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Would you choose to have a second child in a two bed apartment?

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Pavlovthecat · 09/07/2008 22:04

Not sure if this is the best topic to put this in.

DH and I live in a two bed apartment, it is an ok size but the second bedroom is quite small. We have a kitchen/diner so are able to eat at the table, have a large courtyard with enough space for slide, sandpit, plants and flowers and outdoor toys to be stored. We have a large loft space which is currently being used for storage but has light and telephone/internet point (can't find power but must be possible).

We have a DD just turned two, who is currently in the small second bedroom and has just about enough room for all her toys, in here and in the front room.

Our bedroom is a good size, DD slept in here with us until she was about 7-8months old, in her own cot, enough room for this and our things.

We have a lot of crap, tat which we are throwing out. You know the stuff, old clothes taking up room, old ornaments that we have not got around to chucking. Furniture that no longer really has a purpose but we have used it to store old paperwork that we have not been bothered to had time to sort out.

We had put our apartment on the market in order to buy a house. Part of this was to get a good garden for DD and to have more room for family to come and stay from USA, dining room to eat and spread out a bit. One large part of this decision was as we were considering another baby (for me in particular this was a main reason).

We have decided since, with interest in our apartment being slow, the credit crunch etc, to take it off the market for now as its just not the right thing for us. We have a deposit to put down and are going to pay off some of our mortgage with this, clear debts and get into a god financial position. When the time is right for us, we will make the move to a house.

Mostly, we are happy with this decision, its right for us, the apartment is big enough for us all, we would like bigger but can manage with what we have got, and we can afford to do things like go on holiday as we will have less mortgage and no debts, we can afford to live comfortably.

However, we both are considering another child. Not yet (for me, yes, for DH, he is thinking next year). DH assured me that the decision to stay would have no bearing on any decision about having another child. IE we would not chose not to have another child because we are in an apartment - I had told him my fear that staying here would mean the decision would be not to have a child, made for us, rather than it be because we decided it was not right for us.

However, it is worrying us both, could we manage? Would it put too much of a strain on a perfectly working small family unit in a small family home? Could we wait until we got a house, which could be another 3-4 years yet? Should we wait?

Its long, I am sorry, but I just wanted to get it out as its upsetting me. Mainly as I am feeling very broody!

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mazzystar · 09/07/2008 22:09

So in direct answer to your question - yes. I would get rid of the clutter and see what I could do about the loft and get on with it.

bethoo · 09/07/2008 22:08

i live in a two bed house and the little bedroom is small. my ds is 16 months and i am due in october. i plan to have the newborn in wiht me for at least 6 months due to bf.
it is not ideal but i ma sure that i will manage. the difference being of course that i rent so it is just a case of renting elsehere.
if you intend to get a larger house eventually i would not let that stand in your way of your desire to have a nother child.

mazzystar · 09/07/2008 22:07

Friends of mine managed very happily until very recently in a tiny second floor two bed, with two gallumphing children. Children [one of each] now nearly 8 and nearly 5, so they have sold up and are looking for somewhere with a third bedroom and outside space.

Pavlovthecat · 09/07/2008 22:07

I forgot what I was asking here

Which was, would you choose to have another child in a small place that would be cramped, if the space thing was not resolveable immediately?

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