TTC any which way DP CM BT OPK Grapefruit drinking ....

Hi Ladies,

If I tell you all that the Co-Op has a sale on freshly squeezed grapefruit juice, will you let me in on the thread?

TTC no 1, AF due 30 Jan

Should be starting the BD fest today (I OV v. early) but have a stinking cold (just like last month...) so if I manage a BFP I should probably name the bean after Kleenex balm tissues...

Hope you all have a lovely, babydusty, weekend.

When DP and I got engaged, over ten years ago now - grrr I want a wedding ! - I told him I would only say yes on the basis that I knew I would want children sometime in the future.

He lost his job and we had massive money problems, so everything went on hold and I convinced myself I didn't want children because we just couldn't afford it.

Around 18 months ago, my body clock starting ticking extremely loudly and things started falling into place - DP got a job - not great but some money, then I managed to secure work (with the same firm) locally, saving me £300 every month in travel and here I am

• well i suppose it's covered by persistence too

Do you know I have always said I don't want children... changed my mind 18 months ago... and now look at me

too true iggy!!!!! missed a very important aspect of the whole ttc there didn't i?!

Patience, Persistence and Shagging

Have updated list so am in right place again:

Mummy2olivia AF due December 23rd DP
Elliegant AF due 24th Dec DP
Sans04 AF due 26th December DP
Suigeneris AF due 1 Jan DP (intention to)
Ilovebeingamummy AF due 1st Jan
Funtimewincies - 8th Jan - hospital appointment to find out what the hell is going on!
Wanabemum AF due 17th-21st Jan DP
Funtimewincies AF due 18/19th Jan
Lovelymonster Af due 26th January
Queenie - AF due 28th / 29th Jan
Cindy AF due 29th January DP
Pinkie08 due 30th Jan clomid and DP
Yellowflowers AF due from 30th Jan DP
iggypiggy - AF due 2nd Feb

Heebychick BFP
BeckyMcG BFP
BoosieBoo BFP
Sn0wflake BFP
Villagemum BFP
Wasabipeanut BFP
Pezzina BFP
SmileyCat BFP

Thanks jools. I kinda agree just can't imagine my life without children in it! But totally agree with your attitude, this way by hook or by crook!!! There is a long way to go before adoption is the last resort anyway, we were just being a little negative i think

Patience & persistence should be our new mantra!

C'mon ladies say it with me ........

Patience & Persistence is all that's needed

Patience & Persistence is all that's needed

Patience & Persistence is all that's needed ............

Oh, and VM is around and posted elsewhere recently - think she has a scan soon

Hi Wanabe - I'm not on the list because I had no idea what my cycles were doing !

I'm not even sure whether to add myself this month as I not sure if I ovulated or not

If I did, and am on a 2ww, I would guess at AF being due at around Jan 19th / 20th - tis very much a guess though I'm used to having a clockwork cycle, so this feels very unsettling !

I don't think I'd want to adopt either - will do it this way by hook or by crook - it just requires patience and persistence

Ahh ladies it si so good to vent on here! my poor DH would have a fit if he knew exactly how neurotic i am!

Why don't they get it? He tries but still can't quite get how it takes over my life every day occasionally.

We had the discussion the other night about what we would do if we couldn't conceive and he said absolutely no to adoption so made me a bit miserable for a while. It's his choice though i guess, he says he doesn't know if he could love someone elses child like his own. Fair comment.
I know im young and shouldn't be thinking about it yet but i can't help it. I keep thinking "i'm young, fit(ish), healthy(ish) so why can't i conceive?" the worste bit is my DH has had the "all clear" on his sperm test which makes me think "well it must be me then!"
Ahhhhhhhhhhh slipping back into negativity!!! save me funtime quickly

I've sopied over the list for people to amend/update. I've changed my dates but thought I'd leave everyone elses as I get confused easily
Also, Jools don't think you're on the list!

Mummy2olivia AF due December 23rd DP
Elliegant AF due 24th Dec DP
Sans04 AF due 26th December DP
Suigeneris AF due 1 Jan DP (intention to)
Ilovebeingamummy AF due 1st Jan
iggypiggy - AF due 2nd Jan
Funtimewincies - 8th Jan - hospital appointment to find out what the hell is going on!
Wanabemum AF due 17th-21st Jan DP
Funtimewincies AF due 18/19th Jan
Lovelymonster Af due 26th January
Queenie - AF due 28th / 29th Jan
Cindy AF due 29th January DP
Pinkie08 due 30th Jan clomid and DP
Yellowflowers AF due from 30th Jan DP

Heebychick BFP
BeckyMcG BFP
BoosieBoo BFP
Sn0wflake BFP
Villagemum BFP
Wasabipeanut BFP
Pezzina BFP
SmileyCat BFP

ilove i'm so sorry the witch arrived and that you're feeling so blue it's not aweful to feel the way you do i think it just comes with the territory, plus you have had the BFP and then had it taken away so i can only imagine how that feels. Try and be slightly positive though, in 5 days time you can start again. I say this with gritted teeth because i know it's the last thing you want to hear. Sorry again ((hugs))

jools i never get sore boobs around OV and only occasionally get twinges in my ovaries so yes it can happen!! I really hope it's our month you know. Haven't had the hunger thing, the opposite actually, not felt hungry at all really.

Just a quickie as I'm mega busy at work - good thing really as it stops me symptom spotting too much !!

Does EVERYONE get tender / enlarged boobs when they ovulate ? I'd love to hear from anyone who can OV without having boob pain, as it is making worry obsess that I am in another anovulatory cycle and not on the 2WW

For the past few months, I have, but I'm not sure if that was due to more than one CP ? This month, I think I probably did ovulate and my boobs feel like they may be a little fuller, but they are not sore like usual - unless it is because my body post MC is still pretty much used to the progesterone and doesn't react so strongly ?

Wanabe - I have the same travel sickness / slightly floaty and detached feeling and have been incredibly hungry yesterday and today

I'm out. Af arrived in earnest this morning, bang on time, CD34. I had convinced myself it was my month for a sticky one.

Am honestly more devastated than with the mc... at least I had my bfps for a while then. Isn't that awful.

EVERYONE around me is pregnant now too. I even suspect the men sometimes.

Hey ladies,

was on training yesterday and didn't manage to get to my computer at home. Busy busy!

Funtime im sorry about your cancelled appointment but very impressed at your green fingers and extraordinary outlook on life at the moment, how fab you are! You have made me feel very positive too.

Jools it was me who was convinced you were PG so hopefully we will both graduate this time. I'm also 3DPO today and have also been having waves of nausea (not too frequent admittedly), mainly on my way into work, a little like motion sickness which passes quite quickly. Can't possibly be anything exciting though as too early for those symptoms, but i can but hope!

It's so lovely hearing about how our graduates are doing and when your EDD's are! Aww hopefully Heeby we will all soon be comparing belly sizes and EDD's ((crosses fingers ever so tightly))

Ahh there is something nice about January, it is like a fresh start and funtime has made me see it all in a new light (ooh very spiritual). Positive outlooks and all that.

Also, me and DH managed 2 BD's on day of OV, one the night before, and one the night after, so if it doesn't happen this month i may scream!! it's the first time we have gone at it so vigorously around OV. Just that extra time on day of OV makes me feel a little more positive.

C1ndy my fertility monitor isn't that complicated to be honest it's more my body being very awkward and unstable . I have irregular cycles anyway so the fertility monitor gets confused with me i think, the reason i love it is because i know exactly when i have OV'd so i can at least time BD right each month. Time will tell!

iggy I have a wormery - and like you I was very squeemish about worms - but really, you get used to them pretty quickly. I even get excited when I see little baby ones in there now. A complete turn-around from how I was about them before we got it

funtime - thanks for the links - we only have a tiny garden so container growing may work for us.

Queenie have fun this weekend

Hi to everyone else - hope you all have lovely weekends planned?

Hello pregnant people - please don't leave the thread. i love that we have people at all stages now to share wisdom. x

Ah yes the joys of symptom spotting. It's difficult to stop even though you rationally know that you couldn't possibly have any symptoms yet!

Mind you FWIW I had zero symptoms last month and then got my BFP so there we go. I assumed that because dh and I hadn't managed more than 1 shag at peak time my chances were somewhat scuppered for that month. Whaddaya know?

Like Becky I'd also be gutted to leave this thread. I have come to really rather rely on you all!

Funtime I am totally with you on the optimism that being a gardener makes you feel at this time of year. Makes the dark, chilly days a lot more bearable when you imagine how it is all going to look in June. We are mainly given over to veg but dh does allow me the odd decorative plant to make it look pretty! My ds already loves pottering out there in his wellies and with his little spade. Def following in his fathers footsteps I feel. We don't have a wormery yet but suspect it is only a matter if time. We'll be knitting our own meusli soon! I hope your AF takes the hint and clears off asap - I know what you mean about it being the most boring bit.

Queenie - what are you even doing on MN woman? I hope you are planning a shagtastic weekend

funtime your post made my toes curl

stupid tho it sounds I have a worm phobia... just typing that has made my toes curl am not the ideal gardener

Becky Get a dog - they are fab - lots of walking is so good for making you feel good and takes me away from work stress etc. I wouldn't be without mine. He has a dog walker when am at work so is never alone for more than about 3 hrs max.

back to ttc...

Agree that is nice to hear about EDDs - I just hope its me too soon

Am just waiting for af to push off now... which I think is the most boring bit...

I'm so happy that all of you on the bd fest & 2WW are ok about us talking about EDD etc, I would hate to leave this thread, its been my lifeline while tccing & I was hoping it would continue now that some of us are pg & others not too far from becomming pg. I would feel totally lost on another thread

Jools & Yellow symptom spot away, you can pretend that you are not thinking about it all day everyday, but we have all been in the same boat & know just how hard it is not to put every little twing down to thinking 'is this it'

I didn't symptom spot on my pg month as I thought I'd messed up, but when I look back on it I was very windy for about 5 days before I tested (& wks after ) & two days before I tested I was half way down the 1st ski slope after having a wee 10 mins before & was busting to the point where I felt I might have to show everyone my bum as I didn't think I could hold it till we got to the bottom. When I did get to the loo it was only a dribble??, that got my mind thinking & combined with a high temp that morning I sort of knew

Jools - I think if you're used to Spinning then go ahead and carry on. For me because I only do it occasionally (and don't even enjoy it) it kills me. I totally think it's an excuse really. My new work has a swimming pool so am thinking of checking that out when the weather gets warmed but always feels a bit of a cop out as you don't breal a sweat!!

Pezzina I would love a crust of freshly baked bread.

Everyone else with dogs - I am jelous. Would love one but work too long hours! Am still bloody here - thought I'd have a quick break and check up on the news!

Gardening - We moved out of (an apartment in) the city into a house (with a garden!) in October to hopefully get ready for a family so I can't wait to get out there in spring. You all sound such pro's . It's too cold for me now though I'm afraid - wimp. I suspect I will need all the help I can get. Hubby laughs as I kept killing window boxes on out balcony before!!

...and this bit shows you how to grow spuds in containers if you fancy a go but are short on space.

Right, back to all things conception, sorry for hijacking!

This one is a good general site...

Completely agree about the EDDs, reminders of what it all about.

I'm a bit of an evangelist about growing veg so don't get me started . I find that it makes this time of year very positive instead of depressing, as I'm planning for the spring and the year ahead seem so full of potential, very good for the soul .

I'll find a couple of links for those of you interested in having a go. It won't surprise you by now to hear that I too have breadmaker...and a wormery. Oh dear, soon be weaving my own sandals .

It's so lovely to hear of all your EDD dates! A reminder that all this BDing can actually lead to a new baby! Hope all of you who are now PG are thriving.

Yellow - I'm no temp expert but sounds like you may have ov'd early this month? Sorry to hear you're so sick. Agree that you should keep going every couple of days though just in case.

jools - refuse to slap you as this is what I do all the time! It's impossible not to symptom spot so go with it but always remind yourself it could go either way. I'm hoping for you though.

Began the BD session last night (CD7). Plan to grab DH as much as I can this month.