The TTC DP CM GP we will all graduate before this reaches 999 messages

Queenie - I totally understand why you are anxious. I would be inclined to go for the early scan. At 6 +3 you may see a hartbeat or you may not but at least they should be able to confirm that the pregnancy is on track which should set your mind at rest.

Its such a difficult time. What should be a happy time is so worrying when you have a mc history. Have you got any other symptoms? Boob pain can often come and go I find.

Yellow - travelling is an amazing idea. I wish I had travelled when I was younger and now will have to wait quite some time!

Kyte - hope your boy is feeling better today.

Well, I have just had yet another negative OPK! AAAAaggggggggggghhhhhhhh. I am never going to ovulate. I'm sure I haven't missed it as my temps still haven't budged so I must be running late. Still bding every other day as per Deanna!

Where is my egg?????????

Congratulations Kyte Such a lucky, positive thread at the moment

Thanks to those that are thinking of me - I feel a bit of a fraud coming on here to be honest so am lurking a lot - no BD action since January and DP showing no interest at all. I'm hoping that weight loss might kick start things and have managed to lose half a stone so far - not great by Cambridge Diet standards but I struggle to lose weight, so this is good for me !

I should be 12DPO today and didn't think I'd ov'ed as I didn't get ov cramps, but my boobs are fuller and I've felt a little bloated, so I'm wondering if I did after all. Starting to cramp today, so am guessing AF is on her way right on schedule.

I don't really intend to TTC for the next cycle - it would be lovely if it happened, but I'd prefer to avoid the prospect of a Xmas baby and would like to have another clear few weeks of weight loss so I'm in a better position health-wise with a BMI of under 30, so overweight rather than obese.

Am sure now I'll be the last one here, so promise to turn the lights out when I graduate

queenie i would go anyway as you are anxious! hugs x

yellow - travelling sounds a great idea and that way it sort of takes the pressure off ttc. In a year's time, you'll have an exciting outcome - either a baby or a long trip away. Sorry to hear you're not feeling so well though...

I'm having a really difficult morning and have just broken down in tears. I don't really seem to have the sore boobs I had at the beginning (it's been waning for the past couple of days) and I can't help wondering whether it's a bad omen. After my history, try as I might, I just can't help feeling really anxious about all this.

I'm supposed to have a scan in 11 days time (funtime / ray you got me and Broodzilla muddled up earlier!) to check for a heart beat. But I'm getting really anxious about that too. According to my dates, that would make me 7+2 but as I know I ovulated late that cycle, it's more like 6+3...Do you think I should push it back a week or go anyway?

Lots and lots of vibes for you funtime really hope this is your month!

broodzilla good news on booking the scan - when is it?

wasabi am hoping that you feeling fertile is a good sign sounds like it anyway.

How are you getting on jools? Was also thinking about you?

I'm still here wasabi !!!! about to retire for an early night .
I want to know why i am so so tired it doesnt make any sense. When i go to sleep its a very deep sleep with no dreams until i wake in the morning feeling heavy headed.
Do you think it could be the clomid?

Queen i agree with everyone else, if it wouldnt change your mind then theres no point in finding out. Good luck with the scan let us all know how you get on.

Funtime, hey its great you feel so great about this onth i realy hope it is your month.

Well i'm off to bed he he !!!!!

Wow, another BFP! well done Kyte (and DH) - hope your DS is feeling better too.

Congratulation Kyte !!! How is your ds today?

Queenie - if you can afford it, I'd get a dating scan. As for other tests, I thought that all areas offered Down's screening . Are you in Scotland by any chance?

As the others have said, it's a personal thing. I refused the triple test with ds, as we thought about what we'd do if they came back as high risk. As the answer was 'nothing', we didn't bother. It might help to think about what you'd do with the results at each stage and that might help you decide whether to go for it or not.

Broodzilla - ooh, let's hope that the sickness is a good thing. I've also got another horrible cold (I think that the two were linked) and I'm never ill, so 2 months on the run is really annoying.

The opportunities are good this month, I'm almost completely convinced that I ovulated on my good side. Although I missed the dip I had 2 days of strong +ve ov. tests and my temps are going up, so it looks like we've been doing the deed at the right time and, if I have, I'm on for testing on Mother's Day, which is handy as dh is jetting off to the States with work on that day.

And...I was ill the month I conceived ds, so lots of vibes for this month please ladies !

broodzilla - totally agree with what Wasabi has written.

Great to hear you have gone for early dating scan. So when is that then? Must be coming up fairly soon?

Hope you're feeling a bit calmer. I went swimming today which really helped to relax me. Perhaps you should try it?

Thank you so much Wasabi. I know you're right. I checked with the NHS provision of bloodtests, but they don't do a screening for Downs etc. Then again, as you said, even if they did, it would only give you a figure.

I've gone ahead and booked a dating scan for 8.4. (the earliest available one).
At least then, I'll know if the bean is still around. If it is, I'll be over the moon and I won't give a hoot about statistics.

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Broodzilla please don't stress.

Before you start making decisions on these private scans it might be worth checking what other abnormaility tests your health authority offer - they will probably offer blood tests at 16 weeks which will come back with a 1/X possibility of downs or similar abnormalities.

The subject of testing is a very difficult one. When I was pg with my ds I knew that even if abnormalities such as Downs were detected I wouldn't have had a termination, therefore what was the point of testing? My dh took the view that it was best to know in advance so I agreed in the end to have the blood test although I never bothered with a nuchal.

All these tests can do is give you a probability. If the probability is less that 1/200 you will be offered an invasive procedure like amnio which carries a risk of miscarriage. This is the point at which things get difficult.

Ultimately there are no guarantees - this is all probability stuff and there are many more chromosomal conditions that the tests wouldn't pick up anyway. We're back to the "where there is life there is risk" thing again I'm afraid.

I think people tend to have tests because they are standard procedure without really thinking about what they would do if they get an ambiguous result. There are no easy answers but it might be worth making sure you and your ds are on the same page over the next couple of months.

For now, try to relax and enjoy the fact that you don't yet look like a weeble

Fantastic news Kyte!!! How are you feeling?

In other news... I have found out today that done privately, a dating scan is £50 and a nucheal scan is £200.

Basically, a dating scan will only tell you if there's somebody there, but not how the bean is doing. A nucheal scan would tell you the likelyhood of Downs etc.

I really don't know what to do. We can't really afford both. I don't know that we'd do anything differently even if we knew that there might be a problem.

On the other hand, I'm not sure how I feel about waiting til the bean is born to find out that everything's ok.

Then again, nothing is certain in life.

Any thoughts? What would you do? Why?
I'm all stressed out.

Fabulous news Kyte!! Big yay!

We are BFP central at the moment - this is all fab. So glad that Queenie Iggy Broodzilla and Kyte can all wait out those 1st few weeks together.

Just checking in to see the news really.

Ray - I don't expect to hear from you for a few days .

Still no positive OPK for me today despite lots of EWCM (more than usual actually) but thats not unusual for me - if my old pattern remains I should get a positive OPK tomorrow or maybe even Friday. I have a feeling it will be tomorrow though.

I know it sounds silly but I feel mega fertile at the moment - my hormone levels must still be higher than usual. My sense of smell is still really sensitive and my skin is better than it usually is at this time of the month. Here's hoping I'm not imagining it.

Broodzilla - echo what Queenie said about the 12 week scans not being available. That's just shite. Depending on how long you're prepared to wait you could go for a 6-8 week scan or maybe wait until 11/12 weeks and have a private nuchal scan if you want to go down the testing route.

Hi guys.

KYTE CONGRATULATIONS on you BFP that great. How long were you trying for? Did you do anything different this month.

Ive just had +ive on OPKS so am now in the game He he. Lets hope one of the troups get there and for a sticky bean !!!

Oh that's good news Kyte

kyte - huge congratulations to you!!! I thought you might be and thought of you when I woke up this morning. So pleased for you - and great to have another person to wait out these first few (scary) weeks. How are you feeling?

broodzilla / iggy - I too fluctutate between feeling PG and then normal but in the words of my friend, 'don't meet troubles half way' and in the main I'm feeling positive about this one...In terms of any sort of symptoms, I'm knackered and have had afternoon or early evening nap every day since late last week!!! (Luckily I'm doing a lot of work from home at the moment so am just going with it). My cramping is nothing like it was but comes and goes. My sore boobs also come and go but in general I'm very conscious of them feeling tender and bigger. No sickness yet but apparently that often doesn't kick in until a bit later (around weeks 6 - 8) if at all. As to concentration, I haven't done a scrap of work since last Thursday so must try to concentrate today or I'll get fired!!! Oh the roller coaster of it all. Just want to get to scan in 12 days time to find out how things are down there.

On that note, Broodzilla, so shit about not having a scan until 20 weeks. Would definitely get an early private scan if you can. That way you get early reassurance if all is progressing well or an early warning if it looks more problematic.

Morning all

kyte That is fantastic, huge congratulations. your message 'smiles a soppy smile and said hello to my stomach' made me go all fuzzy
But for DS. I hope they get him better quickly for you.

broodzilla i can't believe you can't have a scan til 20 weeks. How awful. Deffo go private and send us the pic beams yellow [hugs] i hope you get all the answers and that everything is ok.

broodzilla no am not feeling too sleepy - although am waking up earlier and going to be earlier - but I think that might also be related to not drinking! I stopped feeling sick on Saturday, so have been worrying ever since then.. still having 'twinges' and every once in a while a small feeling of sickness.. but mainly feel normal again - which I agree - I can't decide if is good or bad

Oooh congratulations kyte Excellent news!