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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The Hut of Gl/Doom... Please don't ask about our reproductive plans as a smack round the head with TCOYF often offends

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OracleInaCoracle · 02/06/2009 09:05

new thread.

for those who are having problems getting pg

or staying pg

or are simply fed up of being told to relax and having to smile and say "you never know"

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poppy75 · 09/10/2009 17:05

Shrek Definately time for a drink - large glass of red coming it's way! Big hug- it sucks! It's so frustating when after all our efforts lead to nothing!!! I guess you'll be jumping back on our crappy merry-go-round for another spin, feel like I've been on it for the last 4 years, I'm just going into week 2 - here I go again!!!

Polly have fun - you'll have to sneak a quickie if you can afterall it's how all those teenagers seem to do it!!!! Oh and don't forget a litre of vodka and 20 fags!!

I am definately going to need a drink tonight , I've had a hectic week and have been really good as haven't drunk for two weeks, is it really bad to start when I'm going into week 2????

PollyPoo · 09/10/2009 11:08

Oh Shreks, so sorry . Am sending you a lovely bottle of wine, and a box of thorntons. And I hope you managed to have a good birthday. 30 is fab, I loved it. I am 38 now and the ticking of my clock is practically deafening, its v depressing.

Hello to skihorse and snazzy. And Lissie, hugs for you. I can't imagine what you are going through at the moment.

Well I should be ovulating this weekend and guess what we're doing? Going to London for our first weekend away without DD... sounds great, yes? Not so much - we're staying with friends in a flat share (min of 4 other people, poss 6). Not sure there will be much opportunity for ttc! Feckin typical... must pay more attention to calendar when booking weekend activities.

OK, I'm off to finish packing, got to leave in an hour and DH will be back soon expecting me to be ready . Have a good weekend all. xx

shreksmissus · 09/10/2009 00:34

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skihorse · 08/10/2009 14:43

First off - drinks for everyone.

lissielou Your colleague sounds absolutely vile - just how can she still do that? Now, I'd like to think I'm old and wise enough to know that people are going to smoke & drink. But you'd do it in the garage right? And you would never, ever, EVER admit to it!

I'm sorry to hear about your nightmares... I was lucky - I dreamt I met my mc when he was a grown man (23 years old). It gave me some peace - it'll sound bonkers - but it just felt like he'd grown up somewhere else but that he was fine.

Downside - if he was 23 that means I'm going to be bloody well dead in 23.5 years time. Arse.

poppy75 · 07/10/2009 20:52

Lissie - big hugs to you I know how tough it is, hope your consultant appointment is good, have you got anything nice planned in the meantime? I think you deserve a treat and some 'me time'. As for your colleague I can't believe the justice of it all!!! I had to work with patients who had taken so many hard drugs and then injured themselves and still had beautiful babies when I had my MC it was heartbreaking and really made me wonder about karma. I changed jobs as I couldn't be nice. I can't believe that she is moaning and groaning around you. Maybe she will get a baby who doesn't like to sleep!! she might also stuggle to loose the baby bump! It's the small things that I hope for now!!!

rainbow I agree I think it's good to name them and acknowledge lost babies, I had such a strong feeling that my last baby was a boy and still picture him in my mind. I too have completely pigged out today, got home from work and demolished an Indian takeaway! Now starting on some halloween chocolates

Shrekmissus Happy Birthday congratulations!! 30 sounds very young to me (I'm 34 now) I can totally understand about the testing, I've crossed my fingers for the weekend for you, we need a BFP around here!!!

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OracleInaCoracle · 07/10/2009 20:10

not mad at all. we have a rose bush that we planted for them all, but this last mc has knocked me so hard i dont know how to cope. my hormones are still messed up, im still so tired. we go to see cons on 4th dec and i know he will tell us to stop. maybe we should.

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rainbowdays · 07/10/2009 18:47

OK I am officially pigged off with the lack of af at the moment. My temper is short-fused to say the least, I feel as un-energetic and low as can be and generally just ugggg. I am eating and eating, today as soon as youngest went for nap. I sat and just watched tv, I could not be bothered doing anything except stuffing my face with food and watching rubbish on tv.

I have had enough.

rainbowdays · 07/10/2009 15:26

Lissie - no it is no justice at all, can I wish your collegue more discomfort so that she has to leave you sooner than 2w? Sorry to hear about your nightmares of your m/c babies crying for you. I wish there was something that I could say that would help, but I know that your pain is so deep, that most things I could say would just sound trite. Have you named each of your precious lost children? My m/c baby I miss the most is one I named Sarah and it is hard to think that I can't hold her but I am so glad to think that she has brothers and sisters with her keeping her company and that she is not alone. Does that sound mad.

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OracleInaCoracle · 07/10/2009 14:57

shreks, i second rainbow, 30 is a good age!

i dont even have the energy to rant anymore, my pg colleagueis going on mat leave in 2w and i cant wait. she has continued to smoke, drink and take drugs throughout her pg and has the nerve to moan about her bump as if its an inconvenience. meanwhile I am having nightmares about my miscarried babies crying for me.

no fucking justice.

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rainbowdays · 07/10/2009 11:32

Shrek - for your pain, but happy birthday ye old one!!!! Oh the joys of being that young, I was depressed for the whole year that I was 29 worrying about being 30 single and assuming I would never find anyone or ever have any children. But my 30th year was great, I then met my now dh! Hope that you get your dream this year.
I am also a day late for af but huge BFN's for me not even a hint of an evaporation line to make me know anything other than I am definitely not pregnant, just waiting and seeing how delayed af will be, I know it will be arriving soon . Anyway, I hope you have a great birthday, and that you get spoilt rotten today.

Lissie - I can understand the need to lick your wounds. Does your reappearance here, mean you are ready to rant or is the pain still too raw? I have been thinking of you.

Hi newbies here (ski-horse, glad you feel relaxed enough here to rant), by the way it is important that all newbies provide all the virtual drinks for their first visits!!!! So where is my vodka and tonic?????

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OracleInaCoracle · 07/10/2009 09:35

hi all, sorry Ive not been on. have been very selfish and been licking my wounds. hello to all the newcomers, im sure you with love the hut as much as we do, its the one place you can scream about the shittiness of ftc.

how is everyone?

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shreksmissus · 07/10/2009 00:34

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poppy75 · 06/10/2009 20:38

Hello Snazzy and skihorse welcome to the hut!!

Skihorse I've also had two book bought for me, which although sweet of people I just wanted to say 'don't you think I've read all this before??' I guess it is better than when I am trying to lay off the vino everyone can't help pointing out that everyone else smokes and drinks their heart out and just fall pregnant and maybe I should try that!

Had a good day today however and feeling good Hope everyone is ok

shreksmissus hello how are you today? Still waiting or have you tested??

skihorse · 06/10/2009 18:52

Sorry, I'm new to this thread and I've not had a chance to read it all yet - but can I just say that if one more arsehole recommends this fucking book to me I'll rip out their ovaries with a biro.

Thank you for your time.

Seriously gals, does buying the book guarantee pregnancy? Will we learn new and wonderful things such as i) don't be an alcoholic, ii) lay off the smack, iii) eat fewer pies, iv) smoke menthols because they're green - ergo healthy. patronising wankers.

Snazzy · 06/10/2009 15:03

Hello new here!

shreksmissus · 05/10/2009 22:47

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poppy75 · 05/10/2009 18:48

Oh and had two other people at work tell me that I should have children as life really isn't fulfilling without them! I really didn't need that today, I was only asking how their children were. I thought to myself 'you obviousl had no problems ttc otherwise you would never go there'

Apart from all that it's been a great weekend! and I am feeing quite positive this month

poppy75 · 05/10/2009 18:45

Hello

shrek I completely know what you mean about AF, I can't even remember what it felt like to be pregnant. When I hear about all the problems and hard work it is to have a baby I don't know how I'll cope as I 'm finding ttc so exhausting, emotionally draining and depressing!!! How shocked will we be when we get our BFP's!!!!

fishie AF arrived last week and like you although you get the down feeling that you are not PG it is also a little relief, so wierd!!

thought I might share with you this weeks main bug bear - friends who have only been with boyfriends for under a year already talking about ttc soon!!! I keep thinking that I was ttc years before they met and they will probably have two before I get another BFP!!!

I feel really mean and nasty but I would love to have a few other people around me who don't conceive in the first month of trying!!!

shreksmissus · 05/10/2009 15:34

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fishie · 05/10/2009 15:17

shrek i am starting to feel very relieved when period arrives. really messes with your head this stuff doesn't it.

shreksmissus · 05/10/2009 15:13

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rainbowdays · 05/10/2009 05:50

shrek - sounds like you have a good plan there. As for me, I am about 11dpo approx. af due in the next couple of days. I am not hopeful, but still wishful!

shreksmissus · 04/10/2009 12:54

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rainbowdays · 03/10/2009 23:10

Shrek - I know what you mean about the prospect of a bfp being scary. I am glad that your friend reassured you that your dd will not miss out if she gets a sibling.

I am in the horrible 2ww and hating it this time.

shreksmissus · 02/10/2009 09:58

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