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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The Hut of Gl/Doom... Please don't ask about our reproductive plans as a smack round the head with TCOYF often offends

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OracleInaCoracle · 02/06/2009 09:05

new thread.

for those who are having problems getting pg

or staying pg

or are simply fed up of being told to relax and having to smile and say "you never know"

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rainbowdays · 15/07/2009 09:54

Lissie - so for you seeing your cousins children treated so badly, while you have all the love there is to give, it hurts.

Heebeejeebee · 15/07/2009 09:11

Lissie i saw this yesterday, but didn't have time to post. I'm just speechless. It's so awful.

I also thought that everything you said in your op was so true - especially the added strain ttc/ftc puts on a relationship...

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OracleInaCoracle · 14/07/2009 17:46

your thoughts although ive a clue.

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shreksmissus · 13/07/2009 22:43

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OracleInaCoracle · 13/07/2009 16:47

i know. i want to scream "be grateful you idiot" and tbh i nearly did (clomid is turning me into Norman Bates - rage woke me up on sat night)

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Heebeejeebee · 13/07/2009 16:10

Ah yes... the bum propped up on pillows.. trying to watch tv between my legs

I think it was an HCG trigger - it was called Ovitrine and due to the short notice I had to trek to the Lister to get it!

Sooo annoying re your eggs. You put all this effort in to something, the least you think your body would do would be to co-operate..

That's horrible, what you saw.. It makes you want to shake them and ask them if they realise how lucky they are... (which they clearly don't)..

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OracleInaCoracle · 13/07/2009 15:49

god, sex rather than an attempt at procreation... i think i remember it... and being able to go to sleep after instead of sticking your bum in the air... i ov'd on CD17 last month but period was 6d late. v annoying, but clomid increases progesterone too, and i need the help on that side.

heebee, was it the HCG trigger you had? my left side is dominant too, unfortunately its tubeless but they wont discount any eggs from there because they can travel (yeah right) and this month 2 eggs from bad side released on CD14 while lovely big follie on good side was still there. am v annoyed.

shreks, my cons said i would be fertile from CD10-CD17 on clomid so sounds like you gave it a good shot, sperm can live up to 4d (the girlies anyway) so not lost at all!

at work today saw a pg woman with 2yo dd. woman slapped dd and called her a scrote. its so unfair i want to cry.

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Heebeejeebee · 13/07/2009 14:30

Thank you!

I wouldn't rule out hope then - as I understand it they can last 72 hours so your day 13 attempt may have done the job!

I know what you mean about precision sex. As I'm going private at the moment (the NHS think I'm doing fine, but the private guy I was seeing about the m/cs thought I should double the dose, which I can't do on the NHS) gave me an injection which released the egg 24 hours later. It was nice to have that uncertainty taken away for once.. Didn't relieve the pressure though, which is more of the problem in our house! Do you remember having sex just for the fun of it?

shreksmissus · 13/07/2009 13:44

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Heebeejeebee · 13/07/2009 13:33

It is official - the world is pregnant. And last month was my due date.

I had my scan which showed that despite me taking double the dose of tamoxifen, I still only had 1 egg (a good size, but only 1 nonetheless). Also, it was on the left side which is the 2nd month in a row that the right side hasn't produced anything. So now I have to self-inject myself with something on days 3, 5, 7 and 9 to try and galvanise it into action. Also, my uterine lining was only 7mm so am on progesterone supplements. So the steroids are making me irritable and the progesterone is supposed to (as a side effect) get rid of pmt. My hormones have no idea whether they are coming or going.

Shrek - the clomid (or the tamoxifen which I'm on now) didn't change the day I ov'd - it stayed pretty much the same as it has always been (obviously no help to you!). Did you manage to do the deed before you went on holiday?

shreksmissus · 13/07/2009 12:58

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OracleInaCoracle · 12/07/2009 16:13

shreks, do you have another scan? how are you finding the clomid? i have been particularly psychotic this month! ikwym though about it being impossible to have the "right" sex. we dont have sex after ov anymore, just in case and so only really have a window of 10d, if one of us is ill, we're screwed!

rainbow its totally understandable to comfort eat.

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shreksmissus · 12/07/2009 12:18

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rainbowdays · 12/07/2009 00:05

It is true everyone else is pg, even my dh commented the other day saying it, and he being male would never normally notice pregnant women and babies.

I am eating like a pig and scoffing all the wrong foods and making myself fat. I know subconsciously it is because I want a fat pg belly. But it is not helping my chances of getting pg by going from overweight to nearly obese!

Lissie, sorry you are having such a lousy time of it at the moment. You are sounding very depressed about it all. Wish there was some way of helping other than just the virtual absinthe!

nomore - it is so hard to not get hopes up sometimes, our bodies like to fool us and taunt us.

All I can do here is listen while we drink.

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OracleInaCoracle · 11/07/2009 18:38

i take it everyone else is feeling shitty. why is everyone pg? seriously? everywhere i look i see bumps and newborns. in the meantime i have ds asking why he cant have a baby brother or sister. i feel like screaming because your mummy has a crappy body and fucks up being pg everytime.

im so tired.

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nomoremagnolia · 10/07/2009 20:16

Thanks just wanted somewhere to hide out and drink myself stupid drown my sorrows. Feeling cross with myself that I let myself get my hopes up this month.

rainbowdays · 09/07/2009 22:22

Sorry I did not see this message earlier, can we help with listening?

nomoremagnolia · 07/07/2009 13:09

just want to be gloomy for a bit so glad the hut is still going (or is glad pushing it? relieved anyway)

shreksmissus · 07/07/2009 12:38

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rainbowdays · 06/07/2009 18:32

Shreks - wish we could all think that it is quiet here because we are all in a positive frame of mind with ooddles of hope, but I suspect the opposite is true for all of us. Apathy is the feeling I have at the moment, haven't got the energy for anything else.

shreksmissus · 06/07/2009 14:43

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OracleInaCoracle · 02/07/2009 17:00

rainbows, thanks. the prob is that the last thing i want to do is have sex and working tonight, but CD13 scan tomorrow so must be done. hope that af arrives properly

shreks, i had my 1st tracking scan on CD10.

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Heebeejeebee · 02/07/2009 16:01

Rainbow - that so hard I hope af either ends or gets heavier soon.. My 2nd m/c happened exactly 1 year to the day that my dad died. I still don't understand why life is so cruel sometimes..

shrek my scans (both on clomid and tamoxifen) have been been between days 11-13 of my cycle (so 6-8 days after taking the tablets). I tend to go for day 13 as I ov anywhere between days 14 and 18

shreksmissus · 02/07/2009 14:33

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rainbowdays · 02/07/2009 09:54

Lissie - great to hear you got good news, hope that you are shagging well despite the mood swings.

Heebee - Hope that the increase in drugs does the job for you.

I think I have progressed onto light flow . Not sure but it is now red and a bit more. It seems mentally I was so prepared for a heavy af with painful cramps that this half-hearted af is not giving me the cathartic emotional end to the m/c that I was expecting. Oh well just more mental torture from my own body. But it is also happening exactly two years to the day to my first confirmed miscarriage.