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To all those who tried and tried and tried and tried...and then gave up...and then got pregnant...

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katierocket · 17/04/2005 19:56

I've heard this so often "stop trying and you'll get pregnant", "relax and you'll get pregnant" but obviously it's a bit of a contradiction since the longer you try the more you want it (I'm currently at nearly 12 months). SO the question is.... just HOW do you "stop trying", when you want it so bad?

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leahbump · 17/04/2005 20:37

ttc for 3 years.

heart ache etc no real problems found by the specialist and it was doing our head in!! We decided not to pursue ivf etc or further tests after knowing my tubes were ok and dh swimmers were reasonable!

Anyway we gave up and had a rest, decided to pursue adoption.
Whilst doing this I was also completing second degree distertation etc
Found out I was pg 2 days before barnados home assesment .

Fell pg real easy 2nd time!!

Adoption still close to our hearts tho and we may consider it later!

bubbly1973 · 17/04/2005 20:36

almost forget my dh's mother! she was told by the doctors she had a snowballs chance in hell of getting pregnant...(this was years ago) doctor also said her womb was too low and if she did ever get pregnant she wouldnt carry fullterm

so they adopted, 2 months later she got pregnant with dhs sister whose 44 now...and she went way past her due date too....stupid bloody doctor!

then she got pregnant with my dh...who was a suprise!

LGJ · 17/04/2005 20:25

I was trying for ever..........then I conceived, then I MC, then I moved house and decided to forget about it until we were out of rental and in our house.

So I ate and drank like a little piggy, went back to bed one Sunday afternoon with the papers and a bottle of wine...............and hey presto, I discovered I was PG just before I went on the first holiday, we had, had in ages.

tamum · 17/04/2005 20:19

Just to answer the question, I know two couples who fall into this category. In one case they adopted and subsequently got pregnant, ut they had tried for 8 years prior to adopting. In another they had been accepted on to an IVF program and had one last holiday before embarking on the hormone injections, and got pregnant on that holiday. I would have thought it could easily take something major like this to fall into the category of "forgetting".

I agree with Twiglett though- could you not get some help? Poor you, kr, I do hope something works soon.

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Twiglett · 17/04/2005 20:13

are you sure there's no underlying problem? if you've tried for a year then go to GP and get tested to rule anything out - you may find that the process of confirming that there's no problem helps you 'relax' as you will be focusing on the tests a little more

(relax and it'll happen is the most annoying piece of advice isn't it?, actually 'my next-door neighbour's best friend's sister tried for 20 years and now she has 8 children is probably up there too)

cod · 17/04/2005 20:10

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bubbly1973 · 17/04/2005 20:08

obviously the natural way hasnt worked for me though

bubbly1973 · 17/04/2005 20:07

katierocket...book a really expensive holiday and look forward to it?

my friend was organising her wedding when she got pregnant....and they were trying for years

another friend thought 'sod it' went to visit friend in america, drank and smoke, and when she got back home, found out that she was pregnant, and she had pcos and her and dh were trying for years

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