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Anyone TTC after a recent early loss and wanting support? (Aug 26)

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Springcloud26 · 31/07/2026 08:45

Hi, I thought I’d start a separate thread for anyone who is TTC after a recent early loss, so we can support each other through what can be a really difficult time. 💕

I’m 39 and TTC for my first. I conceived after around four cycles, but sadly had a missed miscarriage mid-July at around 9 weeks, (development had stopped at 6).

I stopped bleeding last Sunday and have started noticing some cervical mucus returning over the past few days, so I’m hoping my body is beginning to get back into its normal rhythm.

I’m still testing positive on pregnancy tests, so can’t use LH strips to track ovulation yet, so for now, my plan is to get back to some exercise, eating well and have sex every 2-3 days. I’m feeling positive and hopeful but also trying to take my mind off the waiting!

If anyone else is going through something similar and would like to share the journey and support each other x

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Springcloud26 · 06/08/2026 18:59

@Witchfoot @Happymama04 I’m trying to distract myself too! Reading lots and trying to get back into an exercise routine.

My goal is to do an exercise class, swim and run each week with walking on days inbetween to improve my fitness and hopefully improve my BMI. Hoping this will trick my mind into thinking TTC isn’t the primary goal! Not sure it will work though 😂

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Happymama04 · 06/08/2026 15:56

Thank you @Springcloud26 @Witchfoot 💜💜

@Witchfoot its so hard to focus on anything else isn’t it! I’ve been reading loads lately and trying to avoid/reduce social media as it’s only a matter of time before I find something triggering! I’m a teacher on summer holidays so lots of time to fill but finding walking, running and exercise classes really useful for my mind!

Witchfoot · 06/08/2026 15:07

So sorry to hear about your loss @Happymama04, that must have been so much to cope with. Baby dust to you too! ❤️

Anyone doing anything specific to try and stay positive/distract themselves along the way?

I'm really struggling to focus on other (non-baby-related) goals at the moment, even though I normally love my hobbies! It's made me realise how much headspace I've given over to TTC.

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Springcloud26 · 06/08/2026 14:40

Welcome @Happymama04 I’m so sorry for your loss and what you went through. 💐

Everyone here is so lovely and supportive, I’m finding it really helpful to have people to share with.

Good luck for your next cycle 💖

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Happymama04 · 06/08/2026 13:07

Hello, I’d like to join please 💜

Slgihtly different situation for me as I had a ruptured ectopic last month, but a loss all the same. I had surgery and lost a tube. I was told to wait one cycle before trying again and I think I’ve just ovulated (4 weeks post surgery) so hoping to get my period in a few weeks and then ready to try again.

Sending everyone lots of love and baby dust ✨

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Springcloud26 · 06/08/2026 07:52

I did another pregnancy test this morning, still showing a line but fainter than last week’s so I think slowly returning to normal. Fingers crossed in another week and it’ll be showing negative and I can get back to tracking lh.

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Springcloud26 · 06/08/2026 07:49

@FlyingHighFlyingLow Great news on DH’s results, one less thing to worry about but I know what you mean about there always being something!

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Pottingsheddays · 05/08/2026 18:59

@FlyingHighFlyingLow that’s great news on the test results! I’m sure too much sperm to conceive is very unlikely 😂but I definitely relate to the answer to each worry just creating a new one to focus on.

I’m still having good and bad days as well - finding the milestone dates hard. We’re past the 12 week scan appt date but have the day that should have been my 16 week midwife appt next week. Watching a lot of crap TV to take my mind off things - currently rewatching Off Campus 🙈

FlyingHighFlyingLow · 05/08/2026 18:27

@Springcloud26 100% on the hormones. One day I'm optimistic, happened 2nd cycle, will again etc etc. Next day I'll never have another and everyone in the world hates me!

DHs results came back well above average for motility, volume and concentration so thankfully we're now pretty sure there is no problem there. Which obviously made my super happy last night then upset this morning that that meant there was something wrong with me or that DH has too much sperm to conceive 🙈

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Springcloud26 · 05/08/2026 16:19

@Pottingsheddays yep it does seem really unfair 🙁 I’m also excited about ovulation strips!

@FlyingHighFlyingLow that must be a difficult situation to be in, I really hope it works out for you.

Does anyone else go through ups and downs with feeling positive and hopeful one day, and then a bit deflated another? Maybe it’s still my hormones settling (or work annoying me!) but I’m struggling today and just want to switch off with a book or watch crap tv; yesterday I was full of energy and got loads done!

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FlyingHighFlyingLow · 05/08/2026 13:55

Also feeling the loss of time here as well. As I do contract work there is only a period of about 6 months in my contract where I've been here long enough to get occupational maternity leave but have the baby soon enough to still be employed so I get the occupational maternity leave. We're on month 4 of 6.

After that we will have to make a decision of whether we can take the financial hit of keeping trying and then I'll be out of work looking for another job when I want to return rather than looking on maternity while technically employed.

Pottingsheddays · 05/08/2026 13:44

I really identify with the unfairness and loss of time as well. I know it’s an exaggeration but everyone around me seems to be pregnant at the moment (even my dentist and my PT) and I keep wondering why it didn’t work out for us. There’s also been talk at work of how much of my pregnant colleagues’ work I’ll pick up when they go on mat leave as there are so many going off towards the end of the year, which feels like a double whammy.

Never thought I’d be so excited just to start using ovulation strips again!

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Springcloud26 · 05/08/2026 11:41

@Kathi154 I’m so sorry AF arrived, I can understand how you feel, especially when people around you are having babies.

I know exactly what you mean about lost time too. When I found out I was pregnant we were so excited, discussing things etc and thinking ahead to our future and then when we discovered the MMC, it got taken away and I felt we were back to square one. I’m a planner and struggling with the loss of control! I also felt a bit silly for getting so excited?

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Witchfoot · 05/08/2026 11:37

Kathi154 · 05/08/2026 10:18

AF arrived for me this week so I’m starting cycle 4 after my MMC. My cycles went back to normal fairly quickly but are still slightly unpredictable (varying by 2-3 days when before the MMC I used to be super regular). I’ve been coping ok on the whole, but I think the sense of lost time is really difficult, I’m just so bloody frustrated that I’m back to square one with trying every month. That and I think a really basic sense of unfairness; I have at least 10 friends/colleagues/acquaintances having babies this year and that horrible voice in my head says “of course you’re the one that suffered a loss, it would be you”.

I totally empathise with this, @Kathi154.

It took us 8 cycles to get pregnant in the first place and being back at the beginning the better part of a year later feels so unfair (though I appreciate some people have to try for far longer).

The people in my life are popping out babies left, right and centre and it's so hard not to feel sad and jealous. I want to be a mum too 🙁

Kathi154 · 05/08/2026 10:18

AF arrived for me this week so I’m starting cycle 4 after my MMC. My cycles went back to normal fairly quickly but are still slightly unpredictable (varying by 2-3 days when before the MMC I used to be super regular). I’ve been coping ok on the whole, but I think the sense of lost time is really difficult, I’m just so bloody frustrated that I’m back to square one with trying every month. That and I think a really basic sense of unfairness; I have at least 10 friends/colleagues/acquaintances having babies this year and that horrible voice in my head says “of course you’re the one that suffered a loss, it would be you”.

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Springcloud26 · 05/08/2026 10:06

@Witchfoot Fingers crossed for you over the next few days, 9 DPO could still be early if implantation is later!

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Springcloud26 · 05/08/2026 09:21

@Berlin86 I’m glad you found this thread too! I know what you mean about it being lonely, I haven’t really told anyone as wanted to be able to share good news (and then maybe explain the journey). So having other people to talk to that understand is really supportive.

I also take coq10, I haven’t heard that about making cycles longer but coincidentally, I had started taking it 2 weeks before I conceived and that would have been one of my longer cycles with peak at CD22 . So maybe there is something in it? I stopped when I got pregnant but back on it now as I am also 39 and wanted to make sure I was doing something that could help egg quality.

I hope you start to see LH rising for you soon!

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Witchfoot · 05/08/2026 08:48

Springcloud26 · 05/08/2026 07:31

Hello @Witchfoot it’s really nice to hear from you, yes I thought I recognised your name! I hope you are doing okay.

Yep I’ve heard that you can be more fertile after too, I’m still waiting for a negative test and then can track LH again but in the meantime we’re covering every other day, just in case.

Will you test early or wait? Good luck for this cycle!

I did one this morning (BFN) so I doubt I'll manage to resist over the next few days either! Thanks for the luck ☺️

@Berlin86 Sorry to hear you've been feeling low. The waiting game is so hard, especially post-MC when you don't really know what timescales might be like. Rooting for you! ❤️

Berlin86 · 05/08/2026 08:27

I’m so glad to have found this. All this can feel incredibly lonely so thank you for starting this thread. I usually ovulate on CD 17 so I’ve been feeling a bit deflated with seeing these very low ovulation strips so late but I’m tracking before my first period. I’m 40 next month and want to start trying as soon as possible. I started taking coq10 and have read this can caused delayed ovulation, has anyone else found this?
I wish everyone all the best of luck. X

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Springcloud26 · 05/08/2026 07:31

Hello @Witchfoot it’s really nice to hear from you, yes I thought I recognised your name! I hope you are doing okay.

Yep I’ve heard that you can be more fertile after too, I’m still waiting for a negative test and then can track LH again but in the meantime we’re covering every other day, just in case.

Will you test early or wait? Good luck for this cycle!

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Springcloud26 · 05/08/2026 07:22

Hi @Berlin86 I’m sorry you have gone through it too.

Do you usually have longer cycles? The one cycle I tracked using LH strips I got my peak on the morning of CD 22, and it only started rising the day before. Fingers crossed for you this cycle

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Witchfoot · 04/08/2026 23:02

Hey @Springcloud26, I remember you from another thread! I left following my MC at 6 weeks, I'm so sorry you had a loss as well ❤️

I've since had a normal period and now I'm back in the dreaded TWW... I've also heard that you're supposed to be more fertile the few cycles following a MC but I wonder if that's just a thing people say to try and be positive!

Not feeling too hopeful this time around (I'm 8-9dpo and ominously crampy) but we'll see.

Wishing everybody luck ☺️

Berlin86 · 04/08/2026 22:09

I MC on the 14th June. I’m sorry for anyone that has gone through that experience. I knew something was wrong because I didn’t get morning sickness like I had with my other pregnancies.
TTC before period, I’ve been using ovulation strips and Oura. I started tracking from CD 9, currently on CD21 with very low LH (no 2nd line at all).

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Springcloud26 · 04/08/2026 21:49

Thanks @FlyingHighFlyingLow, fingers crossed for your results.

@Pottingsheddays I’m pleased your test is becoming faint and things are returning to normal! I’m going to try and hold off until the weekend to check again, it will be 3 weeks then.

It‘s a strange time not knowing what is happening, I never thought I’d be so excited to want to pee in a pot again!

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Pottingsheddays · 04/08/2026 20:34

I finally have some CM and pregnancy tests are really faint, so think things are hopefully getting back to normal. Not sure when to expect AF though - it’s been so long since I was looking forward to it arriving! So still feeling a bit in limbo.

Hope you get the results back quickly @FlyingHighFlyingLow - at least if all looks fine you can put it out of your mind.