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Broody at 22

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Lottielou · 21/03/2005 12:47

I am a fit and healthy 22 yr old in a strong relationsuip. The other week we (my finance and I) got onto the subject of starting a family. We are both in good jobs and have our own place.

Is 22 too young to start a family? We aren't married is that a bad thing?

Could really do with some advice on this. I am nearly 100% sure that i want to try for a baby but just need to think it through again and again! Any advice is more than welcome!

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Lottielou · 21/03/2005 13:00

I Haven't used this site before, i came across it by chance and i am really glad i did. Thanks guys!
I have a friend same age as me and she has a 4yr old, i love him to bits and when i see how well she copes with him i have no dobuts that i will be fine.
i think the only thing that is maybe holding me back a little is my job! I woudllike to think i will go back after the 6 months maternity leave but would it be bad to but a 6 month old into Nursery care?

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NomDePlume · 21/03/2005 12:58

I was 20 when (planned) DD was born, DH and I weren't married at the time, we got married when she was 11 months old. We were in a good relationship, owned our own home and were financially stable. TBH, our ages (me - 19, him - 33), were the last consideration when it came to trying for a baby. The money, stability & emotional readiness was far more important. Good luck with whatever you decide to do, kids are fab

sweetheart · 21/03/2005 12:57

I had a baby at 19. I'd been with my boyfriend quite a long time and we had our baby outside of marriage.

She was an accident but she is the best thing I have ever done and if you feel ready there is no reason why you shouldn't have a baby.

If you wait until you can "afford" a child you'll be waiting for ever - somehow you manage to find the money - well we did anyway.

I'm 24 now and I love my little family. We got married a year after dd was born and I've never looked back!!!

GO FOR IT!!!

fairydust · 21/03/2005 12:55

hi lottielou i had my dd when i was 22 she is now 3 - don't think there is a right or wrong age to have a baby only you and your dp will know when the time is right.

I wasn't married when i had dd but married 5 months later.

floppsy · 21/03/2005 12:54

Hi,i don't think your to young,i was 19 when i had my first child,in a stable relationship,which i still am & have another child & i was glad i did it then alot of people said i was to young & that i should wait till i was older,but i felt ready for it & coped perfectly well.I just think that when im 35,still young enough to enjoy myself my dd1 will be 16 & my dd2 will be 12 & i can do all the things i want to do then,hope i've helped.

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Lottielou · 21/03/2005 12:53

Hey Dyzzidi!
Well i am in good health and i asked a nurse at my surgery for advice, she seemed to think i wudn't have any problems and advised me to start taking Folic Acid!
Have you Children? How old are you? x

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dyzzidi · 21/03/2005 12:50

Hi Lottielou
Are you in good health??

If you a re serious about starting a family I would look at relationship, finances. support and health. ( all been checked of in my case)

Also it's not a bad idea to see your GP and check on your immunisations and general health before TTc.

Whatever you decide Good Luck!!!1