Thread for those fed up of pregnant friends... actually pregnant women everywhere... while they themselves have been TTC for ages or keep having miscarriages.

Hi Everyone

Been a while since I've been here. Hope everyone is well.

ontheup AC is a herb that's meant to balance your hormones

We've just had the results of DH's SA - his count and motility were fine, but his morphology is 6%. We've been trying since January, got pregnant on first shot and miscarried in March. Have had no luck in the 7 months since (6 of which we've been TTC) and I've seen my GP. Although they don't normally do testing for someone who has been trying for under a year, she agreed to do a progesterone test a few months ago because I've got a bit of a wacky cycle with a relatively short LP and lots of spotting. Progesterone was normal, she's just done CD3 testing on me on Tuesday, so should have the results next week.

Does anyone know what the next step would be? Would the NHS consider IUI for a couple that have not been trying for over a year? Does anyone know what the waiting times would be? Or does that entirely depend on your area?

I'm sitting here waiting for a call from my mother as my SIL was induced thsi morning - and my other SIL is going in next Wednesday. The due date for our baby was a week ago Friday

Ok officially going nuts it wasnt you. so sorry!!! thats what TTC does to you.

Lets ask Pinkie??? Perhaps as she wrote it she will know what it means.
Whats the sperm meets egg plan????

Excuse me?????

Nolee,

whats the sperm meets egg plan???

pinkie08 - Thanks, you have gave me a bit of hope

Hi Noleen

I had 3 mcs in my previous marriage that they couldnt find reason for. I went on to have a dd who is now 8. That pg went without a hitch,no sickness and an easy labour. Hang in there it will happen.

I am now ttc#2 and am on clomid as dont ovulate properly and have just read something called sperm meets egg plan. It might be worth a try to all those on the thread

Lots of baby dust to you

Great link, thanks

www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/science/am_i_normal.shtml

Link to the Radio Programme is above if anyone is interested

Lilacpink - So sorry for your recent loss and your relationship problems. I have been with my dp for just over 6yrs now , well i was until we broke-up last week due to constant rows over the last few months. I know people say things will get easier through time but at present it is so hard, its as if no-one understands what you are going through. Maybe in time me and my dp will work things out but at the minute i just feel as though i am having to cope with everything ive went through in the last few months on my own. I am so glad i have come across a site like this were you are free to express yourself without others passing judgement. I wish you all the best of luck in the future both in your replationship and TTC

Green eyed monster - count me in!

2 days ago I held my friend's gorgeous 2nd baby, thinking this will be me in May-June, today I've had ERPC following suspected Molar preg. I've really wanted to TTC since DD was 1-1.5 yr old (she's 2.5 now). Husband said no. In March we took a risk while I was on antibiotics (both knew this), April I did 5 tests and thought all would be BFP due to nausea, wasn't, I couldn't talk to him I felt so irrational. So we've had major probs, he left for a few weeks. We got back together and all great/ok (as it had been for 9 yrs beforehand). Last week I found out I was pregnant, and was delighted, after 2 days dh seemed to come round to idea, and now it's gone

Since March, I've congratulated 6 people who now have or will shortly have number dc2, 2 others are trying (with supportive dh's), 1 couple are discussing it . People at work say 'are you going to have more'? As if it's so easy. Yes, I know I should work at relationship for dd, dh and for my sake, but after irregular bleeding for many months I thought this was a miracle. I feel gutted. I realy don't want to hear anyone else talk about their favourite names, gender preference, mild symtoms, baby shops. I even find talk of TTC hard as dh doesn't talk, but is happy to try withdrawel (so I say lets plan as better than accident!). However, I also don't want to avoid my friends think I'll be honest about experience, but not sure how they'll be around me, if I should say or not (they know I've had probs, but not how much I want dc2, how long, or abour ERPC).

I know many have had worse experiences, and I hope things get better (whichever way that means) for you. Thnik I'm still on adrenaline from day, so I'm posting on lots of threads to get this out of my system, even for a bit, sorry so long...

There was a prog on Radio 4 last week that discussed recurrent mcs and they said that if you are investigated and no casue found statisitcally you have a better chance of conceiving...not much comfort but a little ray of sunshine perhaps. Am taking mutivits w Evening Primrose Oil and Starflower Oils and definately feel better in myself. What does Agnus Castus do??

My doctor phoned me there, said all the tests were back normal and that they are just putting it down to bad luck and that my womb just hadn't prepared itself properly after each m/c

Poppy75 - I am so sorry for what you are going through, 3yrs may seem like a long time BUT i have been reading on various sites about couples who never got pregnant for about 10yrs, even one i read was 12yrs, i know perhaps this isn't very comforting but please just do not give up hope. I myself have been very fortunate in the sense that i only started tryn early this year, all 3 times i have been pregnant i conceived within the 1st month of trying, however i am having problems holding onto a pregnancy so although i am fortunate in one way that i can get pregnant relatively easily but i feel like such a failure everytime i loose that pregnancy. Like many people on these sites i just long to have a baby to call my own, to actually get as far as to have a baby bump, i did everything by the book all 3 times and still this happened. I am not trying again for at least 6 months now BUT i am merely saying just have faith, when the time is right it will happen and i just know you will make a fantastic mother, i know it is so much easier said than done but try to relax yourself, de-stress and enjoy the TTC process.

Ray81 sorry bloody AF has come I know this is the worse time, hopefully next cycle!

Could someone chuck some baby dust over here for us all please **

Hi everyone

Needed to pop in as feel really rubbish today, yesterday found out that three more people I know are pregnant! Two of them only married in the summer and fell pg straight away. God I feel like such a failure at the moment. We have no couple friends who aren't pg or have just had baby. Feel very alone

This month I'm trying everything; Acu, agnus castus, evening primrose oil and ovulation sticks!!! Really feel like chucking it all in and forgeting about it. Although I know that would only last a few weeks and I'd start thinking about it again. I have a great relationship, family and friends so why is my body so disatisified with everything??? I keep trying to work out if this is happening for a reason what is it? I think three years of trying is enough now, please!

I never wanted to become one of these people who were slightly obsessed with pg but have unwittingly become one!!!

Mistlethrush I know how you feel my infertility is unexplained. Didn't want to have something wrong, but at least there might be treatment I could have. Feel completely out of control with it.

Noleen Good luck with your tests, I know what it's like having to wait. I was relieved when mine came back as normal.

Hi treats, Af ariived this morn with a vengance, hurts like heel great.

To say i want to cry is an understatment.

Shit have to get dd too school i'll be on again later.

Hi, i know if they do find something that they may be able to help, its just so hard to know how to feel. I am just 26 and terrified of finding out i may never have children. I am just so anxious at the minute as i have been waiting on these blood results for almost 3wks now and i just want answers one way or the other. If these are normal then i will be referred on to have further investigations, i guess i just never thought i would ever be going through this, i hoped for an easy ride, i guess everything happens for a reason, its just finding out what that reason is

Noleen - but they may be able to help and there may be an explanation.

I've been told that there is no explanation for mine - and that there is nothing underlying that is potentially a factor - which is reassuring.

The staff I've met at the rcmc unit are really lovely.

Part of me would like an answer to it and if there is an underlying issue then i would hope i could get treatment for it but in another way i am terrified of finding out its something thats untreatable if this makes sense. I know i am lucky in the sense that i can get pregnant really easily BUT if only i could manage to hold onto them

very sensible, i was told that they cant explain my mc's and tbh that hurts more than if i knew there was something wrong!

I have been to my gp who organised the blood tests and as yet i am still waiting on 4 results back, i am hoping they will have them when i phone this afternoon as this waiting is driving me insane. Im guessing that once those results come back and if they are normal they will refer me on for further investigations, well if they don't i will be asking them to anyhow. I have heard many people talk about this baby asprin and how they have taken it when they find out they are pregnant and have gone on to have successful pregnancies. At present i am just holding off waiting for the results.

noleen, im sorryabout your mcs, its very hard i know. have you spoken to your cons about baby asprin yet?

Hi ray81 - thanks so much for your message and your baby dust. DH and I actually went to see the GP for the first time a few weeks ago; I've been referred to a hostpital gynae and am just waiting (impatiently!) for news of my appointment. DH dropped off his sample for testing yesterday........

Fingers crossed for no AF for you - but I know what you mean about the predictable signs. I have a similar thing with the bbs just before AF, although there's always a sprinking of other symptoms that I'll swear I've never had before to keep me hanging on thinking I could be pg, until she actually arrives. And even then, I'm thinking "Implantation bleed??? ".

Good that you're on Clomid though - at least things are moving forward. I mean good in that sense. Depression and headaches obviously bad. I find that watching DVDs of fave TV shows or films is best for a small bout of depression - mostly because it's distracting rather than actually relieving it.

Noleeen - I'm very very sorry to hear of your m/cs. I've not had the same experience myself, but there are plenty of people on this forum who have and who can offer you some sensible advice and even, I hope, some people who've had your experience and then gone on to successfully carry a baby to term. I know it's hard, but don't give up!!

Hi so i am a little late on this, i can totally relate to what you are saying and going through, i am just new to this site and was recommended it by members on yahoo. I have just suffered my 3rd m/c this year, i currently don't have any children so now im thinking is there something wrong with me, will i ever have a child to call my own. 1st M/C was i had just come off birth control, got pregnant in the first month of trying only to m/c at 5wks, natural m/c - blighted ovumn, i then fell pregnant again straight away with no period in between, had an early scan at 6wks 5days, saw and heard the heartbeat, went back for a scan at 12wks to be told it only measured 8wks and no longer a heartbeat, i was devastated, d&c required - missed m/c. The third more recent was a chemical pregnancy at approx 5wks. I have just had tests done to see if there are any underlying issues. 3 back so far, bloodclotting, rubella and one to check for antibodies, all normal, still awaiting results of 4 more. I am absolutely terrified there is goin to be somthing wrong, I am 26 years of age. Everywhere i go i seem to see pregnant women or people pushing newborn babies about and i am just finding it so hard at the min so my heart genuinely goes out to everyone TTC

Hi treats, sorry to hear Af arrived as you thought it would but glad you had a nice weekend. I'm the same as you and try to remember when with friends with DC that they can be a nitemare and at least i have more time to prepare for it. Although it only helps sometimes.

On the brightside it takes the average couple a year to concieve so this could be your month. Are you going to see the doc if nothing this month???
Still waiting for Af to arrive myself should be tomorrow hopeing against hope that it wont come but know that it will. My body is too bloody predictable. I get v sore bb and then day before AF bbs arent sore any more, woke up this morn and no sore bb just felt normal which is weird for me. Still no period pains at the mo just that dull ache and a few sharp pains in my left side. Just keep trying to remember that am on clomid and can do funny things to the body. I have the headaches and abit of the depression which i must say is not good. Bless me. Now have pain in my right side, realy would love to know what is going on with my body.

Baby dust to you treats i realy hope it works for you this month.