trying for a September baby, anyone want to join?

Thanks for the congrats ladies. Issy and Sunnydale, I am sorry that the dreaded AF got you this month. Wishing you both lots of luck for next month and Issy also lots of luck for the IVF. Missie I am keeping my fingers crossed for a BFP for you xx

Congratulations littlewifey!
Issy42 and Sunnydale, sorry to hear it didn't work this time. Try not to get too downhearted about it, easier said than done I know, so here's hoping it happens for you soon xx.

I'm still doggedly haunting this thread like a spectre. AF has not arrived yet. I cracked tested today and got a BFN, but no longer have any idea what my cycle length should be. Since getting my AFs back after DD, my cycles started at 26 days but now seem to be 30+ days. Even my LP seems to have lengthened (which is a good thing but doesn't help with the measuring)! Not too many symptoms to report atm, a touch of cramping & flatulence . My temp started drifting down after the shift, but has now started drifting back up again so my chart looks like a rollercoster (reflects my emotions nicely - even though I vowed not to obsess).

Anybody else still waiting? I see some of the ladies at the top of the list have v. long CDs, so I assume they've either moved to an October thread or, hopefully, an ante-natal?

WarmSeaBreeze ttc#2 CD46
Pinkie08 ttc#2 cycle 4 of clomid CD44
Shoptilidrop ttc#2 cycle? CD?
MissieMoosMummy ttc#2 cycle 2 CD34
irishmumwannabe ttc#1 cycle 4 CD32
JumpingJellyfish ttc#3 cycle 7 CD31
morethanchocolate ttc#1 cycle2 after mc cd30
katster37 ttc#1 cycle 2 CD29
gateau ttc#2 cycle 2 after mc CD27
gettingstarted ttc#1 cycle 2 CD27
KatB ttc#4 cycle 1 CD27
idreamofbeanie ttc#1 cycle 2 CD23
twoplease ttc#2 cycle 11 CD23
forcessweetheart ttc#2 cycle 4 CD17
Bubblebell1 ttc#3 cycle 2 cd13
Mosschops ttc#3 cycle2 c10
Sunnydale ttc#3 cycle 3 CD1

BFPs
Olivo
2manychips
LittleRascal
Bexaa
Evie2000
TrixieBelden
Minxofmancunia
Headfai ry
Snowfalls
littlewifey

Sorry AF got you Sunnydale . Looks like we cross posted with the same thoughts there. Let's hope the thread continues to be lucky for everyone left.

Hello all - congrats Littlewifey that's wonderful news. Headfairy and Minx, sorry you are worrying - please try not to, I know easier said than done. Just think: you've done the hard part, you've passed stage 1 and are into stage 2. I'm trying to think of it in stages as it makes it less scary / more manageable.
Sadly, much as I'd love to be at stage 2, unfortunately AF arrived 2 days ago so it's back to square 1 for me. I noticed from the list that out of 28 names, 10 are now PG - that's an average of almost 1 in 3, which surely makes this a very lucky thread! I looked at the odds before AF arrived and was sure I'd be in the "unlucky" two-thirds - someone has to be! I guess I'll see some of you on the October thread, or maybe I'll have a break from MN, I don't know.
Gateau don't worry - I'll be 39 soon and there's already a 3 year age gap between my DC and the next one (if it ever comes along!) - I am gutted about it, as I really want DC not to be an only. I panick and feel sick when I think about it, which doesn't bode well for me getting PG! Oh well, what can you do? It's in the lap of the gods. Baby dust and sticky beans to all xxxx

I'm out again. Spotting and low temp today - even with a cold. Knew it was a long shot. Here's hoping the IVF brings better results.

Good luck everyone for a BFP and try not to worry those who got a BFP, I'm sure those beannies are sticky ones. BTW have any of you noticed that 30% of this thread have BFPs - defying the odds - and there's still another week to go to get a September baby.

xx

Congrats littlewifey

Hi ladies! Hope everyone is ok today? I did a second first response this morning (decided to save my digi till the weekend) And it was def a BFP! 2nd dark pink line almost straight away!! I'm so excited but also petrified something might go wrong again- why does MC have to take all the joy and innocence out of early pg.
I hope everyone else has had a good day. Headfairy, minx etc, have you been to see doc yet to tell them you are pg? I can't decide whether to wait a few more weeks and pay for an early scan (My MMC had happened at 6.5 weeks although I didn't find out til 12 last time) and then if scan is ok then go to doc and book in with midwife.
Good luck to all those on 2ww, anyone else testing soon? x

ah that's sweet irish, thanks! I've actually worked out what the cramping feeling is for me. It only ever happens at work, it was the same when I was pg with ds. It's to do with sitting at a desk for 12 hours I'm sure. Normally I would get out at lunchtime, pop over to the shopping centre for a wander, but I can't really do that at 3am so hence I think I get a bit crampy when I sit for too long. I'm sure that contributed to why ds was breech too, that and my funny uterus!

I hope everyone's well and the 2ww/ttc rollercoaster is being kind to you x

Hey all you Pg ladies - I'm so sorry that you are all worrying about your beans so much. I don't know what you are going through but will be thinking of you all over the next few weeks.

I hope everything goes well for you all and that you get your minds set at ease by the scans as and when they happen.

Good luck and lots of sticky thoughts being sent your way(s)

That's the thing that worries me 2manychips. My sis went for an early scan after her mc and they said the embryo was too small for her dates and to come back in 2 weeks. She spent those two weeks bricking it, only for it all to be absolutely fine. I don't know what's worse, waiting a whole 12 weeks (it's actually only 7 weeks now) or going in three weeks time and possibly having to face the same thing, it's quite common apparently.

I'm off home to bed now, have a lovely day everyone, and try not to worry about anything

Hey headfairy and minx My belly seems to constantly be cramping-really painful at times. I dont remember this with dd but maybe my mc is making me paranoid. I habe to say though I had a scan last week (early bleeding)and although seeing the tiny heartbeat reassured me at the time, I'm right back in worry land again now. Plus they worried me about something else!

Sorry to hear you're worrying so much minx, I'm sure it's just normal stretching pains you're feeling. I'm quite happy I can get an early scan at about 8 weeks if I want to. When I had my mc I went to the walk in clinic at the EPU and on the forms you fill in, they ask you your reasons for requesting a scan, and one of the reasons listed was anxiety following previous mc, so they recognise that as a valid reason for having a scan. My debate is whether I'm being silly as I've no reason to think there's anything wrong, and I'd just be using up valuable resources just to ease my concerns.

Aw Gateau, I know how you feel about the 40 thing. DH said I had to get pg by Dec 2009 as he didn't want to be have a new born after the age of 40. I'm not entirely sure what difference he thinks a few months make, instead he'll be 39 with a newborn! Silly boy

HeadFairy and minx, I hope you are both okay.
The first 12 weeks or so are such a worrying time, partic if you have had previous mc(s).
I too would be severly bricking it if I was pg.

headfairy if you call your local epu they can advise you where the nearest ealk in centre is, my nearest one is Gp referral only but the city centre one is walk in which is where th local one advised me to go. V helpful. Didn't bother with a GP referral cos the Gps at my practice are completely dismissive unless you're bleeding from an artery in front of them .

Hi headfairy, I'm getting lots of abdominal cramps and pain too, although no bleeding. Worried though cos had pain before blood when miscarried last time.

Boob huge and felt SICK this am though until I ate, am sleeping for England too, went for bloods at the walk in EPU yesterday though as fraught with worry over these cramps, having repeat tomorrow then they will call me tomorrow pm to let me know if hormones are behaving as they should do. Fingers crossed but bricking it.

best of luck to you too xx

He is 21 months tomorrow. I would have loved another Dc before I was 40, but it doesn;t look as if that'll happpen. I'll settle for another DC - anytime! Pickers can't be choosers.
I would ask your Gp to refer you for an early scan, but I'm not sure they would scan you before seven weeks??!

That must have been awful for you Gateau, two mc's back to back. I must admit I'm absolutely bricking it this time round. I'm getting lots of abdominal pain, which the sensible part of my brain says is just stretching, but the panicky part of my brain thinks is a miscarriage. I'm trying to console myself that last time I was bleeding for quite a few days before the pain started and then it was obvious I was miscarrying.

You're so right about the pros and cons of early pregnancy tests. So many women have miscarried without knowing in the past and so have avoided the heartache of knowing you were so near and yet so far. Ignorance is bliss (sometimes). Having said that I'm currently debating whether to go for an early scan for some peace of mind.

How old is your ds Gateau?

Could be true for some women. I hoped that was true for me when I got pg after my first mc last year. And then I had another mc and was devastated. I couldn't believe it was happening again.
Your poor Mum. She probably never got over it.
And yes, you're probably right about your previous mc. My Mum says she is pretty sure she had one years and years ago, but at the time must thought it was a late, very heavy period. Pg tests are so sensitive now that we all detect pregancies very, very early and so know about mcs very, very early on. Years ago, women would never have even known about early mcs.
So today's pg tests have their pros AND cons.

my ds is 16 months. the funny thing is now I've had one mc, I think I've had one before. A few years ago I had a funny period, late, heavy and clotty. At the time I panicked because my friend had the same symptoms and had abnormal cells on a smear and had to have some cells removed. My periods returned to normal straight away and I gave it no more thought. I think that was possibly an early mc. I was wierdly calm about the whole mc, my sis had one a couple of years ago and she was great, reassuring me it wasn't anything I'd done, that the baby just wasn't developing properly and the body does it's best to prevent problems with a pregnancy but sometimes it just has to end it.

My poor mum had one at about 22 weeks (back in the late 60s, dating wasn't so accurate in those days) and she had to deliver a still born baby, she didn't get over that for years and had terrible pnd after having me as a result.

A friend of mine has a theory (she did read it in a medical journal so not totally unfounded) that some women alternate successful pregnancies with miscarriages as sometimes some remnants of the previous pregnancy remain and causes the body to reject the new pregnancy, thus clearing out the uterus and allowing the next pregnancy to be successful. I have no idea if that's true, but she's had 5 children and miscarried in between each one, so she's convinced it's true, and almost expects it.

Know what you mean, HeadfFairy.
I got pg the second month of TTC with DS. I realise now what a flippin' miracle he was because I got pg twice after that - moreorless straightaway, but sadly both ended in mc.
That makes three mcs in total (I had one 4.5 years ago as well).. Worried this is it for me now, but trying to be positive. Am desperate for a sibling(s) for DS.
How old is your DS?

Gateau, I'm 38, 39 in July so the same age as you. I always worried about the age thing as it took me 18 months to get pg with ds, but I have started to rethink that as I got pg the first month of trying (but went to on to mc) and then got pg this month which was our 3rd cycle, and with only one bd and me with an awful cold. I'm increasingly thinking I didn't have a clue when I was ttc ds!

Morning ladies,
Thanks for all your advice. Am not sure whether to get OPK kits or not as then I'd be totally obsessed!
Feel as if AF is looming - getting that old heavy feeling. Boo hoo. But then this morning I also noticed what looked like EWCM. IF so, that would mean I am ov on CD23, when my cycle only used to be around that long. WTF??!
Bloody hell, these mcs have a lot to answer for. I haven't a clue what my body is doing these days. I guess the thing that scares me the most is that I am no longer ovulating, or at least not regularly, or that my eggs are not as good quality as they once wwre. (I am now 39).
What ages are the rest of you ladies, if you don't mind me asking?

Another reason for waiting littlewifey, they're blooming expensive so wait until you're pretty certain you're going to get a positive No point wasting all that money for a farking "not pregnant"!

I've had the odd bout of nausea, nothing major, but I didn't with ds. Just occasionally I'll retch, not nice but better than actually throwing up. Got lots of achey feelings in my lower abdomen though, hoping it's all that stretching going on rather than anything more sinister. Doesn't feel like the pain I had when I had a mc, plus I was bleeding masses by the time I got the pain, so I'm fairly confident it's just the stretching starting. I do remember my friend saying to me last time I was pg, "oh lucky you, no periods for 9 months" except the stretching pains made it feel like a 9 month long period (but obviously without the bleeding). Mustn't grumble though, I did want this to happen, and anything to do with a pregnancy progressing is good!

Lol at your squemish comment Sunnydale... I'm exactly the same!! And thanks to you and Head for the advice, I have got a digital test, but am going to wait a couple more mornings before I use it because a) I will be able to tell I'm not if AF turns up! and b) I read somewhere that they aren't as sensitive. Headfairy, how are you feeling? Any MS etc yet?
Sunnydale and Gateu, I used the OPK sticks this time, really cheap from ebay, and was really glad that I did, because we were b'ding completely too early. Infact, if the OPK was right, I ov'd pretty late.
Good luck to anyone else testing, and Sunnydale, I'll keep my fingers crossed for the next two days for you
Off to work now... ho hum!!

Good luck sunnydale!

Littlewifey, do come back on here and tell us what you get. It's so hard to wait isn't it? I'm really excited and impatient, and it's not even me testing

missiemoosmummy, hopefully some of the little swimmers hung around long enough this month!

Hello to everyone else, hope the ttc rollercoaster isn't too stressful for you all x