Sorry I've been away so long....3.5 weeks since MC and feeling better. Completely off antidepressants for two weeks now and still no meltdown (other than shouting at the lady in the Weight Watchers queue). I still can't stay for a meeting, too many babies there.
Have to agree with Littlefish, having complementary therapies does make you feel like you have more control. I have reflexology about once every two weeks (sometimes more often), and the lady is a really lovely former nuse who has had her own fertility problems (and has adopted 3 children). She is lovely to talk to, it's more like therapy when I go! At least I feel like I'm doing something good for myself.
Re: GPs being insensitive...I had one who'd never met me or looked at my records...she said something to the effect of 'obviously you like your food' and I had to explain that my PCOS makes it very difficult for me to lose weight no matter how little I eat! She shut up after admitting that I was right. She was a skinny bitch as well.
Loobey, glad to hear the family is aware of what you're going through and trying to be sensitive, even if they don't quite get it.
Pinkmook, your colleague who thinks everyone should 'suck it up' sounds like either she's completely forgotten what it was like (as now she's succeeded), or she's just bloody insensitive, or both. I agree with ontheup, why should she dictate how everyone else should behave? I might be handling the MC better than some, but I'm certainly not going to demand they behave the same way! Everyone's situation is different and we react differently. She should shut the hell up and stop judging how people grieve.
Petulant, I am completely dreading the SIL's baby. Well, not so much the baby, but seeing SIL's smug stupid face. I think I'm going to bring a flask of whisky, play my own drinking game, and take a big swig every time she says 'FIRST grandchild' or anything that remotely pisses me off. She went into labour two nights ago, a month early. Now they think she had kind of infection which brought labour on, but it's stopped now. Stupid cow is probably loving the drama of being in hospital and being centre of attention--she's completely like that (only 21). I don't know how I'm going to face it. They must know by now we're avoiding them as we haven't been down to London in months.
It's much easier to deal with my pregnant friend at my old job. Just talking to her over facebook, but that's been okay. The difference is, in my twisted little mind, she deserves to be pregnant and SIL does NOT.
GtG, glad you've patched up with your friend.
PicknMix, I have a friend who's offered to be a surrogate for me if I should ever need it. Perhaps it's the manner in which the offer is delivered, but with my friend I did feel like she genuinely meant it not as a comment on her own fertility, but just that she knew how much I wanted a baby and she would do anything she could to help me get that. Perhaps SIL's offer wasn't as genuine and that's what you're reacting to? I've told my friend I don't think it will come to that, but I really appreciate that she wants to help and understands how much this means to me. Also her last pregnancy was really rough--she was hospitalised three times for hyperemesis. So her saying that she'd do that for me means a lot.
Pinkie, I deal with the 'relax' speech one of two ways. Usually I ignore it. Alternatively, I give them a detailed explanation of PCOS, my menstrual cycle and how relaxing won't help fecking anything because I never have the slightest clue when/if I might ovulate, and we can't have sex every other day for weeks on end, we're not teenagers, and if sperm is not there to meet egg, all the relaxing in the bloody world does NOTHING! That usually stops the 'relax' speech.
Whew, that was a long one! Seeing the consultant on Monday to see if he knows why the MC happened and what we should be doing to prevent it happening again (assuming I even will get pregnant again).