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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The Hut of Gl/Doom... Please don't ask about our reproductive plans as a smack round the head with TCOYF often offends

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OracleInaCoracle · 02/06/2009 09:05

new thread.

for those who are having problems getting pg

or staying pg

or are simply fed up of being told to relax and having to smile and say "you never know"

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OracleInaCoracle · 01/07/2009 11:30

thats good news! i was advised last month to abstain, did we? did we buggery!

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Heebeejeebee · 01/07/2009 11:27

Lissie - that's great news! Go for it

My private consultant who I see about the recurrent m/c spoken to my NHS consultant yesterday about me doubling my dose of tamoxifen and they both agree I should do it.

BUT I can't do it on the NHS (increased risk of multiple births and something about monitoring) so I have tightened my belt and agreed to do it privately. At least i won't be advised not to try if there are too many follicles!!!

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OracleInaCoracle · 01/07/2009 10:09

hi all, rainbows, sounds like a good idea to get the tests done. as heebee says try the asprin, just in case. tbh i wouldn't have sex until you get a bfn. if only to be on the safe side.

good news here, had 2 mature follicles (1 on each side) and 2 immature ones on tubeless side. womb lining was 9mm (was only 6mm last month) so all systems go. dh got a start date for RAF - 11/02/10 woo hoo!!

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Heebeejeebee · 01/07/2009 09:49

Hi rainbow. Very annoying that af is taking her time coming...

Good news about the tests - I had them in Jan for peace of mind, more than anything else and came back borderline for the killer cells test, so have been taking steroids from ov to af, though I think omega 3 is also supposed to help. I also take a junior asprin a day, as my consultant says while it isn't proven that it does anything, won't do me any harm.

Tricky one re the shag. DH is quite squeamish so it has never been something I've thought about. On the basis the spotting is AF I would have thought it would be ok?

rainbowdays · 30/06/2009 22:08

Argggg, I am still just spotting, af has not properly arrived yet. But the good news is I did loose some blood from my arm today , I had blood tests for recurrent miscarriage, so although we are fully expecting the tests to come back normal, decided that should get checked just in case. Did mean that dh had to get blood test too!!!! Dh had been away for the weekend and just got back, I want a shag for shags sake, but not sure whether I should, having had all the advise about avoiding sex while bleeding during m/c due to risk of infection etc, I would be safe wouldn't I?!! oh the things I discuss here!!!!

Heebeejeebee · 29/06/2009 11:16

Thanks ladies

Rainbow - I remember after my m/cs it was one of the few times I was pleased that my period had arrived and I was another stage along the process...

Lissie - how ironic re your skin! Got everything crossed for you (though not legs )

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OracleInaCoracle · 29/06/2009 07:56

heebee, im sorry about your period, thats really pants

rainbow, must be such a relief!

well, hormones arent too bad today (but is only 8am) my skin however is dreadful. really, really awful. i feel so ugly and vile that sex is the last thing on my mind. however, dh is on schedule for a marathon week!

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rainbowdays · 28/06/2009 22:26

Heebee sorry to hear af got you today.

It looks like I have started af as well with spotting, but for me it is a relief that the chcg is finally leaving my system and I might finally be coming to the end of this m/c.

Lissie - how are the hormone rages going?

Heebeejeebee · 28/06/2009 17:31

So AF got me today.. on to the next month. Just waiting to hear if I can double the tamoxifen or not. If not, roll on the end of the year and ivf..

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OracleInaCoracle · 22/06/2009 09:26

lol heebee, i was a bit sceptical about the mood swings and didnt think id been that bad, dh however vehemently disagrees!

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Heebeejeebee · 22/06/2009 09:23

for the bfns and dh's bf's dw.. I'm starting to get twitchy that another of my friends is going to announce she is pregnant which would be their second child in the time I have ftc one...

shrek - my consultant asked me how I was getting on on the tamoxifen. I muttered something about mood swings and he leant forward and said "is DH still alive". I said he was, though only just. He leant back in his chair and said "well, that's alright then"

shreksmissus · 21/06/2009 23:29

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rainbowdays · 21/06/2009 20:57

Shrek - oh no, men are not good for hormones, at least the clomid will give you a definite reason to throttle him!

lissie - horrible dh's bf's dw....

I meanwhile am feeling a little too good, had good weekend and able to forget all the horrible stuff for a few hours was just what I needed.

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OracleInaCoracle · 21/06/2009 17:02

heebee, ah, will see how i respond to the clomid. thanks!

shreks, when do you start the clomid? i was horrendous last month. woke dh up one night to rant at him for going to the pub 4 years ago

dh's bf's dw is pg again. am truly fucked off.

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shreksmissus · 21/06/2009 15:18

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Heebeejeebee · 21/06/2009 14:45

Sorry to hear about the bfns..

Clomid thinned my uterine lining, and I think it has a tendancy to do this over time as well, so it just wasn't going to work out. Tamoxifen apparently does the same as clomid, but thickens your lining..

I take it exactly the same as clomid - days 2-5 then the scan on around day 11, though I've not had to have the scans for the past 3 months as I was responding well - the one the private consultant gave me was the first one since Jan..

shreksmissus · 21/06/2009 06:57

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OracleInaCoracle · 20/06/2009 17:01

hi all, happy birthday cedar, im sorry xxx

heebee, fingers crossed for you, whats the difference between clomid and tamoxifen?

rainbows, hope you are ok

darrell, sorry sweet.

shreks, i take mine CD2 on, and have tracking scan on CD10. think thats pretty much the norm tbh. what dosage are you on?

im out too. period started this morning. feel a bit foolish now. still, on with the clomid i suppose. wanted a march baby anyway

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DarrellRivers · 20/06/2009 15:50

cedar- that all sounds lovely
well, bowing out for this month, cd32 , bfn, and I'm sure it is negative
lissie , good luck monday

shreksmissus · 20/06/2009 14:37

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Heebeejeebee · 20/06/2009 14:32

Cedar - so sorry to hear that. I'm glad you're being spoilt on your birthday - I've got a wii fit and they're great! Have a lovely meal tonight...

Lissie - everything crossed for you on Monday

Darrell - keep us posted re testing!

I went to see my m/c guy. i mentioned to him I was about to ov so he gave me a scan (I'm on tamoxifen via the NHS as clomid thinned my uterine lining. V annoying as I got pregnant first time on clomid, but tamoxifen doesn't seem to be doing quite as good a job). It showed I only had one egg, so he is going to speak to my NHS consultant about doubling the dose of tamoxifen. I mentioned to him my nhs consultant was concerned about triplets, which he dismissed with a wave of his hand - my kind of guy!

And so begins the 2ww...

cedar12 · 20/06/2009 12:30

Hi everyone thanks for thinking of me. All started last night quite bad cramps last night and lots of clots but its all eased off know. Spent the whole morning in our pjs playing my new wee fit that dh got me. Got very spoilt wee fit and a new digital radio I am addicted to the radio alway got it on. Dd got some nice knickers and some smellys all chosen by herself. Off out for a nice meal tonight then having a party in a couple of weeks with mates etc.
Hope the test goes alright on monday Lissie will have everything crossed at a course all day monday but will try and get online inthe evening.
Good luck Darrel with testing when will you test again?

rainbowdays · 20/06/2009 12:24

cedar - so sorry to hear that you had bad news. I hope that you get extra tlc and that you manage to enjoy some of your birthday today, am thinking of you.

Lissie - I really hope that you have good result on monday.

Darrell - hope you get a bfp soon too.

Wow, I am full of emotion here, thinking of you all.

DarrellRivers · 19/06/2009 18:59

and your gp sounds lovely

DarrellRivers · 19/06/2009 18:59

I don't know
I don't think I want to which is odd

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