f*ck, f*ck, f*ck .....

I've been following this thread. So plaesed for you that you got the result you wanted. Hope if you ever decide to have #4 it's on your own terms.

Oh good Dis, you must feel so relieved.

I know where you are coming from Dis, DD1 was 18 months when DD2 was born, DD1 was 4 and DD2 2 1/2 when DD3 was born and now I am thinking of another.

I think yes they do get a bit less attention but then again they always have someone to play with and both the older ones dote on DD3, DD1 keeps asking if we can have anotehr baby

she'll see you buying the test you know disenchanted, my mother caught me buying a pregnancy test when we went shopping together.

Good luck, hope you get the result you want. I have to say, I'm a tiny bit jealous. I wouldn't mind a fourth...

Good luck Dis.

I know what you mean about DD being your baby, I feel a bit like this with DD3 but then I thought I do really want another baby, I had forgotten how lovely they are and how fast they grow up, obviously want another child too IYSWIM.

I am a great believer in things happening for a reason.

Try not to fret too much yet dis (easier said than done, I know). Get yourself another test and see what it says before you upset yourself too much.

I've just read that and realised what useless twaddle it is. If you are pregnant, DD will still always be your baby, no matter if there's another or how old she gets.

Take care today. x

aww dis. I had an unexpected pregnancy with DD2, I cried for a week, DD1 was 9 months old at the time. I couldn't function for ages.. I didn't want to do 'pregnancy' again. It will be ok if you are pregnant. You know where I am ((((hugs))))

Good better to know than beating yourself up thinking about it.

Hope you get the result you want, I had a scare when DD3 was less than 3 months and thought "oh shit - no" when I did the test there was a part of me disappointed with the BFN though, sometimes things are strange IYSWIM

Thinking of you Dis, are you testing tomorrow morning, first pee of the morning???

Oh Ray & Dis - neither of you have upset anyone.

Ray - you do not need to upset yourself, no-one thinks that you were trying to upset anyone now. x

nothernlurker, yes firm opinions it was and i realy realy didnt mean to upset anyone or make dis feel bad in anyway, hense have spent the last hr in tears as feel so bad i realy wish i hadnt said anything at all now. if there was a way i could delete it believe me i would.

as i said i hope dis gets the result she wants and forgets i said anything at all.

Disenchanted - come on now - imo no need for you to be fretting about upsetting people. This thread is about you and your situation, please don't add a burden of unjustified guilt to all your other feelings atm.

Ray - the same applies to you! I guess you got rather a lot of very firm opinions all in a lump there and this must be a very raw topic for you. I read your post and felt quite protective of the op hence my post - apologies for assuming you hadn't been on the other side of the fence as well. That was rather crap of me.

We had fertility treatment for DC1, fell pregnant naturally with DC2, then I had a m/c and was devastated, gave up trying and a few years later when we definitely weren't trying I discovered I was pregnant with DC3. At every stage there was a whole raft of different emotions, ranging from the terrified, to the delighted, to the devastated, to the shocked.

I think what I'm trying to say (badly) is that we all experience different things at different times, and need support and advice regardless. You're quite right to post on MN, and I hope that you get the answer you want. Good luck.

dis you didnt upset me honest as i said in my last post i have been in your position and spent 6 months of my pg in tears so i realy do get how you feel and how hopeless it all seems. i never meant it to sound like i was having ago,i hate upsetting people and perhaps i could have worded it better. i just know that there are others on the conception thread that will take it to heart alittle and was trying to get that across but just ignore what i said. i dont want this to turn into a debate thread, like others have said its for you to get advise.

perhaps you should do another test as you now seem to have had one of each. i would say a digital would be best and its in plain english at least then you will know. i realy do hope you get the result you want just as i hope that people who are ttc get the result they want too. i know you cannot help that this is bad for you i realy wish it wasnt as it is a horrid position to be in.

dis - tis teh right topic to post on. i have been ttc for a zillion years and i am still capable of empathising with you.

Looks positive to me Dis. Have you told DH?

Definitely go get a digital one tomorrow, and if you can, stop taking the pill until you retest.