Anyone Planning To TTC From October

Hello again olivo - I was on a thread about amalgam fillings just now and saw you there - I'm having one removed tomorrow and hope to ttc around 4 November (am guessing I'll ov around then!) How long will you be waiting to ttc after having yours removed, if you don't mind me asking (has your dentist said anything about this?) Do you think it'll be safe to ttc 3 weeks after the nasty thing is out? Any advice MUCH appreciated... xx

Hi olivo - so glad you've heard a success story in the form of your friend's experience - and that they'll give you an option about how to give birth next time.

Hmm, now we just have to get pg...

thanks guys, hopefully we can help each other be positive. I went over the birth with my midwife and she said there was no reason i couldn't have a natural birth in the future but would be given the option. I realise it was just bad luck. feeling more cheered, have just been to visit a friend who had a hard time first time round but has just had dc 2 and everything was so different and so much more calm.

you're right VM, every pg is different and it'll be fine for us all, hopefully.
thank you both for your words of support.

Hi olivo - I can see why you're anxious; that difficult birth must have left a residue with you. But LJ29 is right - the past is no predictor of the future and no two births are the same. On the positive side, you now have foreknowledge of what can happen, and will be so much better prepared mentally if things aren't textbook. And if all is straightforward (and there's no reason why it shouldn't be) then you'll be on top of the world.

I've realised I need to think positively too about any next pg - just because I've miscarried once doesn't mean it will happen again; it would be a totally different pregnancy after all! x

Crikey Olivo it sounds like you had a really traumatic time. They do say tho that no 2 births are the same. With my DS I spent 18 hours in labour, he was also OP so I can sympathise, and I pushed for an hour and twenty minutes. With DD I was in labour for 3.5 hours and pushed for 3 minutes, so totally different. I know its easier said than done but try and relax, its better for you, your chances of conceiving and baby.

had an em c-sec due to foetal distress. she wasn't breathing for the first 6 to 8 mins and had to be 'worked on' . she spent a week in scbu but is now a healthy and energetic 2 year old. i guess i was naive the first time round as all my friends had reasonably straightforward births, i assumed i would too!i felt so out of control and it hurt so much - she was OP despite everything i tried to keep her the right way round. by the time i decided i couldnt cope with the pain, i was too late for an epidural.

the main thing is, she is fit and healthy now and we are very lucky for that. sorry to ramble, it'squite therapeutic to get it all out!!

Hi again olivo, was the birth of your dd difficult? You say that you didn't know for a few days afterwards how she'd be - or were these just the usual new parent niggles?

thanks VM. I'm not sure why i'm anxious, dd's conception was no problem, the pg was fairly straightforward and her birth and the few days after when we didnt know how she'd be were really traumatic. i guess I'm older now, know more people who've had problems, mc etc.
sorry to hear about you mmc and here's to some successful pgs soon.

Hi olivo - welcome. After my recent mc I'm anxious too abut ttc again... I'm sure we can reassure each other! ((virtual hug))

Hello. May I join you please? We will be ttc after the end of this packet of pills and I know some friendly support will be needed. I'm really anxious this time around; have a 2yo dd already and seem to be far more anxious this time. I am hoping to try accupuncture to try to manage my anxiety a bit, as i have also been very stressed with work and lack of sleep recently.

good luck to all.

Hi littlewifey - sorry your've had a shit week, families eh?! At least your BIL and his partner live far enough away that they aren't around to upset you with all the new babyness. I totally agree how hard it is to be surrounded by pregnant people and new Mums.

DH and I have just had some "sky rockets in flight, afternoon delight" as the OPK clearblue digital gave me a smiley face last night! Still think my cycle is off this month but reassured that I'm at least ovulating. AF is due on 21st Oct. but as my last one lasted over a fortnight I think its not actually due until early Nov. Now in wait and see territory...

Hi everyone- welcome to all the new people on here and sorry to hear of all your experiences.
Suzibhoy- are you still having strange symptoms? I know a couple of people who have caught pregnant even though they were on the pill.
I've had a terrible week this week. My BIL and his partner (who I have never been very keen on because he's stuck up and always put's DH down) had their baby daughter on Wed. They got pregnant about a month after our MMC and had always said they never wanted DC. So the whole thing was a big shock. Also the first grandchild for my MIL and FIL- which should have been us only 2 months previously :-(
They live in London so have managed to avoid them for the whole of the pg, which prob wasn't a good way of dealing with things- because this week it has totally hit me. Me and DH had some terrible arguements about it which culminated in me having a total melt down last night and sobbing like a lunatic!! :-( Probably a good thiing though- as it meant me and DH finally talked about it and I now feel a bit better. They have also just announced their engagement- which is a big bone of contention with me because they earn much more than us but never have 'any money' so MIL and FIL are always shelling out for them. However, don't have anything for us because we are 'so good with money' and don't need their help.
Obviously it's not the baby's fault, and I know I'm being a complete Bi* but I'm just finding it so hard to muster any enthusiasm about the whole thing. We have to go and see them next week- which I'm dreading already!
ARRRGGGHHH why is everyhting so hard after MC?????? Sorry for ranting, but knew lots of you lovely ladies would prob understand.
Hope you are all having good weekends and good luck for those on the 2WW. Any news yet??!!!! xx

hi maz32

sorry to hear your news

i think thats how it goes with men..... i mean that when i had the ectopic all i could think about was losing a baby and doing whatever it takes to get healthy again, but all dp could think about is what i had to go through.

what i was going through didnt even cross my mind at the time, but i think thats all to do with how each individual deals with it i suppose.

im sure your dh will come around when he starts to look at the positives. it must be awful for them though when they feel they cant really do much to help.

sorry for rambling lol

Hi maz32 - tell dh not to stress; the medical advice is that having one mc does not alter your chances of having a healthy pg next time in any way. Think positive! x

hi can i join. had miscarriage end of aug, and hopefully go to ttc next week-just needs husband to agree!he doesnt want to see me go thro mc again, and neither do I but im hoping it wont happen again- hes convinced it will xx

okay need all your help my methotrexate friends.

I dont know if you remember having the conversation about me being on the pill?? anyway...... recently my boobs have been aching (they have never ached like this before) and ive just been sooooo tired. I didnt think i could be pg as im on the pill. and my methotrexate shot was back in july/aug, so couldnt be side effects from that either......

what do you think?

Hi bluesatinsash ((waves back ))
Yes, 2WW = two week wait (I hope! There's an acronym list at the top of the page under 'useful stuff', maybe in there?)

Hi,
Can I join you all. TTC dc2, have been trying for three months. DS1 took us about 2 years and as I am now nearly 38 am anticipating a long wait so would love the company.

pot not pop!

Hi can I park up too?

We're ttc from this week (had MC in August at 8 weeks). AF returned on 23rd Sept but lasted 2 weeks so starting to use OPK this Thurs. My cycle is a bit to pop but we have to give it a go!

I fell first month with DS (2 years) and the last pg but my confidence has really taken a knock since the MC.

BTW wht does WW mean? i.e. 2WW is it weeks waiting?

Hi VillageMum

Hi gemdangracie - Yep, they say day 10 is the day if you don't know the length of your cycle. Good luck!

Hi everyone can I join?

Sorry to hear about all your bad news

We are TTC#2once AF finishes, had my implant taken out of my arm on 10th september and my AF started on 3rd october and is now very light..(TMI)

Seeing as this is my 1st cycle in 1.5 years, when do you think I should start using my OPK to check for OV?? (was thinkin around day 10?)

Hmmm, I am only on the 2WW for first AF, unfortunately! Since we haven't ttc this time around - felt I needed to get my strength, sanity (and at least one cycle) back after the mc. Very pleased for you ladies who are at that stage, though! It's exciting - remember each month is a fresh chance!

Spats don't be too down in the dumps. A lot of PMT symptoms are similar to early pregnancy remember.

I am now on a week wait. The last week went very slowly and imagine this week will as well. Think got PMT also so not happy!! Just want AF to come so can get on with thinking about next month.

LJ29 - my first 2 were also conceived within 1st month so this is v frustrating. DH thinks its too clinical so didn't tell him i did OPK and just pounced on correct days!! This is 3rd motnh of ttc. Last month was 5 days late and think was pg as never late and had really aching/swollen boobs but it went but bled after a week. So i doubt i would be this month as odds against 2 motnhs in a row aren't good. Roll on next month.