Anyone else on CD1 who wants to join me?

Hey girls, as I mentioned last time AF arrived on Tuesday ? exactly as predicted - even though I had BD every day for 6 days all through my fertile period??ahhh, is frustrating.

Am trying not to focus on it and seeing each failed month as one more month of drinking and fun social activity. I think if I?m still trying after Xmas I might try and adopt a healthier lifestyle but for now there is too much going on and it?s my consolation prize for not being pregnant to join in with the parties!

Welcome Cindy ? add your dates to the list below. I also had a MC in August after 3 months of trying and have been using OPK?s and generally lots of BD since then but no joy.

Have a good weekend everyone???.oh, and we need a new list ? can everyone update.

Sparky BFP!!!!
Nelix BFP!!!!
Jools1 BFP!!!!

ILoveBeingAMummy AF due?
MakingaFamily AF due??

Wasabi AF 15th Oct
HeadsOrTails AF due 16th Oct
MyLittleBubble AF due 17th Oct
Simpletwist AF 17th Oct
ExistentialistCat AF due 26th Oct
Yellowflowers AF due 27th Oct
Smileycat AF due 3rd-8th Nov
Heebychick AF due 5th Nov
Wanabemum AF due 14th - 18th Nov
Becky AF due 11th November
Cindy AF Due?

Nelix2000 how far are you and if it is not too rude asking how did you check your CM. I am using OPK will they not suffice??

WanabeMum... I am on CD12 and AF will be due on 28 October. Am in the full swing of Bding and using OPK until ovualation arrives which should be on Sunday. I have a horriable cold though, what rotten timing!

Hmmmm interesting I guess it's a wait and see kind of thing. Thought it was a bit of a gimmick myself but have since seen lots of people mentioning it so was curious.
Won't be trying it thiss month though, good old fashioned BD-ing with grapefruit juice. Ha ha just realised how that looked! i meant drink the juice and BD after of course

Ah DH is being so sweet, he just came in with a bunch of flowers, I said what are they for & he said cause its BDing week & its for good luck..umm I'm so lucky

Hello everyone!
Wow a lot has happened since my last post and yay everyone is back with 2 new ones!

Welcom to you pinkie I found this thread to be such a lifeline too, it allows me to vent all my neuroticism so poor DH only has the milder bits to deal with! Keeps both me and him sane. Do you know when your AF is due so we can add you to the list?

C1ndy sorry hun, need an idea of when your AF is due so I can add you to the list! sorry should have said earlier. Brain mush from hormones!

So nelix how are we? one question, is preseed any good for taking over the role of CM? may be useful if so.

Hey everyone else! will gradually update myself on you all!

Heeby good news about the scan tho! fantastic, at least you can put your mind at rest. And yes i do think you should test coz it's starting to make me wonder now too if it's negative what have you lost?

Existentialistcat... where did you buy your preseed, can i buy it from Boots? Not an expert yet on the CM method, should I be drinking grapefruit juice?

I am using OPK sticks and the CM check method. The CM methood is a little confusing. Someone mentioned a site, but I am not much good at this technique - tell you all the truth, I never knew the CM method existed until I read it on here! I do enjoy reading about the different methods it makes this journey to getting a bfp a little more fun...

Hellohello

Just thought I'd drop in and say hi. I've been following everyone's fortunes - lovely to be able to keep up with you all - but haven't had much to tell myself. I'm on CD 12 today (OV'd on CD12 last cycle according to Fertility Friend) so have been BDing like a mad thing for the last few days!! Fingers crossed.

I don't seem to get ANY fertilce CM in spite of grapefruit juice, evening primrose oil and massive fluid intake, so have been using preseed. DH, to my pleasant surprise, has been v supportive and less mickey-taking than I expected. ALthough he did read the packet instructions and PHSL at this particular gem: "Warning: Preseed is extremely slippery. Clean up any spillages immediately." The mind boggles!

This thread is SUCH a lifeline during this whole insane process!

Jools, Smileycat, Heebychick I have a dd which is 2 1/2, so want to have a bfp by next year. As i had a miscarriage in September, my bosses know at work and we are having a restructuring going on... so I feel I need to get pregnant again to safe guard me. Its a race against time... I wish I was younger, sometimes think my body may not be upto having another because of the mc, natures way of saying enough is enough - maybe . DH and I have decided that if it doesn't happen by April next year we will call it a day! talk about putting pressure on me! I heard the Deanne plan is great, so this is my first month of trying it. Fingers and toes and anything else crossed it works!

Internet has been down again, so just catching up.

Really sorry Wanabe to hear about AF arriving. it's just so unfair .

Hi to Pinky and lovely to hear from you Heeby. It's a pain but there do seem to be a ludicrous number of bumpy ladies around at the mo and all my mates are currently dropping their second, exactly 2 years after the first.

Well, tomorrow I'll be officially one week late and it's driving me nuts .

By the way, I'm nearly 34 too .

Evening all, Scan went well and the good news is that everything is back to normal, ovaries looked normal and prime apparently! so that's great (bit annoying as to why we didn't concieve this month but i guess just wrong timing). i'm probably not gonna do a test, AF was quite heavy in stages over the 2 days and it's been like that (altho a little longer) beforehand. It is wierd that the brown stuff came, i've been having a few pains today but i think that was worry about the scan etc.....hmm, do you really think i should do a test?? surely with a fairly heavy bleed i would of lost it anyway? and we haven't done any BDing since AF so it can't be that. i do wonder what it could be tho.

wasabi shame about AF, what a nightmare month we've all had.

smiley c1ndy and jools i'm 34 next June so am feeling that the big 40 is getting closer, my close friend had her DD at 41 and said it was the best thing she ever did!

Hi pinkie welcome to our thread, good luck with this month and yes you are right, it is a 3 week wait! argh!!

c1ndy i was the same as you, after my MC someone mentioned MN and it too was the best thing i had ever done, it has been so reassuring and i think about all you ladies on here every day, my DH says i have calmed down a lot too which is great cos i have you to share everything with.

So a big thank you for being so lovely all of you!

Now lets get BDing girls!

I've just turned 38 so joining you oldies in the countdown to 40 there will be a 11 year gap between my ds & new one, once the little bean takes hold that is, now wondering why we took so long to make are minds up that we wanted number 2

Hi C1ndy - just thought I'd mention we are similar ages I will be 39 in a few weeks - only started to TTC for the first time this year, joined this thread and got my BFP on cycle 3 I'll be 39.5 years old when this baby is born and am alternately elated, then worried because I may be too old !

Please can i join this thread. I am at the beginning of cycle2 (cd7). Am on clomid as dont ovulate and last months blood tests showed its making me ovulate so hoping that can get that BFP.

Have started acupuncture to help things along and help with clomid effects.

This month feel like its a 3ww (the week when ovulate and then the dreaded 2ww)

Baby dust to all

Heebychick... sorry for your loss in May... it really does suck when you hit the bfp and then get nowt! I am feeling positive, but feel like a little girl who doesn't want to wait but wants the bfp now! I am 39 and will be 40 next year in March, so time is passing me by and I am hoping that it will happen soon.

Someone mentioned this site after my mc and thought I would give it a go and to date it is the best thing I have ever done. The support and the general information sharing has been surburb!

Wanabemum, thanks for adding me to your list (or when you get round to doing it) much appreciated, feel part of this wonderful group! :0)

Hey ladies,

How did the scan go Heeby??

smiley that's very odd but very interesting too! Let me know how it goes.

Wasabi i couldn't get the hang of the OPK's but probably because it involved too much interpretation. the monitor is much easier and involves me thinking less!

Hey C1indy I'll add you to our list later, will all be up to date then.

Morning girls = um heeby are you sure you won't do a test just to be sure? It does sound a bit odd the your AF was so short.

Speaking of which mine arrived last might as predicted so counting as CD2 today. So wierd it even arrived at the same time of day as it did last month.

wanabe I am just using OPK's this month and if that doesn't work will be shelling out for the fertility monitor next month!

Here we go, here we go, here we go.....

ok this might not be everyones cup of tea, might not even be mine yet, but I was searching the internet last night and I came across something that is quite big in the US. A Plastic Speculum you know the thing they use when they give you a smear to look inside you. Away a lot of women use it to keep an eye on their cervix to monitor its condition & others use it to monitor their cervix position/cm during their cycle ie if its closed or open, high or low & the colour as its usually pink but when you get pg it turns blue/purple & seals itself tight.
I've orderd one as it was only £4.99 I don't know if I'll get the hang of using it yet but thought I would give it a go, I'd love to see what the doc sees when you get your smear & not in a sexual way but I've always been interested in biology it might be interesting to see if I can actually see the changes in my cervix during the month & if it does turn blue after OVing (if pg)
Anyway thought I'd share my idea as its a little different & hopefully will give me something else to take my mind of the 2WW, thats if it arrives by then, post tends to be a little slow sometimes out here

ps smiley yes i think my DH is the same, they are happy with the trying huh! seeing as our DD took one attempt he is loving this long drawn out process! i'm not tho!

My friend (the one who had problems a while back and had to go to hospital) had a gorgeous baby boy whilst we were away, i went round on tuesday for a cuddle and stayed for 3 hours feeling extremely broody!!

Um no didn't do a test as AF came whilst away so just assumed that was that. I can't be PG surely? not with AF on CD26 as normal and no symptoms? (.)(.) have been hurting around AF for months now so nothing new there. I am sure the 'brown loss' was just old AF that hadn't come out, it was mixed with CM (sorry) so it prop looked more than it was.

I shall see what the scan shows, maybe that will give some answers??

jools tee hee at your hormones, i remember crying over Tom being attacked by jerry on a cartoon my friend had on, she looked at me with a brilliant expression of 'OMG weirdo'!

C1ndy haven't heard of the deanna plan so will have a look, i too (as many of the ladies on this thread) had a MC back in May, it was so upsetting and really threw me. It has taken me a while to get back on track but i am totally and ready for a positive month! (((hugs to you honey)))