Is this amount of disappointment normal?

i always test before my period as I have had multiple chemicals so it’s really useful for fertility testing etc. I do remember being very worried first time around as I found out at 8DPO but don’t regret it

Edited as saw latest update, congratulations!

I remember feeling this way, it's the tracking that doesn't help as you hyper fixate on symptoms and then a bfn comes and it's frustrating and feels like your body's playing tricks on you. I actually ended up needing ivf due to my husband having a varicocele and that was far easier for me than the monthly agony of ttc and getting nowhere tweaking my lifestyle constantly and getting obsessive with tracking temps etc.

Try and relax if you can, obviously aim to have sex on ovulation window days etc but also if you can once you know you've hit that window and given it the best chance, try and distract. I doe loaded duolingo and learned French for a year as an avoidance technique to stop reading so much about conception! Of course if it takes a long time do get the usual tests done but you're in the early days.

Being stressed won't help. I fell pregnant really easily. But keeping them..

I think your test looks great for 10dpo, congratulations! I only tested a light positive 11dpo, all of my tests up to that were negative no hint of a line at all. Also all of my tests this time around were darker in the afternoon/evening, they were quite light in the mornings. I also tested with my GP and the line was barely there, but my HCG bloods from that same appointment were 750 and they did double it 48 hours so I wouldnt get overly concerned with tests (even though I totally drove myself insane testing every time) but if you could get HCG bloods done across 48/72 hours it is more reliable than trying to guess by line darkness.

I conceived my 2nd dc on the fourth month of trying and I was inconsolable before that!

Was coming to say I feel the same as you but I’m TTC no.2 for coming up 7 months after getting pregnant first cycle with my first but I can see you’re already pregnant.

congrats!

Have you done another test since @teasconesandlavender?

I can see it @teasconesandlavender 🥰

@teasconesandlavender good luck this time. My daughter started trying last December. She was 32 then. Got pregnant with twins in February but miscarried in march and it took 2 months for her period to return. She's still not pregnant again. It's awful for her especially as 7 of her very close friends are pregnant at the moment. She went to a clinic recently and had a host of infertility tests privately. She was fine but her husband's sperm are not quite right properly due to the fact he was recently admitted with sepsis!! She's trying to relax but it's very hard. Her husband had been doing shift work and that too interfered with their attempts. I have too much information but I'm a doctor so she confuses a lot.

She's 34 early next year.
Fingers crossed for you.

4 cycles isn’t that much OP. Despite reading a lot where people conceived first time, I don’t think that’s actually the norm… The NHS won’t usually offer help until you’ve been trying a year. We’d been trying 18 months before we went for fertility support and I then conceived 2nd cycle!

The best way to cover all your bases, is to have sex at least every other day. That way you won't miss an ovulation window, even if it does happen late or early. I know that's easier said than done. Life is busy, sometimes one or both of you isn't feeling it ect. Don't stress if you miss a day though and try not to make sex a chore. You really are in the early days still! It should just be fun and exciting for now.

Wishing you lots of luck!

Can you not just give up tracking and just keep a regular unprotected sex life? There's no need to completely give up.

People who conceive easily seem drawn to those threads. Maybe some kind of weird bragging rights that they feel they have. They're definitely inaccurately skewed towards those who get pregnant in the first couple of cycles, whatever the reason is.

I really think you're being a little dramatic for only being on your 4th cycle (not trying to be rude!) I just wouldn't be getting concerned to until much closer to a year.

I know people hate the advice to "just relax" but I think its appropriate for where you are at in your TTC journey. Just have lots of fun, unprotected sex for now :) and don't test until you're late on your period.

It took me a year or so to get pregnant both times (though I did have a miscarriage within that year of trying for my first). I was older. But also sometimes it takes time but does work out.

Honestly don’t give up hope. Lots of my friends were 8th-12th cycle. Some were 1st / 2nd. I got pregnant on my second cycle but had an early miscarriage and then nothing since. I know it’s hard seeing all of these people who fall pregnant immediately without trying though- I can’t even read those threads as I feel so resentful which isn’t a nice thing to say but that’s how I feel.

I’m doing private ivf as can’t wait for nhs. I have PCOS which adds to my issues as means I have long cycles.

TTC is soul destroying but please try not to lose hope at this stage. The odds are very much in your favour.

might be worth your partner having a sperm test and you having initial blood tests and amh testing. It will probably put your mind at rest that there’s nothing immediately wrong.

wishing you the best of luck.

I got pregnant in the one cycle I was certain I won’t. Turns out my ovulation tracking app was totally wrong and I didn’t ovulate when I thought I did. We weren’t careful or actively trying but took 7 months. I have low AMH, and generally irregular ovulation as I am at high risk if premature ovarian failure. That said all the basal temp tracking and positive ovulation tests I had a number of anovulatory cycles so just make sure you have sex every 2-3 days, rather than trying to predict ovulation and have sex around that - you may be totally off !

I’m 24 months in and no pregnancy so I’m concerned and seeking help.

i wouldn’t be remotely concerned at 3 months.

im sure the stats are that you have about 20% chance each month for a healthy couple.

We’ve clearly evolved that way for a reason

Honestly, I’d ditch all the fertility advice and ovulation testing and definitely stop pregnancy tests until/unless your period is late. You’re just winding yourself up.

Youre early 30s and have only been trying for 3 months. Have a lot of sex and relax.