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Support through current IVF Cycle

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Flumpette · 19/04/2005 10:15

I go for egg collection on Thursday. Excited and scared of failure.

Is anyone currently going through this?

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Flumpette · 27/04/2005 21:20

MonsterMum - did read all about your travels. WOW! You lived in Bangkok. What a culture shock! I spent four nights there and found it absolutely fascinating. We got conned by a chap who must have seen TOURIST on our foreheads. Luckily my other half cottoned on and we didn't end up miles away in some clothes factory.

Do hope that your DS (?) gets what they want! By the way, can you give me a quick lesson on abbreviations. I tried to find info. but looking in wrong place perhaps.

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Flumpette · 27/04/2005 21:10

Hi Wendy11. I'm fine thank you. I've got an aching womb which I don't know if it's from the egg collection as I was sore after that or if it's the cyclogest taking effect or if it's something wonderful - I wonder what that is! So frustrating as the nurses can't tell you what to expect as we all react so differently. So it's back to being patient and the 2ww.

I do remember the sniffing - a bit like sulphuric acid. This time round I had injections of the same drug instead which were also a lot cheaper.

Have you decided whether you'll keep working during the 2ww or if you'll relax? I have tried to relax but very hard in my circumstances just to sit still. I haven't done any hoovering though but I have to lift my son and he is quite heavy for a 13 month old.

I'm rooting for you. Flumpette x

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wendy11 · 27/04/2005 20:14

Flumpette - how are you doing. Hope you are taking it easy and relaxing - I know virtually impossible but be as kind to yourself as you possibly can. I started the synarel spray today. I had totally forgotten how disgusting it tastes from my IUI attempts, so four weeks of that and then onto the injections. It seems such a long time but I know it will go so quickly and then a whole new set of worries will start. Hope to hear from you soon.

Pruni · 25/04/2005 22:41

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Monstersmum · 25/04/2005 22:31

Hi Flumpette - glad you are sounding a bit more postive. And like me are grateful for what you have - I woudl LOVE another but am so grateful not to feel that horrible empty childless feeling.

I am Irish but my OH is English and we move around a lot. Son was conceived through IVF carried out in Bangkok whilst we were living in Vietnam, we then moved to Bulgaria when he was born and moved to Budapest last year.

Saw fertility guy last week and he sounded very positive. Our problem is time. Either I am not here when I get my period or if I do I know that I will be travelling somewhere for the next one. I go home to Dublin regularly. May have to stay put for a while!

The reason we initially looked into IVF was that OH is impotent but then when they tested sperm it was ICSI or nothing. But Bangkok was easy - you just paid your money and it happened. It is a bit more regulated here and it turns out that OH has to see an urologist who will check the findings and then recommend whether or not we should hav IVF. So - slighly worried that urologist will try to solve problem - would love it solved obviously but just want a baby first. Other issue is actually getting OH there in the first place!

And timing is an issue as I am due mid MAy but DS due operationon undescended testicle in Dublin on 1 June - so timing won't work. Then friends arriving mid June for 3 weeks. Another trip planned for end July. Doc away end August. So it looks like it may be September. Unless period arrives early.

Sorry this is such a long post. Hopefully it gave you something to think about though!

Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Fi x

PS DS was at doc with me last week and doc asked him if he would like a brother or sister - DS said he would like 2 older brothers and 1 younger sister!!!! Doc said he may struggle to get that!

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Flumpette · 25/04/2005 17:59

It's a lottery!!!!

I felt low because whilst we were to-ing and fro-ing to hospital it was go go go and now it's the waiting game which is a snail's pace.

Feel better today and we spoke to friends who were successful as we couldn't remember their exact scenario. They had two 4 cell embryos transferred and they have 9 month old twins! We always thought our little boy came from the 4 cell embryo that we had last time but we'll never really know.

Reading the examples are a great comfort and overall I'm really positive so thank you for your support.

I guess you have to be positive to put your body through so much but every so often the doubt creeps in.

I took my little boy (don't understand the abbreviations - can someone enlighten me as to what is baby boy etc?) to a toddler group today and seeing his delight cheered me up so much. Last time we had the chance of being childless which was such a desperate feeling, so I know that whatever happens we're very very blessed.

MonsterMum, are you going ahead with treatment? I know you said you lived in Budapest. Are you English though? I have been to your beautiful city and thought what a great place to live.

Flumpette

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bubbly1973 · 25/04/2005 11:31

monstersmum, i cant help but feel all warm and fuzzy when i hear stories like yours

Monstersmum · 25/04/2005 10:49

Oh Flumpette - really really hoping it works!!

I too was feeling low about the quality of my eggs and then only 3 fertilised (out of 6) so we didn't get any to freeze either. I was also told that quality wise my embryos were just OK. They implanted 3 and one took. And he is now almost 4 and more than OK!!!!

The next two weeks will be hard. I remember it seemed forever. And I was CONVINCED that it wouldn't take. But obviously it did.

Take it easy and just try to have a nice quiet two weeks but try to plan some nice things to distract you a bit.

Wishing you all the VERY best.

Fi

bubbly1973 · 25/04/2005 07:58

flumpette, re-reading your message, i think i took it as you were feeling low because you dont have any eggs to freeze cos they were too slow in growing, and that you dont produce a lot of eggs....

...but you say it happened like this last time, and you had success last time, so am i right in thinking you arent feeling low for this reason, and you are feeling low because dh has to go to work

if so, i apologise for my post

bubbly1973 · 25/04/2005 07:49

oh flumpette, i know all too well how long the two week wait will feel like

i am here every step of the way, if you want to write down every twinge, them do it, if you want a moan then do it...whilst dh is working and your little one is sleeping, come on here to take your mind off it if you like, there will always be someone to help pass the time away or natter with you

try not to feel too deflated....i cant remember the posters name but the other day they were telling me about how they had a text book fertility treatment, everything went perfectly and they never got pregnant, then on 2nd attempt they were going to cancel the cycle as she was hyperstimulated (think thats the right word) her dh dropped his sperm sample...well it turned out to be a positive...so even though this treatment you have done isnt text book, you never know

all you can do is keep your fingers crossed and pray that it works

i am wishing you all the luck and babydust on this treatment and wish with all my heart that you get a bfp in two weeks time

xx

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Flumpette · 25/04/2005 07:39

All. I had updated this but it hasn't appeared, so here is the latest. We had 5 eggs collected and all of them fertilised. I had 6 eggs last time and the doctor commented that I don't produce many eggs but they are good quality. We had two 4 cell embryos put into my womb on Saturday and the others were too slow in growing to be frozen should we need them in the future. That is what happened last time. Hubby and I feel quite low now. I think it's really hard as we've been on that rollercoaster and have visited the hospital a few times and we've been able to share our feelings during the day but now the next two weeks are back to work as normal for him and me at home with our 13 month old boy (not complaining about that but it's such a long wait). Will keep you posted.

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bubbly1973 · 22/04/2005 20:49

flumpette, good luck and i hope its good news in the morning!!

when will they transfer them back into you?

BeachedWhale · 22/04/2005 16:31

Oops! Lots and lots of luck there!

BeachedWhale · 22/04/2005 16:29

So pleased the egg collection went well. Wishing you lots of luck.

BeachedWhale · 22/04/2005 16:28

So pleased the egg collection went well. Wishing you lots of luck.

BeachedWhale · 22/04/2005 16:28

So pleased the egg collection went well. Wishing you lots of luck1

BeachedWhale · 22/04/2005 16:28

So pleased the egg collection went well. Wishing you lots of luck.

dyzzidi · 22/04/2005 16:22

Good Luck!!!!!!!!!

006 · 22/04/2005 16:20

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bayleaf · 22/04/2005 16:16

OH GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
Fingers crossed for excellnt fertilisation....and grade 1 embryos of course!

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Flumpette · 22/04/2005 04:56

Hi. Still reeling from Pruni's comments with respect to so called friends' viewpoints. Even if they thought it, very bad form to view it to you. Unbelieveable! I had comments from a work colleague at the time when I was pregnant but he didn't know I was doing IVF. He ovbiously knew nothing about the true process but he had very strong views.

Well it's 4.50am and I can't sleep. We had egg collection yesterday under general anaesthetic and the results are promising. 5 eggs (had 6 last time). The Doctor said they are mature and were easily extracted (I hadn't thought about how easy they'd be to collect). I am a little sore on the left ovary but he explained that I had 10 follices, two of which were smaller than the rest and that he was trying to retrieve eggs from them, hence the discomfort that I have. On a scale of 1 to 10, pain is a 2. ME, ME, ME! Not to forget my husband did a wonderful job and his sperm results were "perfect" quote from Doctor.

We will receive a call in the morning to tell us if they have fertilised and if so how many cells there are. We hope to have two transferred and 4 cells is optimum although 2-4 cells is good. Just praying that it will be good news. He was very hopefull due to our history.

Maybe I'll sleep have off loaded all that. This time round our families know the timings but others don't and who can I call at 4.55am! So thanks for listening all.

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bayleaf · 20/04/2005 19:15

Just wanted to wish you lots of luck Flumpette - I've been there, done that, got the T shirt so to speak..
If you want more detailed ivf advice/conversation then the bulletin board at www.care-fertility.com is excellent
( think that's the address - there 's a possibility the hyphen isn't there!)

dyzzidi · 20/04/2005 15:18

I'm awaiting IVF at present I just need One more surgery first so am reading with great interes. I't hadn't even occured to me to taake two weeks off work but then I work in an office so it's not a manual job. I don't live far from the clinic so thats not a problem. Any advice would be appreciated.

006 · 20/04/2005 14:45

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Pruni · 20/04/2005 14:35

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