Twenties TTC - Join Me Pleeeease!

hi girls

hope everyone is ok,esp you bubble,i know its a cliche but time is a healer,ant hope you got pizza yum!

any news from anyone else,is anyone waiting to test?i'm due af on thurs and am going to need to try v hard not to test before then,but i determined not to,its so depressing getting a bfn,so i'v decided i'd rather find out i wasn't pg but af arriving i'm normally regular so if af not here by fri i'l allow myself a test

hi ant... sounds like a lovely day

it was like spring here yesterday but is grey again today

all is well in the bubble house just waiting to stop bleeding now. so i can completely forget about this mc.

Hi everyone! Havnt been on for a few days, so just skimmed over ALL the posts!

Sorry to hear your news bubble, hoping that you are feeling better soon.

josie did you test?

ant sorry to hear that the docs arn't being helpful, sometimes they just cant see that something that they consider is 'ok' now, is not ok at all!

Well I am on 2WW now, thinking that af will arrive sometime around the 1st March??!! But who knows?

oh my, have rambled on a bit . See what happens when you ladies leave me on my own. lol

Hey ladies,

Is anyone here - im all alone
Does anyone have any news?

Today, we took DS on a tour of the parks around us - we've not had much chance since we moved in because the weather has been atrocious - raining everyday!! Me and DS have only had a few opportunities to visit the one thats closest to us - but its a bit crap. We have been rain free for about a week - the driest it has been since we moved in 7mths ago!!! It was loads of fun, we went to a food and craft fair and wandered round the wee shops.

Am now pooped, but still have to make tea [tired emoticon] - secretly hoping DP will opt for pizza instead

Bye

Hey ladies,

bubble hope you are feeling a bit better now that you know. Glad that you didnt need medical intervention - just extra hassle and worry.

As for me, had a wasted trip to the docs yesterday - he looked at me when I explained my stuation and said 'well if your af is back, then there's nothing to worry about' and to come back sooner if it happens again.

Feeling a bit daft for going in now.

Well, I hope everyone else is doing fine. I have just come back from day at park with DS - he's sleeping on the couch now and Im just away to check on my stew.

hi everyone, hope your all ok.

well blood test results came back yesterday and Hcg is back at 0 so i guess that its all over this time.

dr said that nature has done its job and i wont need medical intervention which i am over the moon about.

just got to stop bleeding now and then i will get back on the wagon

thanks again for all your support.

Bubble - I hope everything goes ok at the Doctors today, will be thinking of you.

Joy - its so typical that you are away for your ov though in my new bible (the Zita West guide to getting pregnant, that I have already had to hide from my dh as he thinks I am getting obsessed) it says that sperm can live for upto a week once inside!!! So just make sure you bd lots before you have to go so that there are enough still there doing their thing, while you are hard at work.

Ant- sorry that your af arrived but at least its a step in the right direction. I hope it doesn't arrive next month but in a good way!

Hi icklejem - hope its third time lucky for you this month.

Still no af for me. Am not going to test until Saturday though as done two already this month and its quite depressing getting a bfn, so want to make absolutely sure that no af coming...in the words of that famous philosopher, Gary Barlow, need to have a little patience...

Sorry. Will stop rambling now and get on with some work

Oh also Iam81, I am glad you are feeling fairly positive about your experience now. I have to say, 7 months down the line I am actually glad in a weird way that I had the mc as I know we can get pregnant. Otherwise I might be worrying by now. I'd rather have got pg and had the mc than not got pg at all...iyswim!

bubble I really feel for you. The medical stuff was, for me, the most distressing part. I didn't find my EPU to be particularly helpful or organised, but hopefully yours is better!

I had to go to the hospital three times during the week of my miscarriage. I had one internal exam a couple of days into the mc, an internal scan two days later and a blood test every other day to measure HCG levels, check for ectopic pg etc. I had to go back each week for a fortnight to check that my HCG levels were dropping, until they reached 0.

I'm not sure how long bleeding usually lasts- I think it really varies. Mine lasted for a week, with a peak (when I passed the "products"- sorry I know it's horrid to mention) on the third day of heavy bleeding. But every mc is different.

Basically if the pregnancy is definitely over, your HCG levels should drop by half each day. The EPU should be able to give you your levels when they do a blood test- I noted mine in my diary as it helped me to see that the levels were dropping as they should be- I also found it useful as I knew that I would get a positive hpt if I did one, so seeing the levels written down stopped me from getting my hopes up (funny/mad how the mind works).

Anyway sorry to go on- I just know that I found the experiences of women on this forum to be helpful when I was having a mc, so I hope this will be useful to you too.
x

bubble u sound exactly like i did joy ur description of how u felt is the same as i felt,its great to hear i'm normal, i felt a sort of numbness detached feeling,then i tried just to focus on trying again i felt like thats the only thing that would make me ok,i'v had 2 cycles since mc and already feel sort of glad it didn't happen right away as i probably wasn't ready,anyway bubble wil be thinking of u

ant thats good ur af arrived,typical ay?once u'v booked docs apt!!u should've booked apt last week haha

ickle hiya,i have a dd 2.5 years(so cute aren't they) too this is my 3rd cycle trying after mc, so hopefully 3rd time lucky for me too

ant im pleased that AF came. i hope this means that she is going to be arriving on time each month or staying away for 9

joy thank you. thats exaclty how i feel right now.

what do i need to expect tomorrow when i go back for my results. i know they will say its all over i just dont want to b proded and tested anymore. how long does it normally take? ive started getting some pains now and the bleeding is getting gradually heavier. i just dont want it to go on and on.

bubble, if it helps, this is what I posted when I was having my mc (my first visit to Mumsnet in fact):

"Emotionally I'm confused.Am I sad? Should I be sad? Do I have any right to be sad about a pregnancy which was almost certainly never viable in the first place and was so early?
And yet I do feel... I don't know. I'd describe my current mood as flat."

I felt a bit weird about how I was feeling, as I felt I "should" be more upset but wasn't.

The main thing I learned was that it is OK to feel whatever you are feeling.

ant, sorry about af but, as you say, at least you have some clarity now and can stop wondering what's going on.

Hey ladies,

bubble - Im so sorry to hear your news . (((hugs))) I hope you have better luck next time.
Oh joy how rubbish for you to be away during your fertile period again. Just make sure u BD as much as poss before u go and wen u come back

Hope everyone else is doing well.

As for me, AF arrived at 3pm today - so at least soemthing's happening. Hopefully(or rather not so) she will be on time again in 28days.

Take care

joy how awful that ur away over your fertile period again. i hope that you can sort it or ov a lil late so u dont miss it.

your right this is the first time its happened to me. i dont really know what will happen next just taking it 1 step at a time. thanks so much for your advice. your a star. its a comfort to know that im not the only person feeling the way i do. i was worried i was too detached.

Hey bubble, good to hear that you are doing OK. You have a great attitude and I applaud your decision to stop cycle watching. I can't recall from your previous posts whether you have had a mc before or not... but if you haven't, I hope I'm not doom mongering (or pissing on your positive-attitude strawberries) if I say don't be alarmed if you start to feel more upset about your miscarriage further down the line. I felt quite matter of fact about my mc when it was happening... then sad about it later. Hopefully this won't happen to you (and hopefully you'll get pg again soon). But I just wanted to you know, if that happens it would be perfectly normal.

Hello icklegem. Here's hoping three will be your lucky number again.

So, guess who's going to be away on CD12-15 of her cycle? Me! Last month my boyf got sent away for work, this month it's me- and during the week our housemate is away too! Oh well, I did suspect that I ov'd on CD17 last month, so maybe that will happen again. To be honest I'm rubbish at CM inspection- it all looks the same to me- so I've no real idea when I ov.
I may well join bubble in the non-cycle-watchers club- it's starting to wind me up! You know you're getting obsessed when you consider telling your Gene Hunt-esque male boss you can't go on a work trip because it's your fertile window...

Hi Girls!

I'm 26 and this is my third month TTC. I have a DD 2 1/2. At day 2 of my 28 day cycle so hoping things happen for us this month.
Was 8 days late for AF this month and thought I may have been pregnant too, so was a bit upset when I came on yesterday...

Lots of luck to everyone trying and chin up! I'm just gonna not worry about it and just let it be and hopefully it will just happen.

I conceived DD on third month of trying (letting it happen) last time, so this could be it. We'll see..

x

thanks everyone for your support and well wishes.

im fine thanks and surprisingly i dont feel crushed or upset. more matter of fact ??

this time round im not watching anything just gonna inject some spice into my love life and give my hubby a treat.
no more cycle watching for me. i promise

so so sorry for you bubble. i know how you feel as had a mc in nov and i hate that limbo feeling as there is always hope that the hormones will pick up and everything will be ok. i realy hope it is ok for you.

i'm feeling much better now i had a small break from the threads and tried to forget about ttc, didnt realy happen and we did bd around ov but then i got glandular fever and i think even if the egg did fertlise my body would have been so ill it just wouldnt inbed.
i have about another week to go until af due but also have a scan on the 25th as they want to check womb etc, secretly hoping that they will find out i am pg but that is just wishful thinking things like that just dont happen to me.

heres hpoing though

So sorry Bubble. Thinking of you and sending you a hug.

thanks joy,

still in limbo really.... rang drs this morn and they have said i have to let nature take its course... what does that mean.

Oh no, bubble! So sad for you. Is there no hope at all?
I've been there and it's totally wretched.
We're here for you, talk to us, you don't have to suffer alone.
x

thanks lam

bleeding is heavier this morn so i do think its all over.. my hcg level was too low yesterday for the pregnancy to of been viable.

will see what happens but i think that im back ttc with you girls

oh bubble i'm so sorry,i think there r afew of us on this thread who mc'd it really is an awful experience,however lots of people bleed early on and end up ok,so fingers crossed for u,will be thinking of u [hugs]