Bonkers Anonymous...... The Summer of Love continued - and still no such thing as TMI

Hi CE,

I think I've been so convinced that it was going to happen, I'd already decided to be positive and try again as soon as we can.

So did you get PG again the month after the MC? Someone has said that it can be that you're most furtile after an MC and the Doc didn't seem at all worried about us trying sooner than AF as the MC was so early.

I'm so glad that you had a wonderful holiday. I don't know that we can afford a break away as we need to buy our first house before Xmas - and that'll be a mission in itself so with the stress of that I may find out that I'm 8 weeks PG and didn't even notice - wouldn't that be nice?!!

xx

Hi everyone - I'm back from Mallorca - did you miss me? (Course not!)

Firstly, I'm so sorry to hear your sad news Dawn. Truly gutted for you . I have to say, reading the posts after the event, you have been amazingly strong and positive. As others have said, it might hit your DP later on (it did for us) and he is probably trying to be strong for you at the moment. I hope you feel better soon and can get back on the wagon as it were - we'll all be here for you - it's still the summer of love after all. Just do whatever you need to do for a few weeks, maybe a little break away? When you want to try again I would say go for it! (look where that got me hey!). We were told to wait one AF but ignored it! I think if it helps your mental state to be actively trying then go for it. The waiting would have been awful we felt. Massive hugs for you babe xxxx

Glad to hear the other 'scares' seem to have been dealt with. Hope everyone is ok - you sound like you have been a busy lot!

Our holiday was just what we needed! Very relaxing, loads of lazing around and swimming. Food, hotel and weather just lovely! And we now have a nice tan for the summer! The wedding went well aswell - pics on profile! I almost got away with the not drinking, but my sister asked me outright the next day "Are you pregnant?". I was so shocked I just said yes! We told them we didn't want to tell anyone yet, so I hope they keep quiet! Everything is ok with me, pg wise. No symptoms to speak of as yet! Kept hydrated on hols and didn't lift any cases etc! I'm not feeling as anxious as I though I might be - I think DP is doing the worrying for both of us! (If I took longer than 2 mins in the toilet he was waiting worredly outside!) bless him awww

Hope I haven't missed anything else of vital importance, sorry if I did, but there were 13 pages to read through!!!

CE xx

Dawn

Onwards and upwards indeed

I am sure dh is upset in his own way...men are generally pretty rubbish at verbalising their feelings, esp when it's not something that is physically happening to him. Have a big drink together tonight and a proper chat

Fingers crossed for when you decide you are ready to start again x

Hi DaisyJ,

The Doc has just phoned back and confirmed that my hormone levels have dropped from 249 to 97 since Thursday so I'm definitely having an MC.

I asked him about trying again and he said that as I'm so early, I can try as soon as I'm emotionally over it because as the hormone levels are already so low, there's not going to be anything to worry about and I won't need a scan. I've put all my pregnancy books and things away now and thrown out the PG tests that I'd done.

Oh well, onwards and upwards I guess...

xx

Dawn, >. So so sorry .

Not sure how long the bleeding will last, as it seems everyone is different. For me it tailed off completely after 10 days, but I was 11 weeks, although bean was a lot smaller.

There are three good reasons that some GPs suggest waiting one AF - on is to ensure no 'products' left, so no chance of you getting an infection (although a rescan would also answer that), the second is for dating purposes for the next Pip, and the third (which I can vouch for, having BD'd without protection before first AF), is that it can freak you out a bit to not know whether you're waiting for first AF or BFP (but that is a personal thing, and you may not feel that way).

I think Mandy is right and your DH is feeling it more than you realise, and I'm sure that will show itself over the next few days. Thinking of you - make sure you look after yourself and take it easy - and take a few days off work if you need to.

xx

Thanks for all your wishes girls. I really do feel strangely calm TBH, but I think that the stress of the last week has almost been relieved now that I know the truth. Pains aren't too bad now and are being easily controlled by Paracetomol.

Just out of interest, does anyone know how long the MC actually lasts if it's such early days (barely 5 weeks....)? Is it like the length of a normal AF but just heavier?

Anyway, catch up with you all later on.

xxx

PS: HC, they didn't mention anything about having to have another scan, unless the pain gets much worse or the bleeding doesn't stop. So hopefully it will be straightforward (unlike the PG!) and I can move on quickly....

Dawn - I am so so sorry, hun!! I hope you're okay...stupid thing to say I know...but just want to say I'm here for you! I'm glad you're feeling positive about the future!

Dawn. Thinking of you. So unfair but glad to see you are able to look forwards. I'm sure the truth will hit DH in time and you'll be able to deal with this together. Sometimes men can't quite get their heads around bad things being real.

Wishing everyone else pleasant weekends. HOT weather here and I'm hiding indoors.

Dawn-you will probably need to go for another scan then as soon as you feel ready you can try again. We will be here for you all the way.

HC
x

Dawn - glad you are feeling a bit positive. So sorry for your situation, but we look forward to welcoming you back into the world of John Wayne soon...

Hi All,

Well, back from the hospital now. The doctor said that the blood test results that they had back from the lab after Thursday, showed that the levels of HCG hormone were extremely low, so it looks like the PG hadn't been going well for a while, so I guess my worries haven't been unfounded after all.

They took another one and are phoning with the result this afternoon, but since then I've had some small dark red clots in the blood, so I'm in no doubt anyway.

But strangely, already feeling positive about trying again. I've read that with an MC, you don't need to wait until your next AF until trying again, so as soon as I'm feeling better, we'll give it another go. Hopefully it'll be as easy as last time to conceive (although I'm not sure we'd be that lucky twice). DH is feeling optimistic saying that now my body knows what it needs to do, it'll be more prepared. I think he's more upset than he's letting on though...

So, hope you girls have a nice weekend and I'll be joining you again soon in John Wayne month. Glad I didn't sell my preseed....

xxx

Dawn - so so sorry for you! Huge cyber bear-hug from me too...
There must be something in the air...DH and I had a crap night together last night too. Won't bore with the details but it was horrible. Have sorted it with a long chat this morning. Nothing compared to the stress you are under though...I'm thinking of you..

Love Flirty xxx

HUGS {{{{{{dawn}}}}}}

Dawn, for you. Am sending another

Glad that you are still going to the hosp - it will help you move on and get ready to tr again if indeed it is the worst.

Men eh? Am also with mine after telling him this was prob my fertile wekend, he promptly fell asleep while I was getting ready for bed in the bathroom so no bding last night, grrrrr. If I didn't think there was still a chance I could get pg this month, there'd be no bd'ing for him for the next 6 weeks

Will be thinking of you this weekend Dawn, try and rest.

Hi HC,

Thanks for the hug, a virtual one from you is a lot more than I'm getting from DH at the moment, so it's much appreciated.

I just want it gone now so that I can start again... Hopefully the next one will be completely different.

xxx

Dawn-I'm really sorry to say that the cramps you describe do sound like a MC. I do hope I'm wrong. Your DH will probably deal with it the same way mine did-they don't understand as they are not carrying the baby so feel no loss or grief. I wish I could give you a real hug but send a virtual one anyway. {{hug}}

HC
x

Hi All,

Had a really awful night. Excruciating cramps started at about 7pm followed by bleeding at around 11pm. Fresh red blood. The pains carried on all through the night (I had an hours sleep) and are even more painful now, a lot more painful than normal AF pain and bleeding feels heavier.

I'm still going to the hospital, although probably in vain now, but I just want to check that it's not an EP because at least then I can try again and assume (rightly or wrongly) that there's no real problems other than, Pip just wasn't ready.

I'm absolutely devestated and feel totally alone as DH just gave the occasional grunt last night, while sleeping, when I told him that I was scared. This PG has been plagued with problems from the start and I just don't think he believes me that I'm losing the baby.

I've got to get ready for the hospital now so I'll come on line later.

xxx

soosy-welcome back and hope you enjoyed your break. We are going to the edge of Wales on the 16th so hoping for some sunshine.

Dawn-thinking of you today. Going out later but will check back after seeing Mammia Mia.

Bellie-I am a serial tester but haven't felt the need to seek help for it yet.

Woohoo, the Summer of Love has well and truly started in the HC household so round 3 tonight and round 4 in the morning. Surely it has got to work this time. AF is due just before my holiday.

Have a good weekend everyone. Is anyone close to testing?

HC
x

Nice to see you back Soosy! glad you had a good time despite the rain

We have been very chatty havn't we - some days I find it hard to keep up in a day let alone 12 days away! Have you moved yet too or is that still to come?

HC is still testing early and most of us are still trying to work out OPK's! - and we have decided that this is the summer of love - the John Wayne style (mandy coined the phrase!!).

Lots of BFP's and some scares but we seem to be back on track now! (fingers crossed today Dawn).

Stats for you

BONKING BONKERS
HumphreysCorner - TTC No3 CD10; Cycle 4
Belgianbun - TTC #2 (DD 2.8yrs), CD 9; Cycle 11 (I think - 7 months in anyway!)
Detoxdiva - TTC No2 CD10; Cycle 2
Bluestarlavendar - TTC #1 CD8 of cycle 2
Flirty - TTC No1 CD6; Cycle 2 (BD Fest commencing Today!)
Knax TTC No2, (mc July 08)

BONKERS' BABIES
ChocolateEclair 4 weeks EDD 1 April
Mandy73 6+5 (or thereabouts) EDD 22 March
DawnAS 5 (or thereabouts) EDD 1 April
Wellies - 8+6 EDD 5 March
Bellie - 14+2 EDD 29 Jan
Majormoo- 20+4 EDD 7th December
Myjobismum - 30+2 EDD 5 Oct
ceebee74 - 22 weeks EDD 26 Nov
Daisyj - 5+3 - EDD 28 March
Juanitad - 24 weeks EDD 17th Nov
Heartmum2Jamie: 26+5 EDD 29th Oct

Right off to London today - dh stayed there last night for work so we are going to meet him and go to the Diana memorial playground and Natural History Museum (dd loves dinosaurs!)

Have a good one!

xx

Oh my god I go away for a tiny 12 day holiday and I can't find you when I get back! Can we have a catch up as I am completely amazed by the amount of chatting! I hope there are plenty of BFP's.

Hope you are all well and enjoying the weather, (it did get quite wet in wales but we had a lovely time.

S x

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