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desperate for any help as no idea whats going on??!!! can anyone help me???

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Wishing · 24/10/2008 17:13

i have copied this to 2 post so sorry if im repeating myself but need advice of anyone who can help;

this morning got bfn with tesco cheapie fmu, was sure felt af terrible cramps down below, irritable and teary -got to work went to do a knicker chec and there was a brownish red stain in them, not had anything like it before and thought it was af starting, wiped it was mucussy (is that a word?? so put a towel into till af got going. was sure i could feel it all morning so cried to dh on phone, cried at my desk and was literally heartbroken. then got a call from my friend who has same cycle as me and also ttc this month, she was sure af coming but nothing and always has it first thing. we chatted and she went to get a test at 11ish VERY soon later she called me to say she had a bfp! i was so so happy for her she was so shocked and so happy but deep down i was falling apat - tears came i was gutted i just couldnt and still dont understand why i havent got a bfp - we did exactly the same, in fact i bd a lot lot more!! anyway went to change pad and there was nothing!! not a drop or a splurge!! awful cramps but no af, what i thought was af was just lots of cm! TMI WARNING - there is loads of it!! so at lunch i went to get a cb test - not digital and peed away - hadnt had that much to drink and got another bfp?? was so mad at myself cos was sure deep down that af was coming but hanging on to a hope that stain this morning was actually implantation bleeding. carried on to this afternoon and on another trip to loo to find no af i managed to go to loo, constipation for 2 days now and i managed to let a bit of it go - PAIN has gone>!>!>! ??? dont feel like af coming any more, something very wrong with boobs and have a banging headache and feel sick. WHAT IS GOING ON?????? still no af?? i do think headache and sickness may be all emotions im feeling but i have continued to cry over anything all day, im never this emotional! i no i am hanging on to a huge hope here but do i stand a chance this month??

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HeadFairy · 26/10/2008 21:59

Good luck with the clomid issy, I have no idea what it's like being on clomid, or what it does but so many people I know have conceived on it.

Issy42 · 26/10/2008 21:56

And sorry to hear about your mc too Sunnydale - sorry took me a long time to do that post as had to go back to the website, so we cross posted. I hope you are pg.

HeadFairy · 26/10/2008 21:54

sunnydale, I was told by the midwives at the EPU that I'd almost certainly ov before my first post mc period. I think that's normal, so I would assume you will ov, or you have ov'd. It sounds like you're going through hell too, it's so rotten all this waiting. All those symptoms do sound like you're pg, but I always feel pg just before a period so I always ignore those feelings. It's so disorientating when your gut feeling is so out of kilter with what your body is telling you.

HeinzEVILSight · 26/10/2008 21:49

keeping my fingers crossed for you Wishing x

Issy42 · 26/10/2008 21:48

Wishing - found the clearblue website - brain kicked in and thought to check the leaflet with the test I still have. It's
www.clearblue.info/uk/healthcare.php

Claims both digital and non digital are 25mIU/ml, but I think this is out of date as the percentages of pregnancies detected early with the digital one is lower than on my box (which says -4 55%; -3 86%; -2 97% and -1 98%) so I think they are now more sensitive than the non-digital.

Just read that more likely to conceive just after an early mc, so that's another good sign for you. (I'm clinging to that as think my weird week may have been a very early mc, though I'll never know for sure).

I've decided to wait until tomorrow to start the Clomid now as lots of sites say to start day 3, so since I'm in doubt I'll do tomorrow.

Good Luck again.

Sorry to hear of your mcs headfairy and 2manychips. Hope things happen for you soon.

Sunnydale · 26/10/2008 21:46

Oh no poor you. Are you on your own or is anyone with you to take your mind off it? My DH is sat on the sofa, but he doesn't really understand how it feels. How can he - he's a bloke!
The problem is I lost a baby 2 months ago, and haven't had AF since. So I've no idea how late I am, or even if I've ovulated since (I always forget the acronym for ovulated). I'm going to the doctor on Tuesday to see what's wrong with me and why AF hasn't returned. In my heart I know I'm not PG, but I still don't understand why I FELT so PG last week. Spotting, metallic taste in mouth, cramping, wakefulness at bedtime, huge swollen stomach... I would understand if AF had arrived, but no AF so what the heck can it all be about! Your post just sounded exactly how I felt. How long have you been TTC? Will it be your first DC? xxxx

HeadFairy · 26/10/2008 21:46

Was it a late or early mc? I'm wondering if that makes a difference to how quickly your cycles settle down afterwards. I'm ok, I was 6 weeks gone and the pregnancy didn't feel right from the start, I kept on testing as I just didn't believe i was pg. I was bleeding from the second I found out I was pg so I was expecting a mc really. Wasn't a big shock when it happened. I've bought tons of OPKs to use this month, so I can work out how messed around my cycle is.

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Wishing · 26/10/2008 21:41

sorry to hear about your mc headfairy mine was the month before last - it all happened in a few days and didnt relly hit ,me at the tim like it did the month after - wondering if it has messed up my cycles?? hope your doing ok big hugs to you xxx

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Wishing · 26/10/2008 21:39

hi sunny dale - how are you now!! im sat here crying at the minute im still sure i must be pg and at work today there were so many og ladies in with toddlers or ladies with newborns - it ws killing me!

ive come home and im so irritable and havef an awful feeling im going to get another bfn on the morning!

how late are you?? what are your symptoms and when did you last test?? sorry for al the qu im just going slowly insane here!

xxxx

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Sunnydale · 26/10/2008 21:30

Hello, I just found your thread and feel so relieved other MNers are going through what I am. I tried to butt in on a TTC thread but didn't get any response, which made me feel even worse. Maybe I will have more luck here as a shorter thread. Like you, Wishing, I was convinced I must be PG - exactly same symptons as you describe, but then got a BFN when I tested and I was SO SURE I was PG. Isn't it awful when your body tricks you. I could weep - am finding it hard to stay positive, especially when every pregnant woman in the world seemed to walk past me this afternoon. Don't get me wrong, I'm not jealous in a bitter way. It's gorgeous to see a pregnant lady. But oh how I wish it was me, and with every day that passes I fear that it won't be. My heart goes out to all of us, and wishing everyone luck.

HeadFairy · 26/10/2008 21:03

Aw wishing, that's rotten. I hope it's wrong or it's just that your hormone levels haven't risen enough. Hadn't realised you had a mc last month too. That's awful. I had one last week

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Wishing · 26/10/2008 20:47

yeah i have last month following a mc! thought i would be back to a 29 day cycle this month, guess not!!

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2manychips · 26/10/2008 19:05

I'm not too sure but I had a chemical pregnancy earlier in the year that a digital picked up when the other kind hadnt.

beaniescreamyb · 26/10/2008 16:00

digital are less sensitive aren't they? Or have they changed?

2manychips · 26/10/2008 15:55

If u cant wait-go digital! How late is af now? Have you been this late before?

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Wishing · 26/10/2008 09:37

bfn on tescos own!! website i use suggests 30/10 is my most realiable date to use hpt - thats thursday! i dont think i can wait till that long!!

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HeadFairy · 26/10/2008 08:55

sorry to hear that 2manychips... good luck for next month.

Wishing, no news is good news!! Still keeping everything crossed for you, good luck with testing tomorrow. Let us know what you get.

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Wishing · 25/10/2008 23:37

oh im sorry too many chips hope your ok, sending you a big hug! and i meant bfn in my prev post - not its disappointing to get a bfp!! god my mind is mush??

is that another sign or just all the thinking im doing thats driving me nuts! the am i arent i stage is doing my head in now........ still no af im so excited now deep down but trying so hard not to be, im sure i have to be, im sure it was implantation bleeding i had on friday but im scared another test will show a bfn! at the minute im planning to do a test tomorrow but dont want any more upset!!

im exhausted today and had a terrible headache all day - nipples are definatley different too!

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2manychips · 25/10/2008 22:03

thanks wishing! Af came for me today. at least the "am I? arent I?" bit is over. And I only spent £4.22 on tests this month as cb on a special in sains! all fingers x'd for you.

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Wishing · 25/10/2008 00:42

hey 2 many chips - im thinking i will do it sunday now, i have a cheapie and a clear blue left, thinking i will do cheapie sunday and then cb monday?? if af doesnt mae an appearence??

i can try help you resit, just thin how disappointing it is when you see the bfp and as long as you dont test there is awlays thast chanve you might be! a bfn takes a bit of the good feeling away - also think of the money you will save and spend on baby clothes!

but then does that make me an hypocrit as i have tested twice today!!

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HeadFairy · 24/10/2008 20:15

That's good wishing.... wishing you your bfp!!!

2manychips · 24/10/2008 18:52

Hey Wishing. My af was due yest,couldnt resist buying hpt when in sainsburys and got a bfn too. Feeling a bit odd, tingly nips,cramps,nausea but that could well be af. If it doesnt come tomor I'm not sure I can wait to test again til mon. Help me resist!

ILickYourSlimySleeves · 24/10/2008 18:01

Hey wishing, just wanted to wish you luck over the weekend too. Try to focus on other things (I know far easier said than done) and let's hope it will be a BFP by Monday!

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Wishing · 24/10/2008 17:52

thans head fairy - im not testing again till monday if no af - i will try keep postive

xxx

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HeadFairy · 24/10/2008 17:45

oooh, that reads back all wrong, why would me going home from work ruin your weekend? No of course I meant I hope worrying about being pg or not doesn't ruin your weekend