First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!! Part 2

PPS my mum isn't usually an over-sharer, and i HAVE come to terms with the facts of life, honestly, but I think that's what happens if you don't have MN to vent on: there was 33 years of TTC stress bottled up in her and it just erupted in scary, detailed fashion...

I'm visiting my mum and dad for a few days too - Mum and I were having one of those frank mother/daughter chats on the way to Tesco, about me maybe starting a family, and I mentioned that I was taking my temperature every morning, thinking I was being oh-so-modern. Wasn't really expecting her to roll her eyes and say, 'Yes, your dad used to get reeeeeeally bored of me doing that first thing, and the charts, and then I got my tubes blown out and your father had his sperm tested and I had to go to the clinic immediately after we'd... you know... and check it was where it should be (?!), then I was about to start on Clomid and...'

At this point I was yelling 'lalalala' and literally taking my hands off the steering wheel so I could stuff my fingers in my ears at the thought of my dad taking a jam jar to the village clinic and/or running my mum there in the car in his boxer shorts (God...) - but I suppose it goes to show Nothing Changes, thirty years on, and at least we've got the internet to be supportive on!

PS bonifacio that's so cool about the a-levels - hope everything works out. I did English and Latin, and loved the Ancient History parts. Go Classics!

Hi bubbap i did indeed wave madly at you on Sunday night, although we were a bit fraught as my friend had been burgled whilst we were all away at the weekend, but i have to say that her neighbours and Cardiff Police were exceptionally helpful (and the Police officer was sooooo cute!!)

MAF i too PMSL about the egg whites, still is good to get a bit of practise in!!

Dawn i dont blame you (and am rather proud of you) for your positive outlook, they do say that you tend to get PG whilst you are focussing on other things so maybe the house move will kick start it....?

Bonifacio i too have mother issues, i love mine to bits but she too is overly critical, but she also gives a lot of love and good advice, good work on the A Levels, i dropped out of doing mine too and went to work instead, i dont regret it as i have a decent career but admire you for going back to it.

hi to flirty bsl vix and crunchy and big waves to everyone else!

SB x

Hello all,

MAF, PMSL about the egg white -

Flirty, apparently most people don't get symptoms until at least 6 weeks so you're alone there hun!!

Hey Vix, Bubba, B, Saz and Summerbird - how are you all today?! Sorry you had awful weather Summerbird!! Hever how are you feeling today, and you BSL?

Well I think I may have been OVing this week. I thought I might have been having Implantation cramps earlier in the week, but they only lasted a morning and since then I've had lots of EWCM so I think it might have been OV pains instead. We've BDd every other day (back to it tonight) so hopefully we'll be lucky. But unfortunately, my trapped nerve has decided to trap itself again so I'll be back onto the Ibuprofen tonight - .

It's really difficult to keep track after an MC as to what your body is doing. Now I understand why some people suggest waiting until you have an AF afterwards, but I didn't want to wait, I just wanted to get back to TTCing again.

So, from 1st September (yes, we set ourselves a start date), DH and I will be starting to look for our first house. We're aiming to be in by Xmas and since we're FTBs we should be able to get a really good deal. So really really pleased that good old Alastair Darling is looking to freeze Stamp duty - it'll save us soooo much money!!

So, gossip from you ladies please? Where's Crunchy today?!

xxx

PS: Apologies if I've missed anyone out...

Hi bubbap im feeling really nervous too about this weekend as its the end of my 2ww too!! Im feeling bit down tho cos am starting to get period like pains!!

Fingers crossed tho our AF's dont arrive!!

On a more positive note my free clearblue pregnancy test arrived today!!

xx

Hi girls

Welcome back to MAF, Bonifacio and summerbird!!

Summerbird - shame you had such awful weather in Wales!
Hope you remembered to wave to me on Sunday evening!

Are we all here at the moment, or is anyone away?!?! Feels like a bit of a reunion and catching up with all the news!

I'm fine, feeling a bit nervous about this weekend - the end of my 2WW... but it seems I'm not alone and we can all keep each other updated on MN!

ha ha ha Summer. Thanks for the tips although i have had some contact with baby juice many years ago although DP hasn't and is a little freaked out.

OMG Bon there is no way me and bio daddy could manage that, we'd look at each other and laugh.

Me and DP gave it a test run with egg whites last night after a bottle of wine! Oh dear what a mess! Was that TMI?

Summerbird I have been dying to ask how MAF, Mrs MAF, Mr MAF and Mr MAF were planning on conceiving, though I just assumed they would have sex, (sheltered shitty village upbringing so so sorry for my naivety) I know obviously about the turkey basting method however just assumed that sex would be the easiest option.

Flirty I have sent away to do a distance learning course, going to finally finish my A Levels as I left the UK mid way through mine. I am going to study English Lit and Ancient History. Both are subjects I am interested in and should be sufficient to get me into uni!

Ooh and my PG friend has found out today that she is expecting a boy!! How exciting I am so so

PS Summerbird babyjuice but mostly

LOL i was going to ask how you were going to do it MAF and indeed i imagined the turkey baster might feature at some point.

TMI ALERT

So MAF with that in mind i feel it is my duty as sistahood to give you some advice. Baby juice is icky yicky and downright messy! All i will say is be prepared to prop yer bum up on a cushion and when you have lay there for however long then give it a run to the loo - get your DP to have the loo door open so you can run for it as the left over stuff will - erhem - take you by surprise otherwise. You and your DP are sooo lucky not to have to deal with that all the time!!!

Sorry bout that girls - i just felt she ought to be prepared as the Girl Guides said........

Fingers crossed for you on your 2ww summer

Hey

Thank you all for your virtual toasts, fantastic frock wearing and boogie'in in honor of our big day. It really was all fab and cant believe its over. Will get some more pics as soon as we get them on disc.

Hows everyone doing today? We're off to dinner with our daddies to be (who ive posted a few pics of too!) Kinda scary that the next time we see them after tonight might be with yoghurt pot and turkey baster in hand

MAF just had a scoot at your pictures and you looked gorgeous girl! Glad you had a fab day - how was v festival? i was having a good drink and dance at your 'do' on thursday

flirty i would definitely recommend Bath for a mini break, the hotel we stayed in was fantastic too, our room was on the top floor and we had amazing views of Bath, when i get myself together i will post some pics.

BSL i had a go at surfing! well i say had a go - summerbird threw her fat ass onto a surfboard and lay on it and let the waves take me to shore - it was hysterical and good fun too. We went to the Kings Head both nights as you would expect and had some good food, the weather was horrendous but Hillend Campsite had really good facilities - oh and you are right about Eddy's breakfast - amazing!

On the 2WW now, should be due in about 10 days, i thought AF was due 31 Aug but as i OVd on Thurs it might come on Thurs 28th (honestly you could set your watches by my cycles), but hey what am i saying - hopefully the evil witch will keep away!!

Hi di hi ladies...how's trix?

MAF - Congratulations! Welcome to the Institution! Glad you had such fun...I loved my wedding too!

Hever - how you doing today?

Summerbird - welcome back! Sorry about the rain and lack of action...I can completely understand! Glad Bath was fun...have made a note of that for a mini-break!

Saz - I too had marked my diary with BD dates...you are not alone!

Bonifacio - hello, my sweet. Be calm with your mother...she is only with you for a short time. How's the quest for some intellectual stimulation going? Have you looked into courses yet? Keep me posted...

As for me...still not the glimmer of a symptom. But have made my booking in appointment with midwife (16 Sept), so wheels are slowly turning. GP surgery is proving to be as crap as I knew they were. Zero information. Had to call the hospital to ask about booking in...they were very helpful but felt awful having to disturb them.

Flirty x

Hey guys i am back from soggy wales! no BDing in the tent as the weather was so crap and it didnt feel right but our posh hotel in Bath was amazing.

And i come back to not one but TWO BFPs!!!! Congrats flirty and heverhoney (and hang on in there heverhoney - you are getting ahead of yourself and i am sure you are fine girl).

Please dont leave us girls until we are all there!! I would miss you!

Oops DH is back with my doughnuts so had better go - hi to everyone else - i missed you all xx

Thanks BSL!! I am getting obsessed about going to the loo every 2 seconds to check for any signs of AF, sorry TMI ha ha

Have a great day everyone xx

Morning all,

Welcome back MAF and congrats again! Hope you had a cracking day and enjoyed the honeymoon.

I know what you mean about TTC not being as much fun as I thought it would be!! After being so careful when I was on the pill, I thought it would be really easy once I started TTC. It's now turning into some sort of millitary operation and that can't be good...I've even got the 'planned BD days' marked in my dairy - how sad and obsessive am I?

B hope your week gets better and you enjoy your holidays next week

Morning everyone,

Hope you're all well this morning!! I am starting to get a few twinges in my tummy so have a bad feeling my AF is going to turn up!! She's due around Sunday!!

Aaaahhh I am so impatient just want to be PG RIGHT now and agree with you when you say it isn't as much fun as i thought it would be!! I am too busy thinking .... is this the right day, has it happened, have the swimmers reached my egg , now legs up for half an hour!!!!!!!

Oh well I will keep you all posted!!

Welcome back MAF glad you had a great wedding and honeymoon!! xx

Hey everyone! Wow I missed a lot!!

Flirty big congratulations! I'm so pleased for you!!

Hever hang in there, hopefully if you wait a while longer you will get a strong BFP!

Vix great news about the chlomid, glad your ovaries are working!!

BSL Keeping my fongers crossed for you!

Hello to everyone

My week is going soo slowly, my mum is here and driving me mad. Yesterday she actually said "I'll feel so sorry for your children when you have them your so impatient" I'm just so glad that when I do have children I won't be in the UK so she won't be able to visit all the time (I know its bad but its tre) she really is such a know it all. Constantly "me me me" I can't wait till the weekend when she leaves and I( go on holiday!! yey!!

Well AF has arrived (as I knew it would) and Mission Mooncup has comensed!! First things first, very easy to put in, more difficult to take out and position correctly but not impossible. PITA when out and about as you have to rinse before you re insert, so imagine in Manila public restrooms squatting over the toilet trying to rinse the damn thing with bottled water, twas not easy I tell you!! But other then that going ok!!

Anywho AF arrived, as we didn't have proper sex last month I knew it would, but steps have been taken, DP finally managed to have "proper" sex last week and we are both looking forward to "letting it happen" and enjoying our vacation next week!!

Not much else to say, its raining here has been all day, thank god!! It means we don't have to go out shopping AGAIN (I love shopping but every day and for bloody eooden buddahs and pigs and giraffes is just too much!) as my mum is scared it might flood and we would get washed away

At least she brought me some salad cream and marmite out!!

Thanks for all the support guys /i really needed it. Still dont feel very positive but no actual sign of Af yet - though knowing me that does not mean much.

WELCOME BACK MAF. I am glad you had a lovely day and honeymoon. We raised a toast to you and did a bit of virtual boogieing!!!

BLUESTAR - TTC is not nearly as much fun as I thought it would be. I thought I would just get into a little routine for a few months and it would just happen. I did not realise I would become a moodswinging obsessive!!! It is good to know that other people do it too though! We are not mad we just madley want a family!! And it sucks that people who dont want babies seem to do it so easily!!!

Hey MaF, welcome back - CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Your photos look fab - but we need more!! A good close up of you as a couple would be lovely (not just 'cos we're girlies and want to take a closer look at your dress... )!!

It's so lovely to have you back and I believe the sun shined for you didn't it? I remember it being quite nice on Thursday! I bet you got a bit wet at the V Festival though didn't you?!

Hey Hever, it's really difficult at this stage to keep your feet on the ground and chill out about things. But try to stay positive and give yourself a few days. I didn't test until DPO13 and my line was dark and came up quickly, but not as dark as the control line. So please try to chill out. All tests are different too, did you use the same kind each time?

BSL, hope you're feeling a bit better to. I think we can all be a bit more honest on this thread because we're all in the same boat. I do feel a little guilty moaning on the other thread when there are women on there who are on Cycle number 12 and haven't managed to get PG yet. But I do sometimes almost think it's harder right at the beginning, because like you said this morning, what more could you have done. It just doesn't make sense that it doesn't work when you're BDing every day. Then there are (apparently) 13 and 14 year olds that PG the first time they have sex (I'm not calling it BDing because it's not really for them...). It doesn't seem at all fair and it doesn't make sense. But all I can say is, when your body is ready, it will happen.

Hope everyone else is OK today!!!

xxx

Hey Ladies

Well we are back from our Honeymoon and what an amazing day we had and i'm loving married life Have put a few pics on profile.

Flirty OMG Thats brilliant

Hever and BSL just hold on in there until after AF is due. (Although god knows what i'm gonna be like next month)

Thanks Flirty keeping my fingers crossed!!

Hever really hoping it all stays good for you, please try and not stress yourself too much!! Keep us posted xx

Hever don't feel bad. Wait until after AF is due and test again (I know it's easier said than done) And you haven't let anyone down, don't think that

I totally understand the impatience tho

Flirty is giving good advice