Conceiving without orgasm

I sincerely hope this isn’t a requirement because I definitely did not get the memo 😂 Conceived my DD without an orgasm and, as far as I’m aware, my cervix simply had to get on with the job without my assistance 🙈
Please don’t add “must orgasm at precisely the right moment” to the already frankly ridiculous TTC to-do list!
Sending you lots of luck after such a long road 🤞❤️

Personally I think you need to find a clinic and/or tests that’ll actually investigate the specific issues you’ve highlighted and go from there.

I struggled a lot to begin with and did lots of tracking. Then settled on every other day. Worked pretty quickly. Obvs all these stories are anecdotal! But if you’ve done allll the things you’re supposed to do, maybe stop tracking and just try to have fun every other day. I know it’s easier said than done, but maybe give yourself 2/3 months of just no dipping/ temping etc and then see what happens. It not, look into donor egg/sperm?

We conceived one other time naturally and twice via IVF. All ended in miscarriage. We were advised to try donor eggs but ultimately decided against it and while we’re not actively trying anymore (as in we don’t time sex) we have resigned ourselves to the fact we will remain childless now.

have you thought about abandoning all plans and just doing it when the fancy takes you? Surely all this planning is tiring and stressful which certainly can impact a body

Ive never heard of needing to orgasm before conceiving! Surely there would be a lot less babies if so.

Ignore the clap trap about orgasms. I mean that kindly. How would rape victims get pregnant and very young children if any of it were true

I don’t think anyone thinks it essential, but it also can’t hurt. Also, are people having sex without having an orgasm? Surely it’s part of the act?

Many women don’t orgasm during actual sex. They do with other methods though. And what the OP was asking was about the theory that during orgasm the cervix dips and helps the sperm move where it needs to go. So if you orgasm before your husband during foreplay (or even first during sex) then that theory wouldn’t work as the sperm isn’t there yet. But it isn’t really relevant anyway as orgasm is not required for conception.

I had cycles that could be anything from 17 days up to 41 days when trying to conceive so had no idea when was the "best time".

I read a pamphlet recommending the woman lie on her back with her legs up in the air afterwards. I tried it and was successful on the first attempt. A friend who'd also struggled to conceive her second baby tried it too and was successful.

I tried that as well for 3 years and was never successful.

I have read many times that one of the biggest difficulties in ttc (asides form any actual
medical or fertility problems) is not having sex often enough on a regular basis. You are much better off just relaxing and having sex as often as you can rather than getting hung up on dates and cycles which are stressing you out and making the whole thing a chore rather than an exciting and intimate time

I think you’re in the place where you’re questioning everything. Honestly this wouldn’t matter or not so please don’t think it’s your ‘fault’ if that makes sense? My advice would be to have a month off to relax the schedule, do it when you want to and if you want to, then the next month do it every other day. Ovulation tests never worked for me so we just did it every other day as that’s what the doctor advised was best (previously we were doing it every day which apparently doesn’t give you the best sperm). I never know which crazy theory worked for us in the end. Both times I conceived I tipped myself upside down for a while afterwards but I highly doubt that’s relevant, I just worried I’d blame myself if I didn’t try! Gosh we all do crazy things

No, that didn't work for me. I've always had a fairly regular cycle between 26-28 days but I seem to ovulate around day 8-10 based on when I've conceived meaning my luteal phase must be around 16-18 days. There's been a difference of 4-5 days between my due date based on my last period and the scan measurements both pregnancies. I've just googled it and a longer luteal phase can be an indicator of hormone imbalance which makes sense because I've since been diagnosed with endometriosis. If you're not trying to conceive earlier in your cycle and always waiting for your fertile window it's definitely worth giving it a go.

I didnt when I conceived my kids. Have you tried conceive plus lube? Tried 2 years for my eldest used that and fell pregnant first month using it.

We all know that abstinence is the surest way NOT to get pg. If you are only having sex a few times during one week each month, your chances of conception are seriously reduced, especially if you are worried about sperm/egg quality.

Most advice recommends DTD several times a week between periods, not just waiting until you think you might be ovulating. Bodies are all different and only having sex during a certain week really limits your chances.

I wasted 5 months having sex at the wrong time. The month we DTD earlier was the successful one. For DD2, I tested this theory and was first time lucky. (DH was a bit disappointed - he'd been looking forward to a 'long campaign')

If orgasms were required for conception, the planet would definitely be underpopulated.

We used that for a year, and nothing. Honestly, I’d leave it to the experts if you have been ttc for a long time and have been unsuccessful.

I never orgasm during sex. I have two children one conceived the second month of trying and one the first month after only trying 4 days during that month.

Afterwards just swivel round on your bum and put your legs up on the wall and lie flat on your back. Try and tilt your pelvis up a bit at times. I also used the conceive plus lube someone just mentioned. My eldest is nearly 4 and I remember this all so clearly, I wish you the very best of luck.

Sorry it didnt work for you.

Oh wow, I thought it was only that girl from Bridgerton who thought this!! Anyway, I got pregnant both times without orgasm. I had twins when I had unprotected sex earlier in my cycle than I thought I could get pregnant.