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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!!

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DawnAS · 03/07/2008 09:28

Hi All,

This is a difficult time for most women (and men) I think.

Certainly for me, I've waited a long time to get to this stage , having not met Mr Right until the age of 31. Now 34 and got married 2 months ago and now want to complete the family!

So, just started "trying" for a baby and due to my impatient nature, have already started using Ovulation Kits. (Probably not a good idea). I also did the Female Fertility Test and that seemed to have a good result aswell.

I was on Dianette for 8 years and came off of it 3 years ago. My cycles became regular again but every 5 weeks instead of 4. I had previously come off of the pill for 6 months and my cycles were regular, so I guess all this is a good sign.

Anyone else had similar experiences and fallen pregnant quickly? I know everyone's different but any good news stories help move us all along!! .

xx

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fairywing · 04/07/2008 14:32

Hi, i've been lurking here for a while too researching things a little and scaring myself about child birth!! We are planning to start trying very soon for our first. I have endo and have just completed a 6 month course of zoladex 6 weeks ago in preperation for trying. Just waiting for my cycle to return now. Preparing myself for the worst to be honest but we won't know until we try. We only got married in October although we have been together for 10 yrs and i am getting really sick of people asking when we will have kids as if its the easiest thing in the world, when, as posts on here show, that isn't always the case.

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DawnAS · 04/07/2008 08:25

Thanks Yarnie although now I'm really confused... I guess everyone has different experiences....

Sounds like your periods may be like mine then. I don't feel so bad now. I never had bad ones either.

I've heard a lot of people talk about PCO (Polycystic Ovaries). Does anyone know what the REAL symptoms are. I think when you're TTC you imagine that every possible blocker to it in the world, you have.... Just want to rule it out.....

Crunchy your name's perfect for today because it's FRIDAY!!! Thank Crunchy for that!!

xxxx

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Yarnie · 04/07/2008 07:56

Crunchy My periods regulated pretty quickly after I came off DP. I think I got them at the usual intervals straight away, but they were exceedingly light and short to begin with. I've never got heavy periods anyway, but after about 3 months I got back to my usual 3 days of light bleeding.

Dawn and City, ov tests can be confusing. It's very easy to miss your LH surge if you only test once a day (and even if you test more than that). After using opks for a month or two I worked out that I pretty much didn't get a line at all unless I was very close to ovulating, so I didn't have to look out for the very dark line. If I got a line with any decent amount of colour in it, I knew I was ovulating on that day. It will be different for different people though.

City BDing every day is not usually detrimental to the ttc process unless your OH has sub-fertility issues. In fact the most common reason for failure to conceive is not BDing enough, so I'd be wary of limiting it. Men produce squillions (or thereabouts - LOL) of sperm each time they ejaculate, even if you BD the previous day, so you don't need to worry about giving him time to replenish. The sperm that are ejaculated were formed three months previously anyway.

citybranch · 03/07/2008 22:16

I do feel very lucky to have my DS..i've been reading the posts on here & it really brings it home how difficult it often is to conceive. My DS was conceived while I was in Egypt, and I had a dodgy tummy at the start f the hols, so my pills can't have worked! It seems crazy that it can happen like that sometimes.
I reckon that now I'm trying, it will take forever to get pg!

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DawnAS · 03/07/2008 22:05

Welcome citybranch,

I had the same problem with the Ov tests to be honest. 1st day very faint line, next day very dark line (but not as dark as test line), next day faint line and then the two days after that, no line at all... Very bizarre...

Lucky you to already have a DS. Only planning to have one, but who knows what might happen... We've got twins in our family (my Uncle and Auntie on my Dad's side) and no-one in our three families has had them yet, maybe it will be me!!

Well ladies, I'm off to watch "Gossip Girl" now and have an early night. I've been told today that doing BD every night is detrimental to the TTC process, so giving hubby the night off - .

Catch y'all tomorrow!!

xxx

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crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 22:04

Congratulations xx :-)

citybranch · 03/07/2008 21:59

Hi everyone,
I hope I can join your thread, i do have a DS (18 months) but he was an accident, so this time really is my first time TTC!

I came off microgynon 2 months ago. I got AF straight away, then a week, then AF again! Then 3 weeks before next AF so cycle is all over the place! I bought some ebay OPKs and I did get a line one day, a few days ago, but not as dark as the instructions said it should be, so not sure about OV. Hmm.

Anyway, just trying to enjoy the process of TTC at these early stages! It feels great to actually be planning my pregnancy this time!

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DawnAS · 03/07/2008 21:19

Hey ladies,

Welcome yarnie!!

Just taking a break from watching "Mammia Mia" The Abba Story (is that sad?!!).

My cycle tends to be fairly long, well has been since I came off the pill 3 months ago. It's about 35 days and currently I'm at about day 14. I'm doing the Ovulation tests but I'm a bit confused sometimes by the results. This is the first month that I've been doing them, but due to confusion with the tests, have probably been doing them too early...

Going to try them again in a couple of days. But "doing the deed" every other day, just in case. Apparently that's the best plan. Every other day, throughout your cycle...

But we'll see!!

Crunchynutter don't worry. And remember that people generally only write stories if they've had bad experiences - so they're no doubt in the minority.... If you've had really good experiences, you generally don't go onto a website and write about it. So keep your chin up!!

xxx

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crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 20:51

did you return to normal cycles quickly? i was hoping i would have signs by now!

I'v read some horrible stuff lately about it- they don't tell you that at the doctors lol

crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 20:50

I have no cycle lol- have just recently stopped dp injection and am still waiting for period to arrive :-\

Yarnie · 03/07/2008 20:50

I was on DP, too Crunchy, but I came off it a few years ago. I'm also hoping there are no long term side effects...

crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 20:47

I have no cycle lol- have just recently stopped dp injection and am still waiting for period to arrive :-\

Yarnie · 03/07/2008 20:45

Hello!

I'm a first timer, too. This is my second cycle ttc. I'm taking my temperature every morning and using opks, sometimes.

I'm usually as regular as clockwork, but this month I've not yet got the temperature rise which indicates that I have ovulated, which is odd.

I've got some info on my profile, but to keep it brief, I'm 29 and I live in London with my DF. We're getting married next year, but given that it can take a while to get pg, we thought we may as well get started.

Happy to see some newbies like me here

Where are you all in your cycles at the mo?

crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 20:37

definately! my hubbys away til tomorrow and im marking coursework so no fun tonight!

I was shocked by the miscarriages too- you dont think about those things do you.

Well it'll be lovely to have a baby buddy! speak to you soon xx

crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 20:35

definately! my hubbys away til tomorrow and im marking coursework so no fun tonight!

I was shocked by the miscarriages too- you dont think about those things do you.

Well it'll be lovely to have a baby buddy! speak to you soon xx

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DawnAS · 03/07/2008 20:32

Your poor sister - it's really scary isn't it?!

Plus, I do worry when I read some of the comments on here. You try so hard to become pregnant and then the worrying really starts! Miscarriages seem to be really common...

At least you've got youth on your side....

Anyway, off to watch TV now and relax. No fun for hubby tonight - been told to do it every other night so he'll have to wait until tomorrow now - ha ha!!

I'll be on line through tomorrow so catch up then!!

xx

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crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 20:10

oh god! my sis had to have an emergency cesarian- followed by blood transfusion, week in hospital and then 4 yrs of problems (thyroid but i think birth triggered it!) it's scary!

i did tell my self off about the cheese though lol. you don't know how much to do without becoming paranoid do you? I didnt know how much i could drink on my friends birthday the other week- what if you didnt know you were pregnant and caused any harm- its all very scary! Your right about it screwing your brain up! I thought you were supposed to be neurotic after the birth lol

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DawnAS · 03/07/2008 20:02

I am laughing out loud about your "parmesan cheese" moment!! Crazy lady !!

Although - I can't lie - I've been there!! My sister and her hubby own a lovely pub and we went there for dinner last Friday. But I didn't want to drink in case it caused problems with conception, we weren't even planning on doing it until the following night!!!! I think the thought of babies just screws your brain up!!

I have to admit, I wonder how many people tell you the horror stories BEFORE you get pregnant - most wait until there's no way back and then tell you!!

Being 34 with lots of friend's babies (and 1 nephew and 2 nieces), I've heard some pretty horrendous stories aswell... My friend went through 72 hours of labour, watched in part by 7 foreign student doctors and ended up having an epidural. When she finally delivered, they moved her to a ward on her own and put the baby so far away from her that she couldn't reach it, because she couldn't move. She laid there all night praying that he wouldn't wake up and kept her mobile phone with her... Bless.

Maybe I'll just book in now for a cesarean - !!

xx

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crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 19:49

Haha! To be honest i'm a bit of a wimp- I went straight to a link about childbirth to read the horror stories (I know- bad idea!) My mother and my sister both had really difficult births so i scare easily! I don't know anything about when to try though. I still need to know when i will ovulate as havent had that 'lovely' experience since i was 17 :-\

I do worry now though that it will take a while but it would have been wrong before. WE were very happy together but i wanted to make sure we both had secure jobs and a home before bringing a life into the world- now i want to hurry up and get it here lol typical (Oh- i desperately want twins too so excuse me if i refer to 'them' Positive thinking should do the trick!)

I did worry yesterday though incase i conceived straight away and the bloating and sore breasts are not just pmt- i was eating parmesan cheese and it said on the packet- not for pregnant women lol. obviously i convinced myself that is ridiculus though- it has only been 3 or 4 weeks!

We should definately keep in touch to share our experience though- u can let me know what i should be doing and i promise not to scare you with horrible birth stories!!

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DawnAS · 03/07/2008 19:39

You are so right crunchynutter. I do wonder how much all these "prevention" methods affect our chances... Was chatting to my Mum today and she was saying the same thing.

But I think you're doing the right thing. If I'd met Mr Right and married at your age, I'd be trying. You just never know do you....

My DH and I actually went out together about 10 years ago and then met up again, out of the blue, at a friend's wedding 3 years ago and now we're married - obviously meant to be!!

So have you looked into the "best time" to do it and all that? I only started using this site today and I've learnt so much already!!

Race you to pregnancy !!

xx

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crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 19:34

Congratulations on marriage by the way! I hope your both very happy together xx

crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 19:34

No, We've been together 7 years and married for nearly a yr and a half now but still quite young (im 23 hes 26) so we didnt feel there was much of a rush- to be honest we were qute happy with new jobs and our dog lol I guess we both just feel like our own 'family' is right at the moment- like it would make everything even more perfect- god that sounds a little dramatic! Things are good though and I know he'd be a fantastic dad. Just started to worry now were officially 'trying' (almost). You spend that long making sure you dont get pregnant it's a little odd actually wanting too isnt it? lol

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DawnAS · 03/07/2008 19:33

All,

OMG, I've just re-read my first message and I put that I came off of Dianette 3 years ago - I meant months!!!!

What a doughnut!!

xxxx

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DawnAS · 03/07/2008 19:04

Nope - our first.

I'm 34 though so a bit nervous about trying so late. Not by choice though... I didn't meet my husband until 3 years ago and got married three months ago so hence not trying until now.

What about you? Do you have any children?

xx

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crunchynutter · 03/07/2008 18:20

aww thanks Dawn- i feel like a bit of an intruder on here! lol not sure if i we are trying or not and all that! Have discussed names with my hubby a lot though!
I hope it goes well for you, do you have any others?

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