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Anyone else longing to TTC but unable to try right now?

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HopefulLeopard · 07/08/2026 22:08

Hello,

Is anyone else absolutely desperate to ttc but can’t for any reason? It just feels like such a weird place to be with all the emotion of wanting to be pregnant but unable to even try and I was wondering if anyone else felt the same and would like a place to chat or just moan about the utter rubbishness of it. Each month feels like another month older and a wasted opportunity and it’s really getting me down.

Any and all reasons very welcome! My reason is some medical issues following a 20 week loss last year and there’s a lot of uncertainty around when they might resolve. Sorry if anyone does feel the same but it would be lovely to chat to people who understands and hopefully wait out our reasons together.

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RoseReid26 · 08/08/2026 19:08

jepeldae · 08/08/2026 18:42

@RoseReid26 gosh I am so sorry that's really hard.

I have a slightly similar situation. My DP is assexual and doesn't like or enjoy sex at all. We have had it maybe 3 times in our 11 year relationship. Luckily I am not overly bothered by this. But he is dreading the baby making intercourse while I'm pretty excited. So I hope he doesn't get cold feet and chicken out because I already feel I have been waiting too long!

Well best of luck to you. Got to love life's challenges. Hopefully will bring us closer

jepeldae · 08/08/2026 18:42

@RoseReid26 gosh I am so sorry that's really hard.

I have a slightly similar situation. My DP is assexual and doesn't like or enjoy sex at all. We have had it maybe 3 times in our 11 year relationship. Luckily I am not overly bothered by this. But he is dreading the baby making intercourse while I'm pretty excited. So I hope he doesn't get cold feet and chicken out because I already feel I have been waiting too long!

RoseReid26 · 08/08/2026 18:30

HopefulLeopard · 07/08/2026 22:08

Hello,

Is anyone else absolutely desperate to ttc but can’t for any reason? It just feels like such a weird place to be with all the emotion of wanting to be pregnant but unable to even try and I was wondering if anyone else felt the same and would like a place to chat or just moan about the utter rubbishness of it. Each month feels like another month older and a wasted opportunity and it’s really getting me down.

Any and all reasons very welcome! My reason is some medical issues following a 20 week loss last year and there’s a lot of uncertainty around when they might resolve. Sorry if anyone does feel the same but it would be lovely to chat to people who understands and hopefully wait out our reasons together.

Yes been TTC 8 months, partner has delayed/no ejaculation from being on paroxatene for 20 years. He's 37, I'm 32.

He's tapering off the meds and has some mild withdrawal symptoms. Honestly I am amazed he went to the doctor about it because he didn't even know about paroxetene causing this...

Hoping his labido will return to however his true baseline is. Can't help feeling a bit rubbish and selfish and frustrated. Mind you I do internalise these feelings well. He does have my full support but just keeping everything crossed that we will be having sex more than once of twice a month soon!!

clearlyy · 07/08/2026 23:08

Yes I feel you I’m so sorry for your loss.

three years ago I lost my baby at 10 weeks. I was seeing someone and he split up with me 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant. I’ve dated other people since then and been with DP a year but it’s not the right time. I desperately want the pregnancy I never got to have but it’s too soon, DP isn’t ready yet and tbh neither am I. But I’m 30 now and I wish I would have been married with a baby already but just couldn’t find someone who wanted that with me. It’s sad. It’s rubbish. I 100% feel you that it feels wasted but it’s not, just enjoy your time and it will come. I’m sorry it’s shit, I understand.

jepeldae · 07/08/2026 22:13

I'm so sorry about your 20 week loss thats so awful.

I am desperate to TTC to but DP won't do it until we're married. We have just bought a flat that is big enough to accommodate a baby so after we've renovated it it will just be this one tiny hurdle left.

The wedding is over a year away and I am just desperate and ready right now. I understand the reasoning. I am very excited for our wedding too and we would have to call it off if I had a baby, or we would have spent all that money for me to be pregnant and feel ugly. I just long to be able to TTC and have become a bit obsessed with baby name books, conception threads etc.

When do you think you will be able to TTC?