Anyone else trying to get pregnant ? 3

Quackers, I lost a baby at 22 weeks last summer having tried for him for over two years (we have a ds aged three also). As I am nearly 40 I was pretty resigned to staying a one-child family but that was probably bereavement and shock talking as much as anything else. Because I got pregnant again within three months without even trying.
I would not recommend despair as a state of mind for TTC but it is definitely true to say that getting pregnant was the last thing on my mind. Previously, I was as obsessed as any TTCer could be and I do sometimes wonder if the emotional stress of trying for a second baby for two years just took the edge off my fertility.
Ovulation sticks never worked that well for me but I found a Persona helped me conceive ds1 and 2. This time round I started using the TCOYF charting method (do a board search for lots of discussion on this), mainly because I wanted an impressive array of data to take along to my consultant, so sure was I that we would be referred for infertility again in due course.
Sorry, bit of a long post, but just wanted to say sorry about your loss and that it is possible to conceive again when you feel ready. Good luck!

Well done Kirby - that would do for me! I want to give it a couple of months to let my body get back to normal abit. It took 6 weeks for the m/c to finish so I feel loads better and looking forward to trying again!

Good luck with you pregnancy - you must be over the moon!!

me but after 3 months im expecting in jan xx

Out of interest how many of you have got pregnant easily having had a m/c and not had any problems conceving before. I just feel more pressured this time. It's more systematic because I'm so eager to 'crack on' and have another after such a huge loss. Will this mean it takes longer to conceive again this time??
Sounds selfish as so many would love just one, but to have a little person within reach and loose it makes you more determined doesn't it! I have now upgraded myself to the TTC thread. It's so great to hear all your experiences!!! Do these ovulation predictors work? Is worth me buying one? Or will get a bit obsessed by it?
Good luck to all!!!!!

bayleaf, glad you are finally set to go on the 13th. Sorry your weekend away wasn't a success!
I will have everything crossed for you....

Well, my wee sticks didnt show any sign of ovulation last month so either I didnt ovulatate or, tiny perhaps, I didnt ovulate because I am pregnant. I did a test a few days ago (negative) but am a day or two late with my period now. I dont want to get excited as my periods are always irregular. Dh is worried that I am setting myself up for a big disappointment and keeps telling me to leave it for a couple of weeks before doing another test but its is all I think of some days. I cant forget about it while there is an (admitedly tiny) chance that I am pregnant.

Godd luc kbayleaf - will be thinking of you.

Good luck for the 13th Bayleaf, and for the bank holiday Jane 101.

Hi Bayleaf, I'm sorry to hear it's been such a struggle to get to this point, but I hope everything goes well from now on.

I've got a scan next Friday, and I asked the clinic if the bank holiday might cause a problem and they said they usually have a skeleton staff in on bank holidays, so hopefully it shouldn't matter.

I'm feeling a bit more positive at the moment, because I've realised that, as the chance of sucess with iui is about the same as the probability of throwing a 6 when you roll a dice, 2 failed attempts doesn't suggest it isn't going to work. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone else, but I think it's quite encouraging that we've not yet reached a point where we need to give up.

All the luck in the world to you and everyone else trying, Bayleaf.

Very best of luck, Bayleaf - really hope it happens this time for you. Wishing everyone else luck too. Have a close friend going through this at present (with donor eggs too and all that entails) so am thinking of you.

Great news Bayleaf - everything's crossed for May 13th!

I completely understand about not being able to plan ahead - although my process isn't as complicated, but just having to drive 250 miles to get inseminated, which invariably means an overnight stay, means we can't plan ahead that much - have to keep weekends free if we think ovulation's going to fall anywhere near one, etc...

DotI didn´t get a dip eitherI think it´s the rise in temperature that matters.

Bunny2I really found doing both together helpful. It is better to bd/inseminate several days in advance of ovulation, and then every 24-48 hours until the day of ovulation, because sperm can live several days in your body. OPKs only give you 12-36 hours notice of ovulation, so you may miss some good times if you rely only on them. In fact, last month, when I did get pregnant, we weren´t able to inseminate on the ovulation day itselfthe last insemination we did was 36 or 48 hours before I actually ovulated. If I hadn´t had a reasonable idea of my cycle from charting (using temperatures and the past results of OPKs), I wouldn´t have known I should be inseminating then, if you see what I mean.

Sorry about the down-regging, Bayleaf (and thanks for the explanation, all much clearer now!). Hope it works soon.

I am still here too and also likely to ovulate at an awkward time - from the weekend prior to the May bank holiday weekend when I have a hen weekend, through to half-way through that week! Oh well, good vibes to everyone and hope that at least one of us graduates from this thread to a new Jan/Feb babies thread before too long.

I'll do one for you dot1.

Just a quick question - this month I'm assuming I haven't ovulated, as I haven't had a dip in temperature. But I am now getting higher temperatures in the second half of my cycle. I'm very confused (as usual!). Does a cycle where you don't ovulate still show a rise in temperature in the 2nd half? I definitely haven't had a dip - was the same temperature virtually until day 14, and now for the past 3 days have been a few degrees higher...

Oh the wonders of the body...sigh..

Bayleaf - that's such a shame you can't even give it a go because of the drugs you're taking. (I'd do a sad face here but I'm not technical enough..!)

Thanks for the info Bayleaf, I'll get the ball rolling after my period.

I'm sorry if this is a silly question, but if i'm having periods does that mean I must be ovulating? The reason I ask is that we are trying for our 4th baby (you would think we would know what we are doing by now) We have been trying for 5 months, I know this is not a long time to wait, but I fell pregnant each time in the first month of trying and I was hopeing it would be that easy this time around. my periods returned 5 months ago and my cycle length is anything from 29 days to 34 days - they were always 28 days before my 3rd baby. Also Im still bf my 1o month old and don't know if this has anything to do with why im not pregnant yet? I hope you can understand all that, but I only had a few minutes to post

Oh bayleaf, how frustrating for you - what a shame you've hit another delay.

Yes I'm still here, as another old timer. We've been trying for about 15 months now I think. The plan now, is to have another go next month. But, I think I might have the same problem as dot1, i.e. ovulating at an awkward time. I think it's likely to be the May bank holiday weekend. I think the clinic's open on Saturday mornings, but if they're closed on the Monday, and my day before ovulation is the Sunday, it's not going to work out. Still, no use getting pesimistic about that yet.