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The WIMBEWAI(N)F Club

962 replies

Bucky2008 · 19/11/2008 08:56

OK, so how about we start of on a positive....

I bought the test.

I did the test.

BFP .

Job done.

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MrsHappy · 21/11/2008 20:52

Are you ok this evening Bucky?
Anything we can do?

JollyBear · 21/11/2008 20:40

That is just awful news . I'm so so sorry bucky

PicknMix · 21/11/2008 11:55

Bucky I'm so sorry to hear you're bleeding . Please take time off to look after yourself. As others have said, I think it is definitely worth visiting the dr, if only to get it documented. Huge big hugs to you and your dp xx

Caitni · 21/11/2008 09:57

oh Bucky I am so sorry . This must be heartbreaking for you and your DP. Sending you big .

mibbes · 21/11/2008 08:58

Bucky I am so sorry to hear you are bleeding hun . It is probably worth a visit to GP, given how long you have tried you at least want the PG to be documented and as it is a second MC and you have tried for so long in between they may do investigation, you never know, sometimes the NHS surprise us.. Sending you MASSIVE {{{cyber hugs}}} xx

MrsHappy · 21/11/2008 08:10

Or TAKE, even.

MrsHappy · 21/11/2008 08:09

I know that it's really really hard right now but it will get better.

Will be thinking of you lots today.

Maybe when you are up to it a visit to the GP would be a good idea. MCs do happen, but in your circumstances I would hope that they would maybe expedite your next consultant appointment.

Tak care

Bucky2008 · 21/11/2008 07:49

No pain really. Apart from my broken heart .

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MrsHappy · 21/11/2008 07:41

Oh no, I don't know what to say.

Are you having pain or are you ok in that respect?

Massive (((((((higs))))))

Bucky2008 · 21/11/2008 07:04

Sorry to put a damper on what was going to be a positive thread but it seems that this time it is over as quickly as it began . I woke up this morning to 2 large clots and am bleeding really really heavily. So, I am sure once again there will be no baby. .

Needless to say I am well and truly done now. Not sure if to go to the doctor or not, they are just going to say 'ah these things happen, lots of people have mc's and then go on to have happy healthy pgs' and I really don't want to hear that today. I might tell my boss though because I cannot face going in to work.....

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MrsHappy · 20/11/2008 22:43

Hello ladies

Yes I am fine thank you Bucky. When I was pg with DD all I ate was processed food so it sounds like you are having a stroppy girl to me . Just get on the good quality ante natal vits, then you will balance it out. Oh and of your weight loss - there was not much of you to begin with.

Caitni I'm glad you're ok. I know it is just SHIT when your period arrives yet again, but we will all get there. I worked out today that I had 9 cycles to my first ep, then 3 months off, then a cp, then second ep and now 2 more cycles. I reckon that makes this about my 14th attempt. Let's hope that 14 is the month of the embryo with a sense of direction...

Right, am knackered so must go to bed (fertility wine is having an effect), but higs for everyone, our pregnant ladies and the non-pgs too.

MOB I forgot to say - your bit about turning the light off made me think of a line in a film "NOONE GETS LEFT BEHIND". What film is that from? Does anyone remember?

Bucky2008 · 20/11/2008 21:30

Hey Mibbes its not really sinking in. I had to rush for a 7am train and it was non stop all day. I ate so much rubbish I feel guilty! I had a McDonalds milkshake for lunch and half a pork and apple baguette a bar of chocolate and two digestives for dinner and that is it! I have to make some effort to eat something that hasn't been processed to death tomorrow .

Caitni hun, you know I know how you feel. This is Month 31 for me. Glad you are not going loop the loop like I did. .

Hello to everyone. Where are you all today. Yoohoo MrsH you OK?

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mibbes · 20/11/2008 19:52

Caitni so sorry it wasn't your month, but am very impressed with your positive mental attitude !

Bucky how did it feel waking up PG this morning ? Is it sinking in yet ?..... am still so excited for you

Caitni · 20/11/2008 14:39

hi ladies

Bucky hope work isn't too stressful at the moment and at your weight loss! I'm back on a healthy eating kick, but only cos if I don't then I'll be the size of a house by Christmas . And I did have a smidgen of [fertility] wine at lunch yesterday . 'Fraid I'll have to pass on lunch this Friday - have a colleague's birthday lunch - but give my love to GG!

MOB happy conferencing . Hope you have a good time ducking all the drinking opportunities there

MrsH that sounds pretty stressful about the HSG. I really hope it's not too painful for you (and that if it is, then you can head home for the afternoon!).

07MTW sorry, I missed your post when I last posted so a big HELLO to you and little Freya . Unbelievable how quickly time's passing but glad to hear that things are going well .

And to everyone not mentioned by name, work is a bit busy today.

So CD2 for me today, and worked out that this is actually the start of cycle 15 . Strangely, despite having a bit of a cry last night, am feeling OK about it . It'll hopefully be our turn soon and I don't want to waste energy feeling down when there's Christmas to look forward to (I love Christmas!).

And I need to make the appointment to see the GP to get results at some point next week. Would you believe I've never had to get test results back before so have no idea if you can just phone up and get them or not . Still, would be good to chat to the doc anyway so I guess I'll just book in and see him...

caitni x

Madoldbird · 19/11/2008 21:11

Bucky am still grinning madly for you . Glad to hear the result came up good and quick. I know what you mean about having a "sober" christmas - it's just struck me that i will be having the same (so worth it, though) It will be lovely to go through this with you. Give my love to GG when you see her on friday. If she is still starting the ivf in january and wants to chat about it, then let me know. i still have her email address somewhere. I can understand that you and DP don't want to think too far ahead ATM, but i hope you are both having a lovely evening, and enjoying this exciting day.

EI So sorry to hear it is now cycle 13 for you. Stupid ASDA Hope you are ok.

Caitni sorry as well to hear your temp has dropped . Good to hear you have got your blood test done though. I'm sure it won't matter if you are a day out. When is your appt at the drs to look at yours & DH's results?

PnM Am liking moblet The DCs know already - we told them just before we started the ivf - as they are 11 & 12 we thought they may well pick up that something was going on, so best to tell them. That way we could leave clinic paperwork around, i could inject myself etc without having to worry. They are very excited, and i think it is going to be a long few months for them. Did you get some lovely things from the farm shop?

MTW lovely to hear from you. I'm glad Freya is doing well. I'm sure she'll settle into a routine soon.

MrsH Am liking "the chick" as well... we'll have to have votes! Hope you are doing ok and that you are enjoying your fertility wine!!

I am away at a conference tomorrow and friday, so won't be around (a sober conference for me ). Have a good couple of days and see you all soon. XXX

Bucky2008 · 19/11/2008 20:46

wow, bit long...soz .

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Bucky2008 · 19/11/2008 20:46

wow, bit long...soz .

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Bucky2008 · 19/11/2008 20:45

Ah, home now. I was supposed to out on the lash tonight but am already at a loss for excuses. How do you go from crazy lush to pure vessel overnight? . And I have another one on Friday? , not to mention Christmas parties...ah well. I know which one I would rather...I am just dreading all the excuses I have to make, it is going to be SO obvious!

So, now for a bit of attention to the rest of you my lovelies.

PnM Bean informs me he/she gave very very clear instructions before he/she left to your bean. He/She said she would be right along soon . PMSL at the white duck, very inventive indeed.

Ei Stupid ASDA!!! Hey I'll be in your neck of the woods tomorrow, aren't you up North somewhere? I'm off to Leeds tomorrow! Lets hope 13 is your lucky number. This time round has taken me 26 months...geez no wonder everyone is dumbfounded, that is really ridiculous .

MOB If this bean of mine sticks we can go on our journey together now [higs]. I am so happy for you too, it will be great to have company, especially as we have 'known' each other for AGES now .

Caitni poppet, I keep meaning to email you about lunch. I have your email address here, and will get round to it soon. I am meeting GG on Friday, maybe you could join us? And fingers crossed TEW does not turn up...if she does get to the gin . Dr Bucky recommends, a crap diet...(coffee for breakfast, a cigarette for lunch and stale old Burger King burger after a night on the lash...)I'm joking...kind of...hee hee. I don't really smoke but I have been so stressed at work. My company made people redundant and we have had to take the workload. Can't complain but stress stress stress. So, the coffee for breakfast and cigarette for lunch has been true for a few weeks now. I made sure it never went up to more than one a day . What with that and the excessive exercise to get rid of the anxiety I have lost 11 lbs and I was only 9st 4lbs to being with!

Jollybear, 07MTW, Sparkly and my special Mibbseyeelcatcher thank you so much for your kind words. I bet you all nearly fainted with shock. I nearly threw up just waiting for the stupid result to come up. My heart was beating so hard it nearly came out my mouth. Glad to hear Freya is growing into a big strong girl and that the Miblet and Jollycub are hiccuping their way into the world .

Saving the best for last ....MrsH, sorry you have to have the horrid HSG. I do hope they put your mind at rest and get things sorted. Take it easy too, I know what you mean about having to show up at work, its like that around my office too. But your health is most important so see how you feel hey? [higs]

Obviously anyone who is around for lunch on Friday is more than welcome, let me know.

Well. DP is super happy. We have kind of decided not to dwell on the news too much. My MC was really bad and I don't think I will deal with anything like that again particularly well given how long it has taken to get to this point again. So we have decided to try not to focus on it too much until we are past the risky stage. So, I'm staying here if that is OK. I don't really want to leave, like, EVER because you are my little cyber family .

Buckyxxx

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MrsHappy · 19/11/2008 19:38

Bucky you must hang around for a bit or else. With any luck before too long we'll all be on a "HIMBNMWWA" (Here is my baby, nothing much was wrong after all) ante natal thread together!

Actually, now I come to think of it my second ep was conceived in a month when I went on two enormous (for me) moscow mule fuelled benders. Clearly alcohol contains something that makes beans stick! No fags though - must try that next time and maybe bean will actually make it to the right place!!

I am naming the latest BFPs "Bucklette" and "The Chick". So they're not the best names ever, but I am sticking with them...

MTW I can't believe it has been 6 weeks already. Am glad Freya is well and am sending her "sleeping at night" vibes.

Picknmix Thanks for letting me know what you've been told. If I feel rubbish after the HSG I will probably head home, but things are a bit difficult at work right now (am in the city) so being there whenever I can is a good idea. I have just read that the HSG is extra painful when you only have one tube. Oh great. Am going to take a wide selection of pain meds before I go!

Hi to everyone I haven't mentioned even though I lurve you. Hope all is well and see you later. I am off to have some Fertility Wine(TM) now...

Caitni · 19/11/2008 15:27

Oh bucky I'm still beaming from your news. The result flashing up so quickly with not even FMU is a really good sign that this bean will stick (though will obviously be keeping everything crossed til you're out of the woods ). Bet your DP is over the moon!! I think I'll be adding Mother's Ruin to the whole ttc arsenal of vits etc .

07mumstheword · 19/11/2008 15:20

I'm just catching what absolutely fantastic news Bucky I couldn't be happier you so deserve your BFP! Many many congrats!

And MOB I have only skim read but huge congratulations to you too.

Freya is doing well she is 6 weeks old today it seems like a lot of crying/screaming/sleepless nights at the moment but we are all fine.

I hope you are all ok sorry for not posting personally to you lovely ladies I do keep an eye on you all and hoping to hear of some more BFP's very soon

Bucky2008 · 19/11/2008 15:11

Aw, thanks girlies.

I will write properly when I get home later, so just a quick one as super busy at work.

Just goes to show you all the FA, healthy eating, accupuncture, reflexology, OPKs, temping, bding every other day and other general pro BFP things can't beat a bit of Mothers Ruin, racing round stations in disabled buggies and sneaking the odd fag LOL.

It was a CB digital test with the week indicator thing. And came up 'pregnant' pretty quickly and not even with FMU! .

Told DP over the phone as did the test in work toilet. . He is really happy...lets hope this one sticks!

Sorry this is all about me...Ei and MrsH I will hang around too if that is OK? I feel a bit weird this time round. I even had a cigarette yesterday thinking AF had arrived...no more of that now! Its not really sunk in, I feel quite numb.

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mibbes · 19/11/2008 13:13

BUUUUCCKKYYY This is the best news EVER !!!! I am sooooo pleased for you

You have so proved the theory that the relaxed approach really does work, so go on ladies have a few vinos/G&Ts and let your hair down - it is proven to improve fertility

So mum-to-be Bucky, how did you tell DP ? Tell all about doing the test and breaking the news ! What will we call the bean - Bucklet / mini-Buck ?.... Ooohhh an so excited for you !

SparklyPseudonym · 19/11/2008 12:07

OH MY GOD BUCKY!!!!!
I still have a peak in here from time to time and I am over the moon for you - what a way to start a new thread. Sending you so many sticky vibes. CONGRATULATIONS!
Sparkly x

Caitni · 19/11/2008 11:51

Proper catch up time for me too!

Bucky I am still so delighted with your news. Between you and MOB I am just so happy. It's great to have such good news as we start a new thread .

I'm also so glad that it was the "old Bucky" that got preggers IYKWIM. And just one bd too. It's just so meant to be!!

Ei oh honey, so sorry that AF arrived . Was so hoping that it would turn into good news for you. Still, here's to a lucky number 13 (see the law of pregnativity means cycle 13 is very very lucky [caitni nods sagely]).

MrsH don't you worry, no one's going to be left here alone (except possibly for me at the rate I'm going ). I'm thinking I may have to pinch "relax and you will arrive" as my new mantra (especially after Bucky's example ).

MOB well PnM's come up with a choice of great names for your bean. I'm liking Moblet (a lovely echo of Mibbes' Miblet ).

PnM I was chuckling at your name thing, as I'm v similar (lord alone knows what I'll be like when we finally get our baby ). Am v jealous of your possible trip to the farm shop. Though do have a work lunch to look forward to today .

Well, my temp had dropped right down to below my coverline but annoyingly haven't actually started yet. Am sure it'll show up soon though. Felt a slight bit of a fraud saying I was on CD 1 at the clinic this morning, but figure that since my temp is down and I'm really expecting it any minute it shouldn't impact on the results (or if my results are a bit off, then I'll explain to the doc and do this whole thing again next month ).

I must say that, with all the good news around here recently, I'm feeling quite positive about this cycle (I think it's cycle 14 for me, but have kind of stopped counting...). And good to have Ei and MrsH as cycle buddies .