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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

So ive diaried. counted, timed and checked mucous "stuff"...

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deanychip · 07/01/2009 20:52

Been trying for 18 months now with no success. Not trying very hard really but now i am fed up and really want to make a baby this year.

So i have put down in my diary the 1st date of my period.
Counted 7 days after and then we have been BDing every other day till day 15.

Today ive got like ovulation discomfort. Its day 16 now.

So for the last 18 months we have been trying around about the days of the ovulation pains.....BFN every month...so what am i to do now?

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FertilityFiend · 07/01/2009 21:54

I tend to get ovulation cramps a couple of days before ovulation, as Mrs Happy says you can't go by the pain happening on the actual 'day'.

As your cycles seem reasonably regular I'd recommend temping to try and pinpoint ov day, have a look at
fertility friend

maybe in conjunction with opk sticks (you can get them on ebay much more cheaply than the chemist)

oh and if you really want to learn more about your cervix, check out
my beautiful cervix
It's an amazing site, but not for the fainthearted

Good luck

MrsHappy · 07/01/2009 21:16

It's not really clear what causes "ovulation pains", so you might be ovulating later than you think. I get pains starting about 3 days before ovulation.

Is this your first month of checking CM?

I think if my cycle was between 26 and 30 days I would be looking to have sex from day 10 to day 18 (as well as 2-3 times a week the rest of the time). That assumes you have an average length luteal phase. If you have a 30 day cycle you could well ovulate after day 15...

18 months is quite long though so if I was you I also might go to the GP and get some basic tests (e.g. bloods and your DH's sperm) - put down a marker that you might be wanting more help in time.

scorpio1 · 07/01/2009 20:56

cervix

Original poster
deanychip · 07/01/2009 20:55

OH DEAR GOD!!!! Check my what now??

Cervix jeez....how does one do that? LOL!

No idea about cycle length....periods vary, some times every 26 days, sometimes 30 days.

Ovulation pains truly ARE pains...quite bad.

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scorpio1 · 07/01/2009 20:53

Are you sure oyu ov on day 14? I do on more like 19.

What is your cycle length? Have you checked cervix too?

Lulumama · 07/01/2009 20:53

see a doc and ask for a referral to a gynae