yrs later that i upset them ALOT and i realy wished they had said something to me and id known just how badly my words affected them at the time. i would have been more sensitive thats all with what i said.
I have been trying for 5 yrs and have just had my 4th miscarriage so i would give anything for an unplanned pg.

Ill go now sorry if i upset anyone i didnt mean to and i hope you get the result you want dis.

I think maybe the problem is that the Conception is topic is more commmonly used by people who are trying to conceive. No-one's trying to upset anyone else, the OP just wanted advice and opinions on the pic of her test. Well said Unicornvomit.

Ray - sorry I don't think that's very helpful! It's surely quite plain from the frank title of the thread that the op isn't turning cartwheels and I know that's bloody unfair when a positive test would mean so much for some people. Speaking as someone who once looked at a HPT that I did not want to be positive can I tell you that both sides of the fence are pretty crap actually. Perhaps the best thing to do is to offer advice where we can and keep our personal feelings away from the op's situation? Her feelings are her feelings and it's expecting a lot of someone is such distress to post thinking of the feelings of posters who she doesn't expect to read this - iyswim.

ray81 - I understand your position, believe me I do. It wasn't a cakewalk to have DD - but SPD is crippling and I have been advised by physio not to have any more children due to this.

The OP has not started this thread to gloat, she has started it for support, so please do not have a go at her.

i don;t think women should have to censor their feelings about a possible unplanned pregnancy to spare those who are not able to get pregnant. should we not post birth stories either?

part of conception/pregnancy are unplanned pregnancies.

i can see why it is upsetting or galling, but MN has to be open to support every woman, whatever her dilemma regarding pregnancy

That's not helpful at all ray81. I understand why you might feel that way but fgs have some compassion

i think it is a positive to be honest 2 lines is always a positive. if you want to be sure all you can do is do another test first thing in the morning then you will def know.

Can i just say that although this wasnt planned for you there are alot of women on here that have been trying to have a baby for yrs and have had Miscarriages and IVF without success and would give anything to be in your position so we can try to give advise to you but the fact is alot of us are very jealous of your position. I just wanted to put that out there as it can be very hard when someone says "i cant believe this shit" and its all you want.
I'm not be horrid or anything but you may get more advise and responses if you were to refrain from these sorts of comments.

Oh dear - guess the pill isn't an ideal contraceptive for you. Get the digital one and then see what you see.

I know it's not what you wanted but you and your dh will find a way to cope if it's positive. Everybody does - and it would be nice for your youngest dd to have somebody to play with. There are lots of plueses as well as the scary 'aaaaaaaargh' stuff.

How did your dh react?

I thought the failure rate was down to it being taken incorrectly. Shows what I know.

Good luck dis.

dis. If you suffer from PGP, (once known as spd) then see a chiropractor sooner rather than later, I'm sure you know that physio doesn't do very much.

You'll be ok, come on here and moan about your hips. Hopefully i'll be just behind you and my hips suffer something shocking. We can winge together.

susie, the Pill, even when taken correctly does have a failure rate, something like 1 or 2 % , so it is really effective. but no contraception is 100 %

dis you need at least 4 hrs between wees i'm afraid, especially if it's early days.

Test 2st thing and show us result but tbh, looks very pos to me. Evap line has no colour and i've seen enough neg tests in my time to know one of those when I see one.

Sorry it's not what you want to hear, you'll be ok, get to gp's pronto if you seriously want to look at your options.

Have you been taking the pill regularly (ie not forgetting it at all?) If so, you won't be ovulating so you won't be pregnant.

Or am I being really thick? (Quite likely...)

Maybe it was a chemical pregnancy if you had a line and now nothing.

Either way I'd go with the most recent test.

Disenchanted - put your mind totally at rest and get the nurse at your surgery to do one for you. Good luck.