I'm about to turn 39 in a few days and ttc. We've only just started ttc (this will be our first cycle actively trying). With my age, I know I may struggle to get pregnant, especially because I'm not the healthiest I've ever been in terms of weight (something I am actively attempting to sort, but really struggling with - I'm under weight management at the hospital). I don't smoke at all and don't drink just for info.
Now my BiL is getting married next June, super excited for him and his soon to be wife, absolutely adore both of them. My question, which may sound silly but I'm really stressing over it, is do you think me and my husband should hold off a few months with ttc so I don't end up clashing or having a few week old new born during their wedding? Or at my age should I just keep going and hope it doesn't clash?
The last thing I want to happen is going into labour around the same time or stealing the spotlight by turning up with a newborn to family we've not seen in ages. If I got pregnant straight away (unlikely), I would be due at the end of March which I'm ok with, but as the next few months come and we get closer to a potential June due date, I don't want to do that to them. We've also only just found out the wedding date which is mid-June.
What would you do? Am I being selfish to continue ttc over the next few months and should we just hold off and resume ttc around November/December? Or am I best to just continue because I can't risk wasting time at my age?
This is first baby for both of us, so we have zero reference for any issues we may have, I've never been pregnant so would want to find out any issues asap.