Diege, I don't know how many times I've thought to myself 'right that's it, stop worrying' it helps for a while but then something else happens (or doesn't happen) and you get all worked up again. I don't think there is anything you can do about it, I suppose it is just a natural process after suffering a loss. There are two ways of looking at it, personally for me, this pregnancy has been much more of a worrying time than with the boys, but it is also much more appreciated and throughout all the worrying and what if's, there is a lot of thanks, and with each passing week the thanks just gets bigger and bigger.
Ses I know what you mean about the DH/P's being 'left out' of peoples thoughts. When I MC'ed my sister rang to see how I was about a week later, and spoke to DH first, he said then, apart from me asking how he was in that week, she was the first person to have asked him how he was. Probably because she'd been there and watched her DH 'left out' of it all. As it was, he was more upset and worried for me, like I said he had no attachment to the pregnancy.
I think he has been as worried as me about things going wrong this time as I have, but in that true 'manly' style it is always portrayed as him being worried about me.
Anyway, I have a DS2 to contend with now, I guess all the screaming means he has finished his breakfast! See you all in a bit xxx