The TTC DP CM GP we will all graduate before this reaches 999 messages

Hi Jools - thanks for that post. You aren't a basket case! The hormones linger for much longer than I'd realised.

It doesn't help that my mother who visited for Mothers Day on Sunday with my Dad started banging on about someone she knew once who gave up all hope, blah, blah, adopted blah blah then preggers. Which is a rubbish story on every level because it suggests that somehow the adopted kid was worth less than the biological one and also that my Mum thinks I am somehow at fault for "trying" too hard. She was so f**king tactless I could have punched her quite frankly, mothers day or not.

Wasabi I know exactly how you feel, I thought that I would get pregnant really quickly after my MC but it took around 3 months for my cycle to return to normal as it happened at 11 weeks. I am still waiting a year on and feel really sorry for myself as at 36 I feel time is running out for me. The fact that you have got pregnant before means you can again. It is just a bummer when it takes so long!

On a positive note the fact that there have been so many BFP on this thread must mean we are doing something right and we will all get those BFPs soon

Next month DH will not know what has hit him as I will make sure that we put the work in and I will start temping and fingers crossed it will pay off.

Many congrats Ray Fingers crossed all continues to go well.

Wasabi - one of the worst times for me post MC was when my first couple of AF's arrived - it just felt so incredibly wrong and unfair that I was having AF, and just emphasized what I'd lost all over again My PMT / hormonal reactions were off the scale for the first couple of cycles - so in short, I know what you're going through. It was almost worse than the MC because relatives and friends had moved on. Like you, I was absolutely desperate to be PG again and remember sobbing my heart out in January when I was ovulating and DP was not co-operating.

All I can say is that it does get better, I think it took me over 3 months to stop constantly thinking about the MC and TTC and start to slowly move on. Maybe I'm an extreme case (or a basket case !!) but nobody ever tells you that it takes 3 months for all the hormones to get completely out of your system.

When I was on a 2WW in Jan, I thought I had symptoms - itchy boobs - well I did, but they were my boobs returning to normal from a PG state, not the other way round That was over 2 months post MC

pinkyblue it was roughly day it was due if cycle normal - but it was fluctuating a bit.. it was CD 30 that i did the test i think

Congratulations Ray!!
Well we are doing very well on this thread at the moment. I hope the momentum attracts some new members because at the rate we are going I will be turning the lights out very soon!

Queenie so happy you had a good scan. That unit sounds amazing - they should be aiming to put somewhere similar in every health authority.

Yellow - 4 days po would be very early for sickness but I guess stranger things have happenned. I so hope that you get lucky this month.

Pinky - There is still hope for you but I do see your point that a First Response should be showing at least a faint line by now. It just sucks doesn't it?

Flintski - sorry it wasn't your month either. I think the idea of not actively trying is a very constructive one.

I cried last night in front of my dh about impending AF. He was really sweet but I think even he had a tear in his eye at one point. We really went for it this month and are both so disppointed. I just about coped with the mc by telling myself I would concieve again quickly and everything would be ok.

Now its not.

Thanks Iggypiggy it does seem pretty much bang on 28 days these days, but you give me a bit of hope Did you get your BFP on the day your AF was due?

pinkyblue is your cycle always that predictable? Mine started to get less so as we were ttc - so maybe AF would be due later than 2 days (am being optimistic ) I def got a BFN a couple of days before the BFP.

I hope you are right Queenie but the test says 98% accurate when performed two days before

pinky - sorry to hear about BFN, but as you're not even at your AF due date don't get too disheartened. I never get a BFP until I'm officially late. So hang on in there....If AF does arrive though, definitely recommend temping or similar. I never did temping but started using OPK sticks a few months ago. I thought they were brilliant as it enabled me to know when my AF would come and to have a very good idea of when it was that I conceived and to not get phased when they told me I was 6 and not 7 weeks (because I already knew that).

kitty - even that sounds v complex. I'll keep describing for now but will let you know if I progress to visual aids. xxx

How wonderful Queenie you are so lucky to have the facility available to you. It is rubbish where I live you only get a 20 week one, anything before then you have to pay for it.

Well although I have 2 days until AF due the first response PG test I had upstairs was calling me and I could not resist testing and it was a BFN so I guess that it is not this month for me I had really hoped for some good news this time. I guess I need to up the anti next month and start temping or something.

queenie awh is so cute. I think you need to create a profile page. Then you can add photos to that. If you click on peoples names you can see their profile pages if they have one. x

funtime - can't believe how different treatment is depending on where you live and cross for you that you don't have a scan until 12 weeks. Would you get a private one done? It may well be worth considering as the scan yesterday SOOO put my mind at rest.

Makes me realise how good things are where I am. They have this special clinic for people who have had recurrent miscarriages to get them through the first trimester (with loads of scans and other kinds of support if you want it). I think it's entirely funded by voluntary donations and I will so be making a donation myself. I remember Mumsnet beginning to campaign around miscarriage treatment and support - and this special clinic is so the sort of thing the NHS should model itself on.

kittycat - I may well put some scan photos up but at the moment I'm prevented by technological incompetency. So for now, I'll describe it instead: a tiny little blob that kept contracting in and out (the heart beat)...but the scan picture only showed the blob!

yellow - nice to hear you're getting totally carried away with symptom spotting!!! I so hope you're right but remember 4dpo is pretty early on...xxxx

queenie thats fab that all is well and that they are keeping a close eye. Will you be putting the scan pics on? I am thinking positive thoughts for you and will keep my fingers crossed!

Lovely news Queenie and remember how difficult it is to be precise when you're measuring something by clicking with a mouse when it's so small.

It's really good to hear that you're getting regular scans. Despite 3 mcs and an ectopic I'm not allowed a scan before 12 weeks unless I'm mc'ing.

Great to hear that they're a little more enlightened in your neck of the woods .

funtime - amazing news!!! congratulations!! And ray - huge congratulations to you too!!! The number of BFPs are really stacking up now. I so hope the title of the thread comes true...looking increasingly likely!

So here's hoping for pinky, wasabi and yellow (and anyone else - sorry if left off).

I had my scan yesterday which was amazing as there was our little baby and there was a heartbeat!!! The baby was tiny though - only 5mm long - and I'm 6 weeks and 3 days rather than 7 weeks and 2, which is what I thought I was as I didn't get my LH surge until CD20. (It makes you realise how good it is to use ov sticks or temping etc so as to have a better idea of your cycle, otherwise I would have been worried sick that it was too small etc). I now go back every two weeks from now on util I get to 14 weeks which is so reassuring. So now, another two week wait to see if I make it to 8 weeks...!

Am updating to add Ray81 to bottom of other list (hope you don't mind ray?)

hopeforbundleofjoy AF due around 28th feb and still waiting...
Lovelymonster Af due 19th March
Pinkyblue123 AF due 26th March
Wasabi - AF due 27th March
whatsfortea AF due 26th March ish
Yellowflowers AF due 3rd April
Joolsiam AF due 11th April
Flintski - Af due mid-april
Kittycatcat - AF due 23rd/24th April

Graduates:-
Heebychick BFP
BeckyMcG BFP
BoosieBoo BFP
Sn0wflake BFP
Pezzina BFP
SmileyCat BFP EDD 09/09/09
Spats BFP
WanabeMum BFP EDD 19th Sept!
Cindy BFP EDD 7 October
iggypiggy BFP
Queenie1 BFP
Broodzilla BFP
Kyte BFP
Funtimewincies BFP
Ray81 - BFP

WOW!
Hello everyone. Been v busy at work and unless i take my lap top home no comp there....
HUGE CONGRATULATIONS funtime and Ray,, That is fabulous
Well i didnt expect anything this month as BDing wasnt succesfull and AF arrived Sunday
Heres the list updated;

Ray81 - ???
hopeforbundleofjoy AF due around 28th feb and still waiting...
Lovelymonster Af due 19th March
Pinkyblue123 AF due 26th March
Wasabi - AF due 27th March
whatsfortea AF due 26th March ish
Yellowflowers AF due 3rd April
Joolsiam AF due 11th April
Flintski - Af due mid-april
Kittycatcat - AF due 23rd/24th April

Graduates:-
Heebychick BFP
BeckyMcG BFP
BoosieBoo BFP
Sn0wflake BFP
Pezzina BFP
SmileyCat BFP EDD 09/09/09
Spats BFP
WanabeMum BFP EDD 19th Sept!
Cindy BFP EDD 7 October
iggypiggy BFP
Queenie1 BFP
Broodzilla BFP
Kyte BFP
Funtimewincies BFP

I really hope it is good news this month as it will be exactly a year since my MC this weekend. I expected that that I would have had a BFP by now. Oh well these things are sent to try us!!

I got all weepy hearing a song on the radio on Mother's Day . Good luck!

Thank you Iggypiggy you are so right the symptoms are so similar, which is why we all drive ourselves mad wondering!!

pinkyblue I was tearful before the BFP - and it usually means AF for me too. Trouble is the symptoms can be so similar - have fingers crossed for you xx

Congratulations Ray fingers crossed it all goes well.

Sorry about AF Flitski Wasabi Looks like we are expecting AF (or BFP -I live in hope!) around same time fingers crossed. I too have been feeling a bit tearful which makes me think perhaps AF is on her way.

This certainly seems to be a lucky thread though so hopefully we will all pick up on the good luck

Congratulations ray!!!!!!! .

Sorry that the witch got you this month flintski and good luck wasabi.