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If you've had a chemical pregnancy could you help me please?

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Jael · 29/08/2008 10:01

I had my BFP on the new clearblue digi on tuesday,and another BFP on wednesday and yesterday morning. However, I went to the doctors on Wednesday because I have been having ALOT of painful cramps and bachache, she arranged a scan at the hosp for me yesterday. When I got there, I had an ultrasound, she couldn't find anbything at all, so she then did an internal,with camera etc, again she couldn't find anything at all, no sign of being pregnant at all. She did say the lining of my womb was thick but thats probably because my periods due?! She then made me do a pg test which was negative, and told me it probably is a CP and I'm probably going to start AF anytime soon. I'm really upset, am i just waiting for AF to start? That's what it feels like, although my boobs still hurt and I feel sicky. But I've still got really bad belly cramps anbd bacvhache...Jael x

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Jael · 29/08/2008 16:08

Thanks again everyone, and I know one thing for sure now, I will never ever be testing early again. I think I'd rather not no, if it was a CP or not if you get what I mean, and just come on AF not even knowing you'd even had a CP. It is really hard not knowing where I stand really, cuz technically I'm meant to be 5 weeks tomorrow, but me and DP worked out yesterday that conception happend no earlier that CD18. I still thought the sonographer would have picked something though, I mean she even did the internal with camera?

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yellowflowers · 29/08/2008 16:04

Hi Jael, just wanted to send you love and support, I've been following your story on the may thread. xx

chibi · 29/08/2008 16:04

This happened to me. It may be too early to tell one way or another what is going to happen. It is the hardest thing, you have my sympathies.

Take care of yourself and be kind to yourself.

Thinking of you xx

ScaryHairy · 29/08/2008 16:03

I know it is awful waiting to see what will happen, especially when you really want to be pregnant and your hormones are all over the place. But if this is a chemical pregnancy just remember that it doesn't mean a thing for your future chances. Ten years ago, when there were not such sensitive home tests you would not have had any idea you were pregnant at this stage (which I sometimes think is a better situation than women being aware every time they have a cp).

It sucks and I know you want some certainty but I suspect that until you get a bit further along there is very little certainty to be had.

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Jael · 29/08/2008 15:49

Thanks ScaryHairy and SuziBhoy, I am extremely stresed and I'm convinced now that it's not going to work out for the best. I never had all these pains when I was pregnant with my daughter. I'm in so much pain all I can do is sit with my hot water bottle, it really feels like I'm going to start AF. Like i said I keep checking all the time to see if I'm spotting or bleeding, I cried so much yesterday,we were in with the sonographer for almost an hour and all I wanted was some sign that I was pregnant.

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SuziBhoy · 29/08/2008 15:41

when they test your hcg, they will test to see how much of the hormone is there. Anything above 5 suggests pregnancy. The higher the number the stronger the pregnancy, but if the number is low, the this means you are having a weak pregnancy.

Try not to stress out too much, and let us know how you get on.... fingers crossed for you x

ScaryHairy · 29/08/2008 15:37

Jael - I've just reread your original post and wanted to add that backache and cramping in early pregnancy are very common. You are getting BFPs and like I say, I would not be surprised if it was too early to pick up the pregnancy on a scan.

I really think you should try to take it easy and relax a bit. You may be pregnant from the sound of it, but having lots of tests etc is only going to stress you out and not change anything.

ScaryHairy · 29/08/2008 15:34

I don't know whether a scan at 16 DPO could have picked anything up anyway - it seems very early to me.

I think you should wait a few days and then test again. The egg may have failed to implant properly, but it may just be too early to tell.

If I were you I don't think I would have blood tests just yet as, frankly, all of those doctor's appointments, hospital visits, serial blood HCGs etc are pretty stressful and none of them will change the outcome. If things still look confusing in a week then yes, I would go to the Dr, but at this early stage you could get some quite confusing results.

I know from experience that it is very hard to sit and wait (and hope) but it may be the only thing to do.

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Jael · 29/08/2008 15:05

I'm trying to get an appointment at my doctors to do blood tests to measure HCG, whatever that means. I'm guessing if it goes down then I'm having a CP, just want it all to be over, so we can gety on with TTC again...

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SuziBhoy · 29/08/2008 13:59

Sounds really frustrating.

its obvious there is something going on in there. Have you got any other follow ups to go to or have they told you to wait and see what happens?

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Jael · 29/08/2008 13:53

If it is a CP when will i start bleeding, I know it sounds horrible, but I just kinda want it to start already. I feel like I'm waiting for it to happen, every time i go to the loo, I'm checking to see if i'm spotting/bleeding (sorry TMI) I got another BFP this morning, so I'm jus really confused.

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SuziBhoy · 29/08/2008 13:48

Hi Jael

Something similar happened to me. I had 5 BFP (the reason i took so many tests was because i was starting to doubt i was, as the docs couldnt find anything). Anyway, turned out i was........ they never found it for weeks and weeks. Unfortunately the pregnancy never survived.

what im trying to say is... i think you know yourself what is going on with your own body, and that you should trust your own instincts. Dont give up until you get an answer for it.
x

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Jael · 29/08/2008 13:36

The sonographer said the tests they use aren't as sensitive as the ones in the shop. I'm just really really confused. I've had no spotting/bleeding, but sonographer doesn't think it looks good so I'm just kinda taking her word for it, even though theres a tiny glimpse of hope that everything could still be ok. I mean I'm CD34 today, and weve worked out that we coneived no earlier than CD18, so I'd technically only be a tiny bit pregnant,maybe that's why she couldn't see anything? Not gonna get my hopes up though...

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rubles · 29/08/2008 13:34

How pregnant did you think you were Jael? I have had a couple of CPs, where I was only 2 days late or so, and I had a very faint bfp. For me, I tested on two consecutive days and got faint lines, then on the third day the positive line had disappeared and my period came an hour or so later. It's such a crushing disappointment.

I hope you have this resolved as soon as possible, as you are in limbo at the moment. Could you see where you are tomorrow morning and retest then..just to make sure it isn't a difference in sensitivities between the CB digi and the epu test?

BigBadMousey · 29/08/2008 13:31

I've had this (lost at about 5.5 weeks).

Take it easy - things will sort themselves out in time. Make sure you look after yourself because chances are you are going to need some comforting. For me I felt I had no reason to grieve as I had lost her so early on but that was wrong.

It might be an idea to do your usual choice of PT after your AF has been then if you get a BFP next month you'll know whether or not it is residual hormones from this time (I know you had a test at the hospital but IME it's more definite if you do the test yourself with your regular brand).

It's a very common occurrance and many people never know it has happened ...but you probably know all that already...

MichaelaS · 29/08/2008 13:16

Sorry to hear that - what bad news.

Not sure I can give advice on CP, but I do know a lot of pregnancies miscarry very early on - maybe even before implantation has completed - the whole thing is a complicated process and things can go wrong, and our bodies are built to clear out and start again if it doesn't look like the pregnancy will be feasible.

do you know whether the pg test the doctor gave you was different to the home ones? maybe a different strength or a blood one rather than urine?

hugs, and I hope you feel better soon and get absolutely definitley pregnant very soon!

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