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Trying naturally for a second baby at 41 after low AMH results

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newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 16:26

I am 41. I know. Old. I am trying for my second baby. We have been trying for 8 or 9 months. We saw a consultant yesterday and my AMH is 0.8. 6 follicles. He said he wouldn’t recommend IVF because the chances of retrieving a viable egg with such a low AMH reading is very low. He recommended to continue trying naturally. I’m gutted. Any success stories of getting pregnant naturally at 41 without dying from the stress and pressure of it? He recommended having sex twice a week rather than by the ovulation monitor readings and taking C10 co-enzyme 200mg, which I’ve bought. I just keep thinking I’ve missed the boat and it is hitting me so hard. I suffered a horrendous miscarriage before my daughter was born but this somehow feels worse. I have cried a lot today. Really struggling and feel so guilty my daughter is seeing this. I think it might be a depression, which I have suffered from before.

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newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 19:12

Beachbeach · 17/07/2026 19:07

If you really want another child would you consider a doner egg? I feel like that’s much more of a sure thing for you

The consultant did recommend that yesterday and it was the thing that made me cry. He said we could use my husband’s sperm and a donor egg “from a younger woman”. He said it in such a casual way, like he was ordering a coffee. I don’t know. It feels uncomfortable at the moment. I totally understand that for other people it is the right decision. Would it mean my daughter and her sibling are only half-siblings? It is so complicated.

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newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 19:08

theotherfossilsister · 17/07/2026 18:47

I’m 41 and had a horrible miscarriage in April just before my birthday, ironically we were preventing when we conceived that one but it made us both realise how much we what a second one. Cycle four of trying and it’s so hard. Solidarity, my son is almost same age as your daughter. Did you say she’s four? I definitely wouldn’t give up work for this unless you hate your job and want to find someone else

who did you see? Six follicles is ok.

@Spanglishmummy3 what are these make fertility sachets please?

My daughter is 3 in August. I had her at 38. I always knew I wanted 2, but my husband is so slow coming round to the idea. It is so hard. The hope and despair each month is agonising. My job is ok, really. Not perfect and stressful at times but probably not worth giving up as I think I’d become completely obsessed and drive myself mad with TTC. Do you take any supplements? I take the Seven Seas prenatal and the consultant recommended the co-enzyme C10 200mg yesterday so I took that today. It is agonising, isn’t it? Thank you for the solidarity 😊

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Beachbeach · 17/07/2026 19:07

If you really want another child would you consider a doner egg? I feel like that’s much more of a sure thing for you

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newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 19:03

IdaGlossop · 17/07/2026 18:33

Good 😊 Patterns of fertility often run down the female line. Do you have relations who had children in their 40s? It's also worth remembering that until two generations ago, many women carried on having babies into their 40s because contraception wasn't reliable.

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Yes, my mum had my sister at 40 and my brother at 43. Because of that, I had always assumed my fertility would be good at this point, which was why I was so surprised in my consultation with the IVF consultant this week that my AMH was so low and indicates such low ovarian reserve. I’m devastated to be honest and beginning to think my mum was just very lucky and offered a lot of false hope. The women in my father’s line had children relatively young. My mum has a bicoruate uterus, as did her mum, her sister and my sister inherited too. To my surprise, I have a normal shaped uterus, which makes me think that my inner workings and fertility may have been inherited from my father’s line. Do you know if that is possible? I’m so worried about it all.

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theotherfossilsister · 17/07/2026 18:47

I’m 41 and had a horrible miscarriage in April just before my birthday, ironically we were preventing when we conceived that one but it made us both realise how much we what a second one. Cycle four of trying and it’s so hard. Solidarity, my son is almost same age as your daughter. Did you say she’s four? I definitely wouldn’t give up work for this unless you hate your job and want to find someone else

who did you see? Six follicles is ok.

@Spanglishmummy3 what are these make fertility sachets please?

IdaGlossop · 17/07/2026 18:33

newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 18:20

Thank you so much. You’ve given me hope 😊

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Good 😊 Patterns of fertility often run down the female line. Do you have relations who had children in their 40s? It's also worth remembering that until two generations ago, many women carried on having babies into their 40s because contraception wasn't reliable.

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newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 18:20

IdaGlossop · 17/07/2026 18:10

Miscarriage at 40 after a few months of trying naturally. Pregnant again at 41, again naturally. Problem-free pregnancy. Wonderful, wonderful DD, now 23, my only child. Please keep going!

Thank you so much. You’ve given me hope 😊

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IdaGlossop · 17/07/2026 18:10

Miscarriage at 40 after a few months of trying naturally. Pregnant again at 41, again naturally. Problem-free pregnancy. Wonderful, wonderful DD, now 23, my only child. Please keep going!

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newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 18:05

Spanglishmummy3 · 17/07/2026 18:02

Im
44 and my LO is 2 this month ☺️ hubby took those male sachet thingys and I took all the vits etc I have a friend who took the pill that they give you when your trying before having IVF clometrazole? Something like that? Anyway, we would love another one but I’m realllly old! Sending all the baby dust ☺️🌻 good luck, you’ll get there x.

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Thank you so much! That’s really inspiring. I’ll look into those vitamins.

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Spanglishmummy3 · 17/07/2026 18:02

newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 17:57

Is there any other success stories? Drowning in despair here

Im
44 and my LO is 2 this month ☺️ hubby took those male sachet thingys and I took all the vits etc I have a friend who took the pill that they give you when your trying before having IVF clometrazole? Something like that? Anyway, we would love another one but I’m realllly old! Sending all the baby dust ☺️🌻 good luck, you’ll get there x.

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newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 17:57

Is there any other success stories? Drowning in despair here

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newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 16:41

I keep thinking should I give up my job so I’m not so stressed? But then my job is a useful distraction. I work 26 hours a week over 3 days. I have my daughter for the other two days. It means life is quite full on. Will I regret working if I can not have another baby? I’m sure work must have noticed I’m not good atm too, which is adding to it all.

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newmumcrazytired · 17/07/2026 16:35

Thank you so much. That’s really inspiring. I wish my brain could take on the ‘if it happens, it happens’ approach. I’m not very good at that.

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mondaytosunday · 17/07/2026 16:30

I guy pregnant naturally at 40 and 42 (giving birth at 41 and 43). We didn’t do anything special except have sex at least twice or three times week. Took about four months both times.
We took the attitude that if it happens it happens rather than charting or anything like that. Hope it happens for you soon.

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