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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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First time TTC?!! Let's get through this together!!

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DawnAS · 03/07/2008 09:28

Hi All,

This is a difficult time for most women (and men) I think.

Certainly for me, I've waited a long time to get to this stage , having not met Mr Right until the age of 31. Now 34 and got married 2 months ago and now want to complete the family!

So, just started "trying" for a baby and due to my impatient nature, have already started using Ovulation Kits. (Probably not a good idea). I also did the Female Fertility Test and that seemed to have a good result aswell.

I was on Dianette for 8 years and came off of it 3 years ago. My cycles became regular again but every 5 weeks instead of 4. I had previously come off of the pill for 6 months and my cycles were regular, so I guess all this is a good sign.

Anyone else had similar experiences and fallen pregnant quickly? I know everyone's different but any good news stories help move us all along!! .

xx

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crunchynutter · 05/07/2008 21:43

By the way- have had a lovely day -but got no work done and have a deadline monday so im guessing tomorrow will be awful :-( Ahh well! was lovely today!

crunchynutter · 05/07/2008 21:42

Aww thats fab! it's lovely to hesr a postive experience- especially as you feel it has changed your life for the better! I will have to show this to my friend who is seriously considering one!

I'm sorry i can;t help about the sensitivity though I hope you find some answers somewhere!

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DawnAS · 05/07/2008 21:29

Well Crunchy, here I go with my "I know it all about boobjobs" speech!! (Although I don't...).

I knew that the side effects I have were a risk, I was told about it. I used to be a 34AA and very very self-conscious as, even though I'm 5ft 8, I'm a standard size 12 so with small boobs, felt really insecure and out of proportion. So, went to see a Consultant at the local private hospital and he agreed to do the op. I told him that I wanted them to look "natural" and not at all Katie-Pricey!!

Strangely enough, at the time I was in a houseshare with a girl who had just had hers done. They were fab!!

So, because my boobs were small and high - but pert, there wasn't enough loose skin around my boobs to do them the usual way, over the muscle, so they had to cut my muscle and put them underneath - ouch!!! .

My Mum tells me now, that I was in so much pain, but looking back (I suppose this is what they say about childbirth), because I was so pleased with the results and so happy, I don't remember the pain at all and would do it all again tomorrow!!

Some people have theirs done through the nipple, hence why more problems with breast-feeding. But because my scars are underneath, they don't damage the milk ducts or anything, so fingers crossed will be fine. A bit unsure about the feelings though because I might not be able to tell whether the baby's really feeding or not...

All I would say, is that if you really want to do any operation, get a really good Consultant and have a really thorough and frank discussion with them. Mine was brilliant - even sent me a bouquet of flowers to the house after I got home from hospital - bless!! Make sure you full understand all the risks and what the chances are of things going wrong.

But then if you still want to do it, go for it. I did and never looked back!!

xxx

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crunchynutter · 05/07/2008 21:15

Hi! dawn well done you! I really wanted my nose fixed not long ago but everyone was really against it (it's not that bad but i have a bump that i'm very conscious of even if others don't notice!)

I get very confused about the breats thing too- i have put a stone and a half on in the last 2and a half years but my boobs have grown- ive gone from a very small B to a very large DD- but they are still growing and my mother regularly asks if i'm pregnant because i'm not putting weight on anywhere elses anymore- its very perplexing!

I also worry about the 'sore boobs' issue. Mine have been painful all this week but the general concensus seems to be that it is an effect of PMT- i really don't know how people are supposed to tell the difference!

Have you spoken to your doctor about the op and side effects? do you know anybody else who has ever had one? i'm afraid i don't but i would like to know! I was under the impression that breast feeding isn't possible tho? I may have just watched too many interviews with Katie Price though haha xx

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DawnAS · 05/07/2008 17:52

Sorry Linwin, didn't use the stars properly!!

xx

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DawnAS · 05/07/2008 17:51

Hey ladies,

Hope you're all feeling Ok today. We went for an afternoon to the cinema and saw "The Chronicles of Narnia" - ate lots of sweets and popcorn aswell!!

Crunchy, you do make me laugh!!

Welcome "Linwin".

Fairywing so sorry about everything that you've been through. My sister's only just been diagnosed aswell but hopefully they've got all the nasties out... I know what you mean about the sex thing and I don't even have Endo as a reason, I generally just can't be bothered. So much for all the "Sex drive peaking at 30" stuff, maybe they just meant "For your 30th Birthday" and after that it drops down again !!

So, I've got another interesting one to throw into the mix.

Apparently, the first symptom of pregnancy for a lot of people is sore boobs. Well, I had a breast augmentation about 5 years ago (for the normal of us - boob job!! ) purely because I'd spent most of my life being the butt of all jokes!! And the only downside of that for me (not that I'd change my puppies for the world now!!) is that I have no feeling in them. It happens to a few people that have it done, unfortunately I'm one of them.

So, I'm looking forward to seeing what happens when I get PG. Will I feel them? What about when I try to breastfeed?!!!

Anyone any experience of that one?!!

xxxx

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crunchynutter · 05/07/2008 12:49

Oh and DAWN- that sounds a good idea lol lying to the doctor hmmm, maybe a little treatment may help my chances for my lovely twins lol then again knowing my luck i'd probably end up with 6! lol. I'm trying really hard not to get too worried- my hubby thinks a couple of months to return to normal cylces is 'normal' (I don't know who he's speaking too lol) but i really did think i'd have some signs after 3 weeks...

By the way... i fell asleep during the film, my hubby then woke me at the end and told me how brilliant it was and because i'm not very nice when i am sleepy we didn't get round to trying to make any babies- i just went back to sleep! I am useless!

crunchynutter · 05/07/2008 12:43

FAIRYWING- that sounds such an awful thing to have lived with. It must have been diffcult too with the doctors refusing to diagnose you earlier I hope you are recovering well after the operation though and i will keep everything crossed for you. I'm sure when your babies do arrive they will be loved more than anything. Thank you for the explanation, I am very naive (lol) i'm glad i can try to understand how difficult things have been for you though now!

lINWIN- Hello and welcome! we are all very new on here and are all having very different experiences which i think is lovely to help support each other! I was hoping to keep things very natural as it is very early days but i agree- the horror stories on other threads can be quite a worry. I honestly hadn't realised miscarriages were so common.

On a more positive note! Congratulations to your sister! I hope all her health problems are behind her and everything goes well for her and her baby :-)

Linwin · 05/07/2008 12:00

Hi everyone,

Lol, I also have been a "lurker" on this website for a few weeks now although we've just started TTC this week.
I have quite normal 5 week cycles but think we missed the ovulation boat by a couple of days - no harm trying anyway though!

I am 32 and been married for 2yrs so getting loads of questions about when we are going to have kids - people can be sooo rude!

Also been a bit concerned with all the miscarriage stories in other threads

On a positive note, my sister who hasn't practically had a period since she was 16 due to anorexia etc, has just found out shes 6 months pregnant!!!! So theres hope for everyone!

Fingers crossed for us all!

fairywing · 05/07/2008 09:22

Crunchy, endo is endometriosis. Its where bits of the lining of the womb 'escape' and attach themselved and grow on other organs, usually in the pelvic area, in my case on my bladder, which is fairly rare according to my consultant, it is also rare for it to be diagnosed this young, infact, they wouldn't diagnose me for a long time as i was thought to be simply too young to have it . Then those 'growths' become inflammed and painful around the time of my period, resulting in my case in an inflammed and angry bladder. Some of the adhesions can stick organs together too. Mine is fairly bad but not as bad as some people. Normally, for 2 weeks out of 4 i am in agony, literally. I have several different types of pain associated with it. There are normally 2 days a month - the first and second of my period - that i literally can't get myself out of bed with the pain. Then throughout the two weeks i get contraction like pain that can stop me in my tracks and take my breath away. Can be very embarassing on top of everything. I also get intense burning in my bladder before , after and during urinating. When i'm at work i have to go in the disabled loos so i can grab hold of the hand rail and try to muffle my screams . The good thing is i have not had to have a period every month for years now and the inbetween niggles arent to bad for me. I have been running the pill on for months at a time and had two courses of injections (including the most recent) that has put me into a false menopause for 6 months. This has the added benefit of 'tidying' the endo up so that surgery can be more effective. Unfortunately the last lot i had didn't work. I also worry what all of this is doing to my fertility. My endo didn't effect my ovaries when i was last operated on a few years ago which is good but its presence is still thought to have an effect on fertility wherever it is.

Phew sorry about the essay!!! I am very anxious about the idea of having periods every month again when they restart while we conceive and then there is the added complication of the fact that i can think of nothing worse than having sex when things are bad.

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DawnAS · 04/07/2008 22:28

6 months??!! If I'm not pregnant in 2 months I'm going off to Romania to buy a child!! . Only joking - ha ha!!

Seriously though, don't quite know yet how long I'm going to give it 'cos being 34 I don't want to wait too long. Might give until Xmas and then tell the GP that I've been trying for a year.. . Sneaky but needs must!!

Hope you're enjoying the film!!

Off to bed now so sweet dreams!!

xx

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crunchynutter · 04/07/2008 21:19

lol- you are funny. I'm trying not to get TOO worried just yet- i'll be in a blind panic in 6 months if theres still no signs though! At least were all in our early days makes it nice to have our own little newbie chat!

Hope you enjoy your ironing entertainment! we're going to put a film on!

xx

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DawnAS · 04/07/2008 20:48

Hmmm, I wonder if laptops affect fertility . Right now, I'm convinced that everything else does!!

Oh well, off to have a cuppa and watch DH doing the ironing - and this is before I'm PG, aren't I the lucky one?

BBS

xxx

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crunchynutter · 04/07/2008 19:59

oh please don't! I do my typing on a tiny laptop (literally on my lap!) whilst watching T.V! i make sooo many mistakes it's not funny!! lol

Definately get it checked, they say your most likely to conceive when your relaxed so anything to alleviate stress must be good! I'm sure it will be fine but fingers crossed for you anyway!

Thanks for the acronym list! i did look but can never remember them all, i really do have very little brain power of an evening
:-)

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DawnAS · 04/07/2008 19:47

Thanks anyway Crunchy, but unfortunately I've had these pains for a while... May get it checked out anyway, better to be safe than sorry I suppose.

So, did my OV test again today and think ov'ing in the next couple of days - lucky DH!! By the way, if you're confused by the acronyms(like I was), next to useful stuff at the top of the page, is an acronym list!

An English teacher??!! That's brilliant!! I'm going to be very careful how I write my messages now....

xxx

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crunchynutter · 04/07/2008 19:29

Oh god- don't start on names!! We can not agree- i think we have gone through every possible name in the world and just can't agree! I like your choices though- we have been worse agreeing on boys names to be honest.

I haven't experienced anything like that, i'm sorry. Maybe you have just pulled something? It sounds like you have had lots of baby making practise so maybe you just, got a bit carried away?? If we have a good week I get cramps in my hips! lol.

I must apologise for my awful spelling mistake in previous message too! (how embarrasing for an English teacher lol- having crap time at work though so my brain does not function when i get home! if that's an excuse!)

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DawnAS · 04/07/2008 17:58

Oh Crunchy, we can certainly dream!! We've already chosen names, but I think anyone that gets serious does that - even if they're not trying for kids.

Sadly DH and I are fans of "The OC" so have decided on Marissa (Missy for short) for a girl and Ryan for a boy. Would really want twins aswell but if we had a boy and a girl, would definitely need to change the names because Marissa and Ryan would be REALLY SAD!!

Anyway, onto more serious things. I have a question to ask everyone. You know that when you start thinking about children you start to imagine all the things that could be wrong with you... Well I've had this pain around my "pubic" area for quite some time now. But it's not so much cramps or anything like that, it's almost like muscle pain, like I've pulled a muscle or something, but it's on both sides....

Of course I'm imagining all sorts like Polycystic ovaries or twisted fallopian tubes... Drama queen that I am. Has anyone else experienced anything like that?

xxx

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crunchynutter · 04/07/2008 16:55

Congrats by the way! At least you know you are a fertile lady :-)

crunchynutter · 04/07/2008 16:55

thanks Dawn- i didn't realise it was all so complecated! I think i shall have to wait til my period finally arrives before i can worik anything out :-(

and it's not cheeky at all- I really have my heart set on twins, i would like a boy and a girl (have 3nephews and i'm very girly so want to buy pretty dresses!) We can dream can't we!

I think I would be scared at this point to take a fertility test... give it a month or so i think!

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DawnAS · 04/07/2008 16:38

Hey crunchy, how was your day?! I'm sooooo glad that it's Friday.

The OV tests are a kit, like the PG test that you can buy in the chemists. You basically work out the dates/days that you're due to ovulate and they can can tell you when the peak time is. They're the typical "peeonastick" ones!!

I actually bought some on line last week. Ordered them on Friday about this time from www.homehealth-uk.com along with a Female Fertility Test (yes I really am that paranoid ) and they arrived on the Saturday morning. Much cheaper aswell - i got 15 tests for £9.99. Usuall £9.99 for around 5 in the shops!!

The Female Fertility Test shows whether your levels of FSH hormone are too high, which shows reduced fertility. Luckily, mine was completely blank which shows little or no FSH, which is a good thing. Apparently, the older you are and the less fertile you are, more FSH is present...

Did the OV test again today and the line was much darker which makes me think that it could be the right time to do it, especially since I want a girl!!

Feels a bit cheeky to be fussy, but we can all be a bit cheeky sometimes!!

fairywing don't feel like a fraud, this is literally my first month of TTC (in fact just two weeks) so we're all frauds really... Once you get to month two, you're a pro - ha ha ha!!!

xxxx

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crunchynutter · 04/07/2008 16:17

I'm sorry to be the dumb one (again!) but what is endo? it sounds like you are being well looked after though if you have had discussions with both your husband and the doctor. just think- we can all meet up when we finally get our little ones :-)

fairywing · 04/07/2008 16:08

Thanks Dawn I'm only 25 so im hoping if i cant get pregnant naturally there will be things they can do to help. Dr has already mentioned IVF but i really don't want to think about all that at this stage.

I've felt like a bit of a fraud lurking for a while as i'm not pregnant or actually trying to conceive yet, so i was glad to see this thread

crunchynutter · 04/07/2008 16:01

Thanks by the way Yarnie- it's been about 3(maybe 4) weeks and i still have no period so was worrying a little. I suppose that isnt too long really it's just that I sort of had a feeling I would return to normal quite quickly- guess i thought cos im quite young or something! I'm sure it'll be soon enough!

crunchynutter · 04/07/2008 15:58

Hi, i'm back! Long day at work and i've come straight in to see if iv missed anything- how sad is that! lol.

I'm glad i'm not the only lurker Fairwing! I am trying to think positive thoughts Dawn- what are these ov test you are all talking about though? My hubby has just landed as he has been working away all week so i'm hoping we'll have a nice night! xx

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DawnAS · 04/07/2008 14:37

Hi fairywing and welcome,

I know exactly what you mean. I've only been married 3 months but since I'm 34, I've still been asked why I haven't got children.

I have to admit that I've always had some sick feeling in my stomach that I might have problems, no reason for it, a feeling. But as I'm only in the first month of trying, don't feel that I can run to the GP quite yet .

My sister's just been diagnosed with Endo, but she is young, only 22, so hopefully there will be plenty of time to help her along. They just performed an op and found a cist on one of her ovaries aswell, so they removed that at the same time.

I think some people refrain from telling you the really yucky stories about childbirth until you're PG and can't do anything about it - ....

I've got loads of good TTC advice from the ladies on various threads, so if I can help, I will although I'm still a definite novice!!

xxx

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