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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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An egg goes forth and multiplies.......................we hope.

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treedelivery · 22/05/2009 19:29

Hello.

I am going to be an egg donor. Lots of people in rl are interested in why I am, how I will be and when it will happen.

So I thought I would start a thread. I did a small test thread to make sure posting in the conception topic would not be insensitive to those who may have struggles, and recieved no negative feedback.

I really hope the thread is interesting [obviously] and I also hope to see some debate around the issue. I'd love those with experience to get involved too.

So here goes.......

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EachPeachPearMum · 22/05/2009 22:36

tree how long did you feed dd1 for?
How does the couple feel knowing they'll (hopefully) get an embryo, but knowing that they have to wait what may be a long time?

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treedelivery · 22/05/2009 22:23

I think I was planning on feeding till she stopped - whenever she wanted really.

But now I will have to absolutley stop before treatment can start.

How do I decide!!?? Will go to 6 months obviously, but then what? The clinic said they felt sept a good time, which would make dd 7-8 months. It's the one cloud in a sunny sky tbh.

But the clinic and couple are being very lovely about it. I feel I'd like to be able to offer them an egg before they would get to the top o the donor waiting list [easily a year]

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PatTheHammer · 22/05/2009 21:49

Hi Tree, adding this to my threads.

How long were you planning to feed DD for, 1 yr?

I'm keeping an eye on this

JustcallmeDog · 22/05/2009 21:28

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moosemama · 22/05/2009 20:38

Hi Tree. Like Spink I just wanted to say hi.

What you are doing is so amazing and selfless I take my hat of to you.

Will be lurking around following this thread with interest and wonder.

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treedelivery · 22/05/2009 20:30

Hello Spink!

Will tell about yesterdays day of screening etc after have done some housework. How mundane!!

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Spink · 22/05/2009 20:28

just wanted to say HELLO tree and that I think you are doing a rather wonderful thing and I will be following this thread and jumpingin with very clever questions and observations if I ever have any. So you might not see much of me. But I'll be here

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treedelivery · 22/05/2009 20:10

One shot wonders, both of mine.

So no, have no experience of this. Have abit of insighti nto it all though - as am a midwife

It's all futher complicated by my bf. DD2 is 4 months - so the treatment wont start till I finish feeding. AM hoping a long thread of great debate will help me know how to juggle the need for these people to have a baby, against my need to bf buba.

Have started thread now though, as had the prelim meeting and counciling this week and am excited!

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TrillianAstra · 22/05/2009 20:02

Did you have your babies naturally with no IVF or anything? So you haven't been though this before?

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treedelivery · 22/05/2009 20:00

Question please! I am relying on them as no one wants to read an essay.

I share nooooooo charecteristics at all. Bit of a begger.

Well, mum to be has same eye colour. Dad to be is very 'Italian' looking so it is my hope that bubba will look like him. Especially as I am a pale faced freckle fest!

My babies look exactly like me - so we'll see!

re:money. No, they just charge soooooo much no one could have vast sums left . I get expenses, like train tickets. I fee a rat taking it. Were I richer I'd pay for my own treatment. What if I don't make eggs? I'll have cost them thousands for nothing!! Argh!

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TrillianAstra · 22/05/2009 19:44

'wask' = 'we ask'

TrillianAstra · 22/05/2009 19:44

Well done you. Can wask silly questions? I'm going to anyway.

Do you share physical characteristics with the parents? So do you think the baby will look like them?

Was there some kind of screening involved to make sure that you weren't being paid vast sums of money for your eggs?

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treedelivery · 22/05/2009 19:36

...Phew.

It all started when I was 25-ish. I had seen and heard of so many stories of the hell people went through to get a baby. I looked into being an egg donor as soon as I heard it was possible, but was advised they prefer those who have had children.

Fast forward to this year. Some friends of a very very good friend have reached the end of the IVF line. I heard through my friend that the remaining options were egg donation and adoption, though one party was very unsure about adoption.
It made perfect sense to me, as I have 2 children and am willing to share any eggs I may have.

So I approached them through the friend [half expecting them to run away and change their names in fear ] and was overjoyed and flattered to hear they would look into it and consider it.

And so now, here we are. They have said 'yes please', I have said 'that's great'.

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