REALLY faint line, need to know today, anybody recommend a very sensitive test

what stunning children - they look adorable. I have't got round to working out pics or anything yet either boodleboot - technically hopeless me.

you're right about regrets though - my grandma said that to me when I was far too young to appreciate it. we never really regret what we have done - just what we haven't done. I think that is true for most things.

Hey proudest - sounds awful darling. You must be really going through it. Don't think you're making the wrong decsision though to try again. Your chances sseem incredibly small - no more than anyone elses probably and sounds like you have done what you can to make sure of your facts.

I think the thing is - these are the things that happen to "other people", so when they happen to you it just brings home the fact that things do go wrong, and not all children are born "normal" (hate that word). So its just a very real worry when you are pregnant. I didn't think at all that anything would possibly go wrong with my first pregnancy but now I know it can, it has done, and it's a huge worry.

DS1 does't sound like his hypotonia is as bad - he walked at 2 1/2 but it was ages before it wasn't completely awkward. At 6 he's still miles behind his peers physically, emotionally and acedemically. He is however the sweetest, kindest kid and is happy most of the time. School is the big trauma - he finds it emensely challenging and gets a frustratingly little amount of support.

Generally though we all cope very well and he continues to make progress all the time which is very encouraging - even if it is slow.

I think you are right to follow your heart with this decision - you don't want any regrets later on, and you can never regret having a child, any child no matter what.

xxx

sorry you had such a downer yesterday proudest - its heartbreaking seeing our children suffer. sorry to hear your DS has problems - is it something that will stay with him forever? can he be treated? also, if you don't mind me asking is it possible any further children could be affected?

the reason I ask is my eldest DS has hypotonia (low muscle tone) aswell as being diagnosed with autism. we therefore have an increased risk of having another child with autism. one of the factors (alhtough not the only one) in us deciding to leave it at 2 DCs - I was pregnant with DS2 before we knew any of this, and fortunately thus far he appears to be developing normally. just something else to stress about during pregnancy eh!!

glad your DS is doing better today and sorry you had another negative test. hope all goes well with the consultant, let me know how you get on.

xx

not doing too bad thanks proudest. DH is calming down a bit and getting his head round it which is really helping. Whenever I look at my two gorgeous boys I think to myself another one is nothing but a blessing. What a shock though, felt like I'd been kicked in the gut.

I can appreciate it must be sooooo hard not to just keep testing but I think you need to wait until the end of the week at least. Quite apart from all the money this cannot be good for your nerves!!! Don't forget I tested with a very sensitive test pretty much around when my period was due / poss overdue and the line was incredibly faint. I'm really hope it works out for you.

Bill W?

totalmisfit we too are taking the children to a festival later in the year, hopefully I will feel a bit more "blooming" and less tired etc by then. the main reason for not going to Glastonbury is that ALL the people I would be going with would be drinking and smoking - 2 things I have recently given up and I would find it very difficult to be in that environment with that group of friends whilst trying not to (cannot risk falling off the wagon so to speak). I know that sounds a bit weak but I don't fancy 5 days of being around drunk friends!! also at that stage of my previous two pregnancies I was very very sick - the faintest smell of just about anything made me want to heave. the smells of Glastonbury coupled with the state of the toilets does not make it the ideal place to be in that state.

I didn't sell my tickets in the end though so if I'm feeling unexpectedly chipper I may pop along for a couple of days.

I do find it quite difficult to abstain from forbidden fruits whilst pregnant - have managed it in past but its not easy. I love all the foods I now cannot eat and really miss a drink or two when out with my mates. I can't be the only one. However, in the grand scheme of things its not much to ask eh?

Test again in a few days proudest that seems pretty early to me.

I think the fact that it shouldn't have happened is the thing, kind of made me stamp my feet like a 2 year old thinking "its just not fair"

will watch out for how you get on

Thanks all.

proudest - took test yesterday on day 28 of cycle. Usual cycle length varies - 25 - 35 days. Fingers crossed for you - let me know how you get on.

DH is in a state of absolute shock poor dear. Keeps wandering round saying "how can this be" - bless. His shock has kind of toned mine down and I'm slowly getting the head round the fact that I'm pregnant. I've got 9 months to really get to grips with it I guess!!

Hey guys,

Did the digital test this aft, said pregnant 1-2. I guess I wasn't just imagining the faint line.
In shock considering the circumstances - probably Glasto on the telly for me! I'll be glad I'm at home when I've got my head down the toilet throwing up!!!